Hale_Bopp's "tear apart my okcupid profile" thread

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I'll put mine in here too:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/SwirlingSand

Q: Which is most important to you in determining attractiveness?
A: Chest/Breasts

I'm often surprised at the things people will publicly admit to on that site.

Good profile. I'd just recommend trying to get a better quality pic of your face and put that as your main pic.



Don't change a thing.

Okay, maybe this sentence:

-Some those who know me say, expressing myself; one of my best friends in high school said I should be a “professional explainer”

Because you say you are good at expressing yourself, but the sentence structure there isn't great.

for me there are a LOT of deal breaker questions, this was one where I would have immediately hit the HIDE button, I am 100% against the death penalty and so - yeah no! (and the thing is - I have answered almost 4000 questions and taken about 60 tests

not that this matters for me I am female and you are straight - but there must be men who think the same way



and this ^^^ is why I have mine set so straight people can't even look at mine, to avoid men who are like this, even though I am lesbian, guys who are like this still try to message me on sites

and I guess to be fair give mine a try people

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?window=edit_basic_info

What's your point?

The point of having those questions is to filter out people who are a bad match. They actually improve your compatibility with people. I don't want to date people with grossly different opnions to mine, it would never work.

THIS was the point - you wanted someone to be dead for something, so yeah filtering out by certain questions, and some are easygoing and some are an instant I quit this profile examination.

Hahaha yeah... it definitely gets a little ridiculous. Oh well, at least you know people are being honest I guess.

I often change which one is the main pic. I don't really have any flattering pics of my face, and that's one of the best, unfortunately... :/ So I figured the ice climbing one was kind of cool.

Thanks for the advice!

Did you actually look at my questions? I don't want "someone to be dead", I have no problems with the death penalty if the person is proven pedo or convicted self proclaimed sadist who tortures people and animals or something. If you don't like it, whatever, but don't assume people should change their questions because they don't fit everyone.

I didn't ask your opinion on whether you would date me or not.

you did state this thread was supposed to be general and not just about you, I was actually addressing the person and subject matter in general I quoted

note the original post I made, when I address the OP I specifically say so in any forum, otherwise I am addressing the subject of the thread. Standard forum etiquette - use a search engine to find the term and customs

Hey, if you don't want to hear the honest answer, don't ask the question! And apparently somebody asked.

Actually, I think it could be a perfectly reasonable response, depending on the context. The other possible answers probably give some context.

Which is most important to you in determining attractiveness?
Chest/Breasts
Butt/Legs
Face/Smile
Other

"Dude, my face is up here...oh, you were just trying to confirm how attractive I am? Okay, carry on!"

Good profile. No red flags. Moderate amount of information in there, without TMI. The one thing that might help you is some small personal touch that helps you to stand out from the pack a little: something quirky, maybe, but not scary.

Stay in school ;p
you're looking for a fairly rare type of person, and while even the average university student won't work for you, your odds are still waaay better on campus than off. Also, the type of person you're looking for probably isn't going to be out looking for you (or anyone else), so you'll have to be a little proactive.

I’ve given up 100% on women that have dating site profiles.

It is one of the most pointless endeavors I’ve ever attempted in my entire life. Women barely, if EVER, respond even when the emails are unique and clearly show that you’re an intelligent person and you’re actually interested in getting to know her as a person.

I don’t bother anymore with dating sites, because the conclusion I’ve come to is women just want validation from these sites and they want to feel “desired” by getting a million messages from god knows how many different guys….while having no intention of actually meeting someone.

It's a numbers game. Don't go into online dating expecting that it will be like going down to the local Home Depot and picking out the one tool you need from hundreds of available ones.

It's more like going to a thrift store in hopes of finding your favorite brand of blue jeans, in your size, in great condition, marked down to $2. You might have to go to a helluva lot of thrift stores to find exactly what you're looking for.

I agree with the thing about well thought out messages. They are a complete waste of time. If you think about it a long message is actually demanding and anxiety inducing. In my experience only "easy" messages get responded to at all.

I remember this one girl who I had been talking to and we had a convo with hundreds of messages, but when I asked her out she said "wait I need more information." No you don't, thats what the date is for damnit! A lot of the girls on there are too neurotic to date.

idk. Part of the problem is my own underdeveloped social skills and anxiety. I'm now realizing why I f****d up with the one girl I really liked, as I chat with someone who has picked up on my aspieness and is actually pushing me to out of my comfort zone, in a good way.

Then again, I dont have as many problems as some people do so I have a biased perspective and I understand for some people it is very hard.

What Eureka13 said.

I mean, can you go into a bar and successfully chat up most of the single women in there? No? Then why should you be able to on a dating site?