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09 Aug 2013, 10:37 pm

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Our ladies do seem to take the "Asian menace" more personally than the gents do the preference that many ladies have for Black gents.
As far as I can tell, the problem is that certain male posters in this thread are idealizing Asian women as ultra-feminine at the expense of other races of women, and frankly that idealization is making me uncomfortable too. It's one thing to find Asian women subjectively more attractive, and that's fine with me, but putting down other types of women the way these posters are doing is offensive both to non-Asian women and the men who like them. As a white guy who likes African women more, I don't particularly enjoy reading about how Asian women are supposedly more feminine or otherwise better than all other women, implicitly including the women I personally fancy.

I really can vouch for only one Asian woman; but if she's typical of her culture, then I can see why other men would be attracted to Asian women.


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09 Aug 2013, 10:50 pm

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But saying black people are more masculine and asians are more feminine is utter BS.
My mother is a full breasted, wide hipped, slim waisted, long legged, full lipped, big eyed black woman. Nothing more masculine about that.


Yeah good point. Those are feminine characteristics in woman. Like notice asian cartoons with the women with big eyes, which they don't have. Also African men usually have big lips and eyes which could be described as feminine, also big hips and butt maybe....?(don't know on this though) Where as white and asian men may have a more of a V shape that is described as masculine. Not sure on this though it really depends on the person.
But yeah it really is like comparing apples with oranges.

Another thing is Africa is very diverse. Like there are lots of different types of races and tribes within it. Like for example African pygmies are really small.

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Black women are also not at all going for asian men alot. Do you have a lot of black female friends, because I have never heard of such things.
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I'm just going off that states in the graph ArrantPariah put up. If you look at black women 2.5% have asian husbands. Where as Asian men don't have 0% black wives. Doesn't make sense.


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09 Aug 2013, 11:59 pm

OK so I date outside my race, don't like it? Oh well deal it, you can cry me a river, your hatefule opinions wont change jack s**t! I love who I love and yes maybe I will make mixed babies! I bet it pisses you of,f good! Because theres nothing you can do about it but whine or cry about it, it doesnt change anything!, we are all human!


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10 Aug 2013, 5:22 am

-edit :D

I also find it ridiculous that the comment section on the Cheerios commercial got shut down
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYofm5d5Xdw[/youtube]



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10 Aug 2013, 7:56 am

^ rofl that video has a black guy and a white woman.



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10 Aug 2013, 7:57 am

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When I was a university, I was friends with a fat, tomboyish Japanese girls who at the time was looking for a Western man because she found Japanese men on the whole, too uptight. Despite being Asian, it did take her a while to find a boyfriend because not only did she fit none of stereotypes of Asian women, but she also wanted a proper, equal relationship. She did find one in the end, though. She is a lovely person and as cute as hell. In a way she was lucky to have her appearance as acting as a 'filter' from the men who might stereotype her along gender and racial grounds.


Written like a Feminist fable.

In many Asian households, the wife typically assumes control of the home and the money. The husband turns over his paycheck, and may get a small allowance for his miscellaneous expenses.

A proper, equal relationship with a White Englishman, rather than an uptight Japanese. Perhaps some Asian chicks and some White men entertain somewhat fantasized notions of each other. Which, of course, is an important component of the coupling process.

Maybe being housekeeper isn't all it's cracked up to be? It's nice to earn your own money and be independent even if that means that you over all have less money.


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10 Aug 2013, 8:41 am

All this talk about feminism makes me confused. Can a guy be straight, feminine, and attract all the dominate females somehow? Are you bi puddingmouse? How does no one here seem to act like showing off never works anymore? Why is shy now a curse, and once a choice? How does being bold sound when all it is you are doing is going outside? How does this effect the women who find vulnerability in a guy attractive? Why does it matte? The world may never know.....


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10 Aug 2013, 9:22 am

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I'm just going off that states in the graph ArrantPariah put up. If you look at black women 2.5% have asian husbands. Where as Asian men don't have 0% black wives. Doesn't make sense.


That's a good point. And here I thought that you could trust any graph that popped up from a Google search.



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10 Aug 2013, 9:46 am

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Maybe being housekeeper isn't all it's cracked up to be? It's nice to earn your own money and be independent even if that means that you over all have less money.


In other parts of Asia, households where the wife holds a job outside the house would typically hire a Filipina maid.

http://www.asianewsnet.net/news-33861.html

In the USA, practically no-one hires a maid. But, we often have a lot of machines in the house (dishwashers, washing machines, dryers, etc.) to minimize the wife's burden.



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10 Aug 2013, 10:41 am

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OK so I date outside my race, don't like it? Oh well deal it, you can cry me a river, your hatefule opinions wont change jack sh**! I love who I love and yes maybe I will make mixed babies! I bet it pisses you of,f good! Because theres nothing you can do about it but whine or cry about it, it doesnt change anything!, we are all human!



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10 Aug 2013, 11:16 am

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OK so I date outside my race, don't like it? Oh well deal it, you can cry me a river, your hatefule opinions wont change jack sh**! I love who I love and yes maybe I will make mixed babies! I bet it pisses you of,f good! Because theres nothing you can do about it but whine or cry about it, it doesnt change anything!, we are all human!



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10 Aug 2013, 1:09 pm

Well, I may have to recant, and doff my hat to the Feminists. PuddingMouse seems to have a point.

http://www.csmonitor.com/2004/1206/p01s04-woap.html

But, if you look at the bottom of the article, marriages between Japanese women and non-Japanese men are relatively rare.

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....Mr. Right, as the hope goes, is often an American or European, a man appreciative of a wife's career and more of a partner in daily tasks.

"They treat you like equals, and they don't hesitate to express mutual feelings of respect - I think Western men are more adept [at such things] than Japanese men," says the 36-year-old Ms. Mizuguchi, who works at a top trading firm. "They don't act like women are maids - I think they view women as individuals."....


Well, if that's indeed what they think, we'll take it. No need to hunt for contradictory evidence. 8)

After all, there is a familiar aphorism

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Heaven is an American salary, a Chinese cook, an English house, and a Japanese wife. Hell is defined as having a Chinese salary, an English cook, a Japanese house, and an American wife.



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10 Aug 2013, 1:24 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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OK so I date outside my race, don't like it? Oh well deal it, you can cry me a river, your hatefule opinions wont change jack sh**! I love who I love and yes maybe I will make mixed babies! I bet it pisses you of,f good! Because theres nothing you can do about it but whine or cry about it, it doesnt change anything!, we are all human!



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10 Aug 2013, 3:27 pm

Heaven for me, is were God lives.
But heaven on earth would be: A wife who shares mutual love both intense and comforting, a Japanese house, a Salary that I can raise kids on, and a polish/german cook.


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10 Aug 2013, 3:51 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
OK so I date outside my race, don't like it? Oh well deal it, you can cry me a river, your hatefule opinions wont change jack sh**! I love who I love and yes maybe I will make mixed babies! I bet it pisses you of,f good! Because theres nothing you can do about it but whine or cry about it, it doesnt change anything!, we are all human!



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All this time I thought you were related to grumpy cat... her sister or something

I mean it looks just like every drawing of tardar and you had it before she was famous so I figured...



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10 Aug 2013, 3:56 pm

Cum to think of it, I've never encountered a man who had a Japanese wife and who was even mildly dissatisfied with her, or with pretty much anything in life, for that matter.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JyJ10Am2oLY[/youtube]

There must be something about Japanese wives that increases oxytocin levels. Most men with Japanese wives seem to be in a perpetually good mood.