90% of Aspies can't get a date?

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You make it sound like God is a sadistic kid who can make or break your life.

Heres what I suggest:

Instead of just looking for a girlfriend everywhere, put yourself out there. Join a club, take up a hobby, etc. Meet people through those. Maybe you will meet a guy who knows a girl, etc. Instead of looking for just this one thing, maybe you will have better luck going more abstract routes.

I have tryed that, many times. Same stuff happens with me.

I have a huge resentment with God. I do feel God is a sadist. Not just because of this, but look at my post here:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts115340-start15.html

Have you ever considered the possibility that maybe there simply is no God?!?

Nope, God is pure evil. This is something I feel very stronly about, many people have tryed to get me to see God differently. I will never change my feelings unless God personally tells me why He did things. Don't waste your time.

Well true for me, I couldn't get a guy in real life. I had to do it through online. And I'm female.

When I was in my 20s I thought the same thing. The same stuff happened all through my 30s. I'm 41 now and after all my work on myself, trying to read social skills and learning body languge I can't last more then a couple of dates and I still get friend zoned.


because of my experence working on myself and pretty much always failing at a healthy sig other relationship, I have come to this conclusion:

God does not want me to have anyone special in my life. God gave me AS so people will think I'm strange and "just something about you" so that I will be miserable.


Thats why God made people with AS so that he can laugh at us and have a group of people he can screw with and watch kill themselves.

I understand your sentiment. And believe me : it could be worse..... I tend to be ultra-conservative on geopolitical issues, mildly conservative to ultra-liberal on moral issues and semi-collectivist on economic issues. My spiritual views are a mixture of traditional Eastern philosophy (mostly Vedanta Hinduism), traditional Western philosophy (mostly German 19th century and early 20th century philosophers) and pantheist shamanism. I stronlgy object to movements like multiculturalism and feminism but I strongly support the legalisation of both soft drugs like marihuana and hard drugs like LSD, DMT or XTC for therapeutic and/or shamanic purposes.

This makes me and my views highly controversial almost everywhere I go and I've been called anything from Nazi or racist to Communist or hippie.

but as for me - i am extremely far right on ALL issuse - to me there is NO middle ground - it is only 1 way OR the other in other words.

How many agree that 90% can't get a date because they hardly get outside the door, and when they do, they mostly travel their own beaten paths.
I'm an example of that. The opportunity to meet someone new comes so seldom that I suffer from malpractise.

It's also pretty hard to focus on love when you're struggling with amassing willpower to finish old failed university courses.

When I'm out of school and on a job, I'll start looking again and not care how much a fool I'll make of myself. At least I tell myself so, but the clock is ticking. To have a life on your own has to be more important than a date, right? I think so.

well that girl is just an ***hole then. but even if a girl is willing to be just friends, that can still help you alot in the longrun i assume

I'm 27(turning 28 in February)and never had a girlfriend.I don't agree that 90% of aspies don't get a date.Us individuals with AS find it hard to know the cues if a person is interested in us.I can tell one thing of men who never dated:they get ridiculed by their male peers!When a woman whose never had a girlfriend,they get sympathy and compassion.I do have female acquaintances to set me up on a date with their female friends,but their too selfish!The best way is on your own,be courageous and talk to the ladies.Or men with AS can go online dating.

but NOT if you are in the market to be MORE than friends. i have been banished to the friend zone, and each time i count the number of times i just cry until my face turns red just from crying

date online - i would much prefer to shoot myself right in my balls then in the head because i tried that - not a single woman would message me back or even give me the time of day.

While I may have a history of rejection, I am not overly discouraged. Strangely enough, after the first time I awkwardly "asked a girl "out"" all fear of it went away. Maybe that was a bad thing, I was rejected allot lol. But I was also complemented, even by girls, who wish "they had the courage I did". I see it as happy go lucky apathy with lowest results expected so I am not disappointed but hey, whatever works!

Do other Aspies really struggle with the asking the female part so much? The rejection thing is on them, but asking is on you if your interested.

As for online dating sites: It's a funny thing. I have thought about it. I have a free profile on one I made and then never went back to so I consider that not to count at this point. I kind of am against it. For one, since the male:female ration is so hi (10:1 or higher in some places, eeks) females can be much more picky then in real life. Two, I consider the type of people on these sites and don't want a part of it. Sure, there are some gems on both sides but in general the girls seem to be stuck up and picky and the guys are mostly, not all and I really don't like this term but, losers.

Then again my uncle met his current GF online on a dating site, and my other uncle met his wife on a web forum. They are NT though if that matters.

Maybe I am just an odd person since if I was put in a social situation involving girls I would most likely be fine with it. I don't seem to share any of the anxiety that other people my age, aspie or NT seem to share.

Although I will say when I do really like a girl (in the past) I get abit nervous. It has never stopped me though.

many nt females turn me way the he11 off because all they care about is:
1) how much $ the guy makes in a year
2) his possessitions
3) how long his member is - they should not care about how long/fat it is - they should really care about the man it is connected to.

to me - all of the above is just plain shallow and is a royally big turn off to me.

I am really starting to think that God does not want me to find someone and marry and be happy. I have pretty much failed at this all my life. This is the one thing I have wanted more then anything, to find someone to spend my life with. I consider myself a huge failure if this does not happen. Everyone else I know has found someone to be with. I would give everything else I have worked for up if I could find someone.

But no matter how hard I try, God makes me fail at it, mainly due to my AS.