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Shebakoby
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06 Sep 2009, 12:55 am

maybe in that phone conversation she found a 'dealbreaker'.



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06 Sep 2009, 1:45 am

Or maybe she's just a human being who eats, drinks, and sleeps like you, not a demon. Also if she wasn't feeling you then her lost, forget her. That's obviously what happened. And internet dating is not a good way to go for anyone. people get too flakey on it and dont reply and all that stuff. It doesn't matter what a girl says, thinks, or does because at the end of the day she's going to have to come to terms with you and her and say "Am I down with him or not"...so it doesnt matter. at the end of the day either she likes you or not. and if she doesnt then forget her. idk why you're spending do much time pondering this. she's the problem not you, she's the one who acted flakey, and dropped your offer. you're the one who offered a date. she's the one who didnt like you...GREAT YOU. you are the GREAT one not her. forget her



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06 Sep 2009, 5:24 am

hale_bopp wrote:
you dumped your ex-girlfriend because she smoked pot.


Yes she did. But it was not just once in while. She wanted to smoke literaly all the time. She did not want to do anything else. She hid it from me at first.

Plus if you have seen some of my old posts you would know that alor of close family members have struggled with drugs so I have seen what that can do. Pot/ drugs is a definate dealbreaker for me.

I thought about the other girl and decised its her loss time to move on.



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06 Sep 2009, 12:11 pm

BPalmer wrote:
Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
If she wasn't intrested she shouldn't have agreed to meet to you in the first place and had no right to waste your time like that. I can't believe so many people are sticking up for her, it's so hypocritical considering how many people often complain about being mislead or being given mixed signals. start looking at your own double standards first before passing judgement.


Hear, hear! No more making excuses for their prejudices and dishonesty. They demand to be treated as human beings (whilst simultaneously treating men as objects), yet they refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.


Exactly my point. Glad someone agrees with me.


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06 Sep 2009, 12:56 pm

You are making too much out of this seriously.

If you want to do internet dating that is you choice, but it requires you to be a bit more resilient. If you are going to post about every minor setback like this then frankly you aren't cut out for it. Calling someone who is indecisive a demon is frankly ridiculous. What you got to worry most about is not the getting a girlfriend, but what you are going to do after you have go one. If you have impossible standards like this it won't last very long. So it is hardly surprising that people would seek to avoid getting into relationship like that in the first place.