Who are the Self Proclaimed Nice Guys here?

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10 Mar 2014, 8:41 am

babybird wrote:

I wonder where Januaryman is these days?

He always seems like a nice chap.

I'm busy making women's lives a nuisance by creeping on them and victimizing myself as the good guy. Am i doing this right?

Jokes aside i don't know why this topic really bothers anyone any more. If a girl is gonna date you it's not based on how you see yourself or Boo's list, but how she sees you. After all, what good is being a "nice guy" if everyone thinks you're a dick LOL

I could think of a few names for Boos list if i really waned to stir the pot but considering i have fallen under the nice guy label at times itd be rich coming from me

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10 Mar 2014, 6:20 pm

So, huggybear (aka s-qwerty) introduced me to the genius of this

"Men are the worst thing that ever happen to women" Louis CK lol!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJsSMT0GEiY[/youtube]

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11 Mar 2014, 6:02 am

I know there is a lot of valid relational information mentioned, but overall it reminds me of both overthinking and over simplifying the issue. It also creates a false sense (in my opinion) that you can accurately predict people by constructing catagories and assigning them to one, based on minimal information.

If you meet someone that interests you, get to know them a bit. If it looks good to you then, get to know them a lot. In other words, each person requires investigation. 'You can't tell a book by it's cover'.

[Catagorizing/Stereotyping is not only a AS phenomenom, but establishing or preferring rigid rules is a known tendency of autism. For example, a autistic relative of mine had a bad experience with a asian person. Afterwards, they assumed all asians were bad. The same person had a bad experience with a random person in Buffalo, New York. They then decided that all people in Buffalo were unfriendly. Using 'Nice' as a predictor makes about as much sense to me.]

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12 Mar 2014, 9:06 pm

So updated list

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13 Mar 2014, 3:32 pm

babybird wrote:

Did someone mention a group hug?

((((HUGS ALL ROUND))))

I know I could do with one.

I hug Baby Bird!

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13 Mar 2014, 5:02 pm

I read through nine pages, then stopped. Saw some interesting comments, did type a reply in here, but decided it was better off as a blog entry. It involves Christianity, the book of Job, and I try and make it about forgiveness and love and the nice guy thing. Point of what I am trying to say is in the bottom two paragraphs which I will post in this thread:

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Moral of what I am trying to say: There are some people in this world that will treat you like crap and it wont be your fault as to why they do it. People like to tempt us and we all know this. People like to get you to do things that are not in your best interest, but may be in theirs. As soon as they got what they want, you are gone and treated as if you were a nobody and never existed. Despite this, some of the people that manipulate us and treat us like crap say they are doing it because they "love us." I have a far better understanding of love recently, and that kind of love may be self-centred, but sure shows me that I am not loved.
But you do have the choice to forgive people for slighting you, or being bitter and resentful and angry. I, like Job, got sick when I chose the route of anger and resentment and found myself making poor judgment calls.

Also remember that people choose to forgive on their terms and that you shouldn't necessarily be begging forgiveness.

Read in full here if you would like to

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15 Mar 2014, 7:10 pm

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I don't know about that, Kurgan. I've met quite a few nice guys (who were REALLY not nice) offline. I'm not, of course, talking about a statistically significant sample here, but I am talking about more than thirty guys who clearly fit that criteria.

And this doesn't even touch the volume of self-described nice dudes who do not-nice things whose posts I've read at one point or the other. In my experience, they're quite common.

Yes, quite common.

Being bitter & resentful, but hiding it behind a veneer of friendliness just to get in a woman's pants is the opposite of nice.

A real nice guy can be many types,from cool and confident to shy and nerdy. But the moment a guy starts insulting women are because they don't give him what he wants, he does not belong to that category anymore.

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15 Mar 2014, 10:22 pm

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15 Mar 2014, 10:31 pm

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15 Mar 2014, 10:37 pm

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17 Mar 2014, 12:35 pm

Here is the false assumption, that some may make:

Manipulating people can use 'being nice' as a tool of manipulation.

All people who act nicely are therefore manipulating.

Nonsense with good potential to skew your relationships badly. Niceness is not only a characteristic of male sexual drive. People are nice for a variety of reasons both good and bad. And people that treat you well is a positive factor and something to look for in general. You just have to keep your guard up and also assess sincerity.

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18 Mar 2014, 1:32 pm

This thread makes me smile........ I love how it quickly devolved into a 10 page argument as to whether women choosing not to sleep with men they aren't interested in causes killing sprees. I already covered that in this thread:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt243804.html

thing is, mine was a "Godwin's law" joke......... This one was serious.

I'm also pretty sure Boo is undiagnosable. He'll have to get his own category. :wink:

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18 Mar 2014, 2:01 pm

^^

Haha! Great thread, Geeko. I also read the HuffPo link in there - someone here also very recently proposed the same idea that the article reported on, and equally seriously. Now wondering if that's just a coincidence.......

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