Why do women care so much about a mans height?

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To be honest, I understand most people here have had a bloody raw deal with the cards of life. It's not bloody easy, it's grossly difficult to live day by day.

The point is, blaming people is not constructive. Don't even blame yourself, just try to take a bit of responsibility for yourself. Private therapists are a great idea, it's confidential and you don't end up making a sideshow on an internet message board.

The frustration comes from whenever someone tries to suggest something useful, they get shot down pretty quickly. "There's no xx in xx" "I can't xx" "I won't xx", and unless you live in an area which the face of boo describes, it's extremely hard to believe. It's like no-one wants to take some responsibility to try and improve it, they just want people to blame, which, in turn, will not help the situation, it will make it worse.

If you can't afford a therapist, try writing out all your frustrations and burning it. It might help. I do that from time to time. Friends blab, Family blabs, Workmates blab, internet people blab, and all four of these groups judge. Combustion never blabs and never judges.

I don't believe any of the people here complaining are weak people. Not even sly. If I did I would be saying "oh poor you, yes hate women, how dare they" which will only increase his mood temporarily, and over time it will just increase his anger and he will continue into a downward spiral. I just think they need to take that extra step to try and get past letting people who reject them destroy them. It's not easy. It's not fun. I am still battling with it, bi monthly self hate and suicide planning severe meltdowns etc, a lot of tears and depression. I also have borderline personality disorder, which means even the slightest negative emotion from people destroys me. But I have to help myself. You can do it. Noone else will do it for you.

I wonder about this too.
It seems everyone, not just women, consider taller = better. Why?
I once dated a dude who was bloody 6'5 and it was a nightmare. We looked ridiculous together - he looked mutantly ginormous and I looked tiny, just because of the discrepancy in our heights, where otherwise, only his height was unusual. Plus I drove a hatchback.
I think this is a sexist gender-role thing I'm not privy to.
And for the record, him being big didn't automatically equal a huge penis. It was average - that was one of the few upsides. If his penis had been as oversized as the rest of him, it wasn't coming near me.

I’m 1.98m (6’6”), and I find tall women attractive.

I was talking to this cute girl yesterday and she said she's attracted to my height

^ See, I just find that really weird.
As for short people, it's a catch 22 - anyone who is short and can handle themselves gets accused of "Napoleon Syndrome," as if they're deliberately compensating because they have a problem with their own height.
It's like everyone automatically assumes that anyone who is fat dislikes being fat and wants to be thin.
It's just incorrect. Some people are fine with being fat.
Some short people are fine with being short. Some tall people dislike being tall because it makes them stick out, or makes them awkward - some like it.
I don't get the whole thing. Who cares?

I think people assume short men are weak characters and can't handle themselves? Have you not noticed a large portion of women assume tall men can "kick ass" and handle themselves even if they are spindly?


The female need for tall men has its origins in intra-male conflict and dominance struggles.

Someone here who returned recently had always accused me of being Napoleon Syndrome (*wink* you know who you are).

I stick by my point that I think the average height of 5'9 range for white males has increased here in the UK. I'm 177.6cm (5'10) out of bed, falling to 176.5cm (5'9 1/2) by night, but at least 65% of guys at college were taller than me. And that was 20 years ago or more. I was 175cm (5'9 flat) at age 21. I was called short quite a lot.

Yet here in my middle stage of life, without a doubt I am in the 30% with about 70% of the white guys under 45 I come across are taller. I have never seen anywhere like it except in Scandinavia, Holland, Germany and some other European countries I have visited. In Italy I felt average.

I think guys around my height (5'8 > 5'10) or slightly less should try Cowboy Boots. They might help you a bit to feel better than wearing flats.

Paul Hogan (Crocodile Dundee) was about 5'8.5 and pulled off the cowboy boots and lean ripped build well. Certainly carried himself well.