No friends, but constantly having guys "wanting" me

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Yep. While I was married.

Marriage is not a jail sentence.

One of my closest friends is a woman, our friendship goes back over 3 decades and she has been diagnosed with AS as an adult too. Along the years, sometimes she was single, sometimes I was, sometimes it overlapped. A really good friend is someone who is going to help you when you're down and stand by you, I can't even imagine being such an a-hole to ditch her just because she happened to be single when I got married, no wonder some people can't make and keep good, loyal friends (not directed at cyberdad, others often claim here that you're supposed to cut off your single opposite-sex friends when you're in a relationship ).

I've never understood this kind of logic . Since you're married yourself why would it make any difference if she is or not?


One of my closest friends is a woman, our friendship goes back over 3 decades and she has been diagnosed with AS as an adult too. Along the years, sometimes she was single, sometimes I was, sometimes it overlapped. A really good friend is someone who is going to help you when you're down and stand by you, I can't even imagine being such an a-hole to ditch her just because she happened to be single when I got married, no wonder some people can't make and keep good, loyal friends (not directed at cyberdad, others often claim here that you're supposed to cut off your single opposite-sex friends when you're in a relationship )




It's ok, Sharon, this is not necessarily the norm. I've gotten very good at "compartmentalising" such things, it's called being professional, and what with HR breathing down people's necks, others had to take a crash course in it too

We're sexual beings, but that's not all there is to us and anybody can learn to control their sexual impulses and how they react. It's also useful, as one can miss out on great opportunities otherwise, both personally and professionally.

Truth be told its just cognitive dissonance. I'm not talking about suppressing sexual urges (as I told Kraftie most of us can handle that easily), its about things that happen that you don't realise at the time but something is just not right. It tends to happen with younger girls in the workplace (even those who are married or have B/F).

Read some of QFTs posts on WP. He also had the same experience working with younger girls in a university like me.

But my experience is my experience, I'm not saying you can't be friends with anyone you want. It's what makes you comfortable.

If your looking for long-lasting friendships, Miss LC, perhaps I can help you with that?

What kinds of things are you interested in?

Just Thought I'd ask because finding people with similar common interests is an easier way to find friends. I know this sounds pretty corny, but it's true.

You will probably have to settle for a long-distance relationship if she is interested.
I have the impression she is a "Jet Setter".



I believe LC was in Paris yesterday.
Who knows where she is today.

Have you tried dressing like a man? I mean pants, no jewelry, no cleavage showing, cut your hair like a boy.. try to make yourself less attractive to men. This might help them not be as quickly attracted to you. It's just natural for men to be attracted to a nice, talkative woman who is interested in being close to them as a friend, but romantic and sexual relationships often first start with that friendly closeness, and that overlap is irresistible to men to engage in wishful thinking or to imagine a sexual relationship in the future. You cannot be open, talkative and nice to men!! ! They find you attractive because you are pretty and the combination of the two is irresistible. Most women have learned this lesson when they were five or seven years old, but you have not gotten the memo due to Aspergers or Autism or other social developmental delay. You are now coming to realize this (that you cannot be open, talkative, nice to men because they will want sexual and/or romantic relationship) because you've become more mature due to life experience. For most women, it is obvious that being open, talkative and nice to a man is unsafe due to the sexual approaches or desires to approach with that from the man that will follow, so they only do it in safe and controlled situations, where they know the man realizes it is impossible or they are able to control and curtail the man's expectations! I think it is also a good life lesson to keep 'your mouth shut' and not be so naively talkative as it can get you in trouble with people as much as it can be an advantage.

Rather, most women use this ability for fun and to their advantage - be it to make friends at work with more experienced employees, to sell something, to make a man feel better, etc.

That is the case here in Australia,
No international travel, unless you are a citizen coming back home.
But I don't know if this is the case in Europe.

Maybe LC is just travelling around France by plane, but France isn't a big country and I would have thought road travel would have been the go.
Or, perhaps she is being repatriated back to Canada.

Whatever the case,
My best guess is that LC likes to globe-trot,
But I have been wrong about her before.
Which is surprising to me, because I'm usually good at sussing people out.

If LC comes back, she might be happy to inform us.

LC you sound as though you are lovely inside and out, you better get used to getting loads of male attention

I have enough self-respect to dress and look like as I want to do and how I wanna see myself. But I atually I do dress like a boy a lot (sweatpants, hoodie and old runningshoes lol). I don't even wear make-up anymore, but it doesn't seem to make any difference.

But yeah that's what I needed to hear I guess. Thanks for explaining me again how it is from the perception of a man. They all are superficial and it bores me.
I think it's gonna be still a big changement for me. From a lot of attention to almost zero. Let's face reality I guess

Hahah now you start spreading rumors again

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You're like the analyzer here NT's don't do that.

So yeah there's no touristic travelling at the moment. France was just a connecting flight stop. I'm moving to Canada and I'm very happy this is finally happening right now. Europe is not my place...

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