Why do you think a relationship will make you happy?

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What are MOOS?

My college's dorms are segregated by gender and the opposite sex is only allowed in during certain times of day. There's even less of a chance than I'd already have. And you said you've been single for more than a year. That's nothing to me. I've been single my entire life. How long do most people go without a partner?

Depends on the person and whether or not they engage in no-strings-attached sex or not.

Isn't there somewhere on campus (or off) that people go to socialise rather than in the dorms? Clubs or something.

Ok well if I go to college I won't go to college in Missouri.

Not many clubs here are active. Most people either seem to keep to themselves or go elsewhere and party since it's a dry campus. I don't know how they find partners.

I went to SUNY. Most undergrad dorms were segregated by wing. In my second year, I upgraded to the senior/grad dorm. 1 student to a room and the rooms alternated m/f with assigned bathrooms and showers at opposite ends. On rare occasions I'd be headed to the shower while in my bathrobe and meet a similarly-dressed girl walking the other way.

Oh, and nobody thought that was weird.

Officially everyone had their own rooms and roommates. But if you and your gf wanted to shack up and have sex every night all year long, especially if you had the room all to yourself, nobody would stop you.

In Mississippi, on the other hand, if the university system started openly allowing that, parents would riot in the streets. We had a narrow window in which to check in/out of MOOS dorms using our student ID. They would come to the room looking for you if you were late. If you were caught sneaking in, you could be arrested for trespassing.

It's interesting how different things are regionally. In the Bible Belt where I'm from, we still have more conservative rules in place and yet there's no shortage of promiscuity among college kids. Up north there are more relaxed rules, yet the kids seem to be more interested in keeping up with studies than bed hopping.

In either case, as long as you are in the dorms you have a greater risk of getting arrested, your pot stash confiscated by cops who really just want to smoke free weed. Apartments in college towns are more often your typical cesspits of rampnt sin and deeeeeeeegradation.

I would love to live in an apartment in a college town!

I live in an apartment about a kilometre from a university campus yet my building is full of yuppie bachelors and young families. Maybe I'm not close encough.

I literally work in a college. Probably be frowned upon if I dated the students lol.

College, like in University---or college, like in a technical school?

I work in a university library part-time.

It's a University College.

Since were on the topic, what are Australian universities like Sabreclaw?

What's your uni story been?

Is it just me or do NTs meet their SOs naturally? How do they even do that? It doesn't work like that for me.

I'm at my uncle's birthday. All my cousins brought their SOs. All my cousins are younger than me, some by just a few months and some by more than a decade. They met their SOs without even using a dating site.

It makes me feel like I've failed. It makes me feel unimportant. It makes me just want to disappear.

They're talking about their latest holidays now. They can afford to travel frequently. I can't. I hate my family because they're always more successful than me. Successful in love, career, education, investments, everything.

Except for my parents of course. They're paupers. Growing up poor in a rich family was a strange experience. First I envied my cousins' parents for buying them better stuff but later I realised the advice and guidance they got from their successful parents was worth far more than money. I got no advice from my crazy dad and my mum who was zoned out on antidepressants. They didn't raise me. I was by a very cheap TV set.

Even if I met some girl tomorrow I'd still be the oldest in the family to find their partner by a significant margin. Why even bother?

Yes, family conventions can be real burdening for most of us, everyone else seems to have a partner with them in there and you end up the odd one out and you just wish you could escape to your solitude away from all these happy people whose lives seem so much better than yours.. Having a girlfriend would definitely make me feel more welcome and belonging to these situations for sure.

I just want to go back to my apartment and get away from them. But then I'll feel like I'm wasting my weekend.

It's not an exciting story. I did maths, made no friends, and flunked. The idea of meeting someone special in a maths course is laughable since the ratio of women to men is extremely skewed, and the structure of the units pretty much takes socializing out of the question unless you really push it.

I'm taking time off Uni now to focus on repairing my mental and physical health.