21 Jun 2020, 9:50 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
21 Jun 2020, 10:15 pm
Chain wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Hi, mate.
I like your avatar, btw.
I like your avatar, btw.
Thanks Pepe
I find that I relate better with animals than people... If I had to choose an animal that I relate well with... it is a bear.Yeah,
Autistic people are known for their affinity with animals, more so than people.
I am one of them.
Animals are better than people.
Chain wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Yes,
You two aspies are unusually extroverted.
And I find this fascinating.
You two aspies are unusually extroverted.
And I find this fascinating.
Most people of my cognitive type (ECU) are never diagnosed because of this. We can pass relatively well but the same issues are all there. When I lived in Japan as a part of the JET program, there were teachers of Japanese descent. They had the highest rate of quitting, depression or even suicide. They pass visually but when they speak in halting Japanese, they were treated horribly by the Japanese. This is my experience... when someone finally realizes that I can't figure out what it is they are communicating, the result is devastating.
The Japanese are well known for this.
I usually have people telling me I am not autistic when I tell them I am.
It is quite annoying.
It implies they are consoling me because they see being autistic equates to being defective.
Being on the autistic spectrum usually equates to having a more difficult life, rather.
Pepe wrote:
The problem is:
You are open and honest.
"How Dare You".
You are open and honest.
"How Dare You".
Chain wrote:
I mean like who can keep up with all of the silences, half truths and fabrications in the world of NTs? I have no choice but to be honest and open, lol.
My choice is to avoid NTs like the coronavirus plague.
And I am serious here.
It isn't as though I dislike all NTs,
I am fed up with the misunderstandings and expectations.
I won't play there toxic social games.
I prefer to play my *own* toxic social games.
Chain wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Most single people don't want platonic relationships, based on my experience.
It gets in the way of their "Mate-Hunting" activities.
What can you do?
Most people are driven by their more instinctual functions.
Such is life. <shrug>
It gets in the way of their "Mate-Hunting" activities.
What can you do?
Most people are driven by their more instinctual functions.
Such is life. <shrug>
Unfortunately this happens with me with married women and I am married, gah!
My context was single people,
Not matters of infidelity.
Pepe wrote:
I agree with what you are saying, up to a point.
I believe LC would like an intimate partner who is also a friend.
I believe LC would like an intimate partner who is also a friend.
Chain wrote:
For someone like me, sleeping with a person is easy... friendship is really really hard. In order to make it work, friendship must be the goal. This is what gets me so twisted around... even IF I want to have sex with someone... friendship is the goal. I find it utterly confusing that people feign friendship to get sex. I have found that being in a relationship where there is no sexual pressure is absolutely liberating
I don't do intercourse.
I have *never* been into the rutting practice.
Masturbation is fine these days, since the chatholic church has stopped deeming it a sin.
I'm a hardcore atheist, btw.
I find women very attractive, but I am not interested in a significant other relationship and becoming a "Breeder".
Just because you have a penis doesn't mean you have to use it as evolution "intended".
Chain wrote:
I am married to my best friend... friendship first is the best.
I used to say this:
First my genitals get involved, then my heart... finally my brain arrives on the scene and says "What the hell are you two doing?"
I used to say this:
First my genitals get involved, then my heart... finally my brain arrives on the scene and says "What the hell are you two doing?"
Chain wrote:
I involved my brain first this time and I ended up with a wonderful partner! (a fellow aspie who is my cognitive type)
So, agreed... LC deserves an intimate friend and friends who do not pressure her into something she does not want.
She deserves mutuality and honesty, as do we all
So, agreed... LC deserves an intimate friend and friends who do not pressure her into something she does not want.
She deserves mutuality and honesty, as do we all
I think LC is a cutie,
If that isn't too politically incorrect to say.
I wish her all the best.
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21 Jun 2020, 10:43 pm
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
21 Jun 2020, 10:44 pm
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
33 is not old
21 Jun 2020, 11:59 pm
cyberdad wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
33 is not old
No, it isn't.
22 Jun 2020, 12:13 am
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
33 is not old
No, it isn't.
For a worthless loser working min wage retail it is. For someone needing a youthful relationship ,that only people on their 20s have, it is.
Most people my age own houses, own two cars, and have multiple kids.
22 Jun 2020, 12:45 am
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
33 is not old
No, it isn't.
For a worthless loser working min wage retail it is. For someone needing a youthful relationship ,that only people on their 20s have, it is.
Most people my age own houses, own two cars, and have multiple kids.
Do your parents own their own house?
22 Jun 2020, 12:50 am
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am in the same position of hurtloam I guess: giving up the whole thing.
Too old for the whole drama.
Too old for the whole drama.
At 37?
Hardly.
There are lots of divorced women who would be interested in trying again.
Don't sell yourself short, man.
THAT'S *my* job.
I’m 32/33 and it’s too late for me. Boos older but he’s also successful so I don’t think he’s too old.
33 is not old
No, it isn't.
For a worthless loser working min wage retail it is. For someone needing a youthful relationship ,that only people on their 20s have, it is.
Most people my age own houses, own two cars, and have multiple kids.
Do your parents own their own house?
Nope we split rent for the house we live in.
22 Jun 2020, 2:35 am
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22 Jun 2020, 2:46 am
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22 Jun 2020, 3:03 am
Chain wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Hi, mate.
I like your avatar, btw.
I like your avatar, btw.
Thanks Pepe
I find that I relate better with animals than people... If I had to choose an animal that I relate well with... it is a bear.A bear can relate with you well as well, as his dinner.
22 Jun 2020, 4:44 am
22 Jun 2020, 4:49 am
22 Jun 2020, 4:53 am
Chain wrote:
Hi LunaticCentruroides
I would imagine you are the "mix" like me (ASD + ADD/ADHD). We are the "drones" of the human race (according to my theory). Unlike many aspies, we are HIGHLY interactive with people.
I have had the same experience with women. Fortunately for me being a guy, most women are subtle... so I can generally ignore it until it all blows up (maybe not THAT fortunately). Don't get me started on the women who think I am way too into them! Evidently... "I flirt"... news to me.
It is truly a curse though because I want platonic female friends! I feel uncomfortable around most men. I remember hearing some guy complaining about being in the "friend zone" with women. I said... "that would be so awesome!". He gave me that uncomfortable look that means I said something wrong. I recently had another friendship with a woman fall apart (I thought she wanted to be friends but she reacted coldly when I told her I would never cheat on my wife)
I truly understand how you feel. My only advice would be to set up front boundaries and communicate clearly what you want (although NT people tell so many (white?) lies, they may not believe you). You may be able to find asexual men who want nothing to do with sex (although I had one woman friend who was asexual end up wanting to be sexual with me). I have one good lesbian friend
It is deeply unfulfilling to invest heart and trust in a person only to find out they have an agenda
I would imagine you are the "mix" like me (ASD + ADD/ADHD). We are the "drones" of the human race (according to my theory). Unlike many aspies, we are HIGHLY interactive with people.
I have had the same experience with women. Fortunately for me being a guy, most women are subtle... so I can generally ignore it until it all blows up (maybe not THAT fortunately). Don't get me started on the women who think I am way too into them! Evidently... "I flirt"... news to me.
It is truly a curse though because I want platonic female friends! I feel uncomfortable around most men. I remember hearing some guy complaining about being in the "friend zone" with women. I said... "that would be so awesome!". He gave me that uncomfortable look that means I said something wrong. I recently had another friendship with a woman fall apart (I thought she wanted to be friends but she reacted coldly when I told her I would never cheat on my wife)
I truly understand how you feel. My only advice would be to set up front boundaries and communicate clearly what you want (although NT people tell so many (white?) lies, they may not believe you). You may be able to find asexual men who want nothing to do with sex (although I had one woman friend who was asexual end up wanting to be sexual with me). I have one good lesbian friend
It is deeply unfulfilling to invest heart and trust in a person only to find out they have an agenda
Hahaha the "drones"
I love your post.
Very interesting to read such a thing from another person that happens to be a man..
And yes, I'm probably one of the highly interactive ones meanwhile(if comfortable) like you and maybe a bit flirty/charming? even if not intentionally..
I just feel like once you learned how to talk to people, it's comes out automatically and it starts to make fun, even if there are no specific emotions in the game.. And that's what NT's probably assume at that point 
The opposite gender reacting cold if they find out we have no deeper interests, is very hurtful and I know this very good as well. Even if they just do it to protect their own feelings, if it's reduced on sex I feel like they just had sh***y intentions.
"although NT people tell so many (white?) lies, they may not believe you" - TRUE
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22 Jun 2020, 5:42 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
Stop calling yourself a loser, Sly!
That's right,
Sly shouldn't torture himself.
That's *my* job.
I luv that Adam's Family joke.
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