What type of man do you not want?

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My husband is not my soul mate. He's someone I've chosen to grow old with that happens to understand me and is able to put up with my s**t.

I dont know whether I believe in soul mates or not. I believe in compatibility, and in timing.

A soul mate just means someone you can connect with on a deeper level.

Poets have soulmates.

*dreamy sigh*

As long as the belief in soulmates doesn't also mean believing everything will magically work without having to focus on loving each other, compromising and communicating, it becomes just another affection term for a loved one.

Hell, when I think about it, I do believe in soul mates.

It is certainly very rare.

I've found someone with that kind of connection with me, and let me tell you it was not pleasant.

At all.

I think if someone is that clingy and makes you feel that uncomfortable, that would disqualify them as a soulmate. At least as far as the working definition of "soulmate" as I understand it. I'm guessing TeaEarlGreyHot wants someone who can respect boundaries, have a life, respect hers, be there and leave her alone. Her soulmate would have to be compatible with that and understand it with compassion, acceptance and love, right?

Perhaps that person wasnt her soulmate after all then.

Its funny but a few years ago I was shown a photo of a guy and I knew I was going to like him just from looking at the photo and sure enough... I think there are some people you will just find irresistible for whatever reason.

I love my husband dearly. He still takes my breath away. But I wouldn't call him my soulmate. It's too gushy of a term for me to use. The last time I used the term soulmate was when I was 10 years old and just knew I was going to marry Kirk Cameron. So, even though intelligent, sensible adults can apply the term in a way that makes sense, I've got a mental hurdle that prevents me from acknowledging that the term can be used maturely and sensibly. That's my problem. But I do still think it's a very romantic concept and should be embraced by poets and musicians.