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10 Feb 2013, 6:12 pm

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Are you going to fall for what the media wants you to believe?

Like I love business and all, but those companies, magazines and media images that give sexual images seem to have a target audience of prepubescent boys. Most grown men would say that they look for other things in a woman, like a fun personality, humour, or intellect. Wouldn't you be insulted if someone told you that all women are just interested in [insert media portrayal here]?

But I get the sense that you're smart enough to question media images. So I'm not quite sure... Listen to Noam Chomsky or others who criticize the media for more reasons why it gives people a distorted sense of reality. You're not alone in having a bad body image because of the media - a psych prof of mine did a study on it. Women in general tend to get lower self esteem after seeing beautiful, thin women in the media. In fact, it is a major trigger of eating disorders in women. Just be wary of it by educating yourself on how these women got to look the way they do and by building your sense of self esteem.

agreed, completely.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:16 pm

Did you even look at Twiggy?
She was on the cover of many fashion magazines,and there was Kate Moss,the Calvin Klein model.
Don't tell me the men don't get off on the waifish look,uh,seventeen magazine???!
Lots of sexy models with small breasts.
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10 Feb 2013, 6:17 pm

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but in some cases, people do "settle" (like what the OP did) for people they are not as attracted to, then break up or trade up as soon as someone better is available. it's a potential consequence of dating people that they are not as attracted to - they may end up setting for someone that doesn't really float their boat. it happens.

Oh oh oh... I see what you mean - when she settled for the guy "not good enough". gotcha - makes sense now.

I really don't want to seem like I'm leading a lynch-mob.... believe it or not, I just want her to see what's really going on so she can be happy in her own skin. (The fact her boyfriend won't suffer false accusations anymore will only benefit them both!)

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10 Feb 2013, 6:23 pm

That's what men want. They want good boobs, not gross tiny things that look like a wee little zit. I look like a little girl or a man. If I wanted to change genders all I'd need to do would be cut my hair and get the bottom work done.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:24 pm

Knock it off - you're WRONG.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:26 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:

AND with this one comment, all of the posts preceding it are rendered useless.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:32 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:

That's what men want. They want good boobs, not gross tiny things that look like a wee little zit. I look like a little girl or a man. If I wanted to change genders all I'd need to do would be cut my hair and get the bottom work done.

A little stereotypical dont you think? In my eyes, breast size is not important to me and I am sure most other men as well. It seems like to you men only care about a womans breast size and not the woman behind the breast size. Like I stated before even if you do get bigger breasts it wont change who you are even if you might believe so. It wont change your personality either the only thing it might change is your own opinion of yourself but you will still be the same person.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:34 pm

^^^^^^^Trump card right there,nothing more to add.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:36 pm

Getting them fixed would make me feel better about myself and happier.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:38 pm

There's really nothing more to say, except, "GET COUNSELING!"

[keyword: Body Dysmorphia]

I give up.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:39 pm

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There's really nothing more to say, except, "GET COUNSELING!"

[keyword: Body Dysmorphia]

I give up.

^^^ Agreed

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10 Feb 2013, 6:44 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:

Getting them fixed would make me feel better about myself and happier.

Happiness comes from within,not from your boobs.
What if the surgery went wrong and you got an infection and lost one?
Or they come out lopsided?
Please tell a therapist,and I'm not being catty.
I see a therapist,I have for eight years.
Change is not automatic.
Bigger boobs will not make you happy,you will find something else that you think is wrong,and the cycle will repeat it's self.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:48 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:

Even if they ARE airbrushed, what does that mean? That good boobs are best and wanting somone with small ones is perverted and weird, and having small ones is sad and pitiful.

So your boyfriend is perverted now?
I hope he reads this thread and dumps you like a sack of crap.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:51 pm

I don't think he's perverted. Society seems to think so because he likes crappy boobs.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:53 pm

^^^^^Crappy boobs?please define that for me.
Maybe I have crappy boobs,it'll just kill me if YOU think so.

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10 Feb 2013, 6:54 pm

Small. Flat. Tiny.

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