What is the main reason why guys have to do the approaching?

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It's Nature. Natural selection.

...and up until just recently, Men have been making all the rules.

I think all the bitterness toward women from men who maybe feel inadequate in this area is interesting. As a woman who has always felt clueless about the dating scene, I feel a lot of it is unwarranted judgement of all womankind and outright fallacy.

Men and women are human. We make mistakes, misunderstand, have different agendas. It doesn't all have to be sinister with aforethought. It just is.

The universe is not obligated to provide anyone with a mate.

Not to sound like a debby downer but least wonen don't get thought of as creeps.

Generalising gender roles is an excuse. On that train of thought, those same aspie women that someone said have been taken advantage of, and if you ask them would they rather have had someone who hadn't done that to them, the answer would likely be, yes. So, it looks like there are a lot more men taking advantage of women, lying to them, manipulating them, just to get sex. So, if you guys really want to blame anyone for your woes, blame yourselves.

Despite being an aspie woman, with tons of sensory and social issues (and I mean lots), I can still come across pretty "normal" to any NT out there. Of course it takes its toll on me, and hence why I need to come home after a days work and not talk, see, or text anyone. I have hard to work hard at this though, it didn't come naturally, as you fellow aspies may imagine I wnt to the trouble of doing a drama degree, and it was a turning point in my life. Looking back at my life before that, I didn't even have one single photograph where I was smiling. I still hate most of social situations, perhaps even more, but I have mastered the art of "pretend" to get by.

I don't know if because I am an aspie, but I don't find aspie guys creepy, or weird, or anything. I would always judge someone by what they tell me and what they show me. Looks don't mean much either. Looks can grown on me. I get people teling me I can't be an aspie because I dress really well and I am pretty. Just recalling this makes me want to scream. If there is one thing I hate, it's ignorance. So, to al aspie men out there who say you can't get a woman? Maybe you re just looking in the wrong places and not coping that not all women would go for you. Women are, in my opinion, more honest when it comes to relationships. But I hate generalising.

I wish I was single now. So many "allegedly" nice men here.

Whining and complaining about how you don't get sex, as if you are ENTITLED to it, is by definition creepy. Complaining about how women have it easy and life is a walk in the clouds for us doesn't make it any less creepy.

Creepy is frequently applied to men who behave as if they are ENTITLED to women's bodies, and it is a way of saying the general vibe given off by this guy is potentially dangerous.

Rapists, stalkers, gropers, etc. all have something in common that women can look out for, they feel ENTITLED TO WOMEN'S BODIES.

Being that several of you, who will surely deny this or attempt to justify it or call me a progressive, are sulking and acting ENTITLED TO SEX WITH A WOMAN maybe you shouldn't be shocked when women perceive you as potentially dangerous.

There is no fair or unfair about the word creep. It's a matter of how a woman FEELS about your body language or behavior. Stop expecting people's feelings about you to be "fair" you do not live in a world that owes you anything.

The more you blame the opposite gender for your troubles, the more time you waste refusing to find a solution to your troubles.

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