how can I change my personality?

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I can relate to the argung with people, correcting people, hating it when someone is wrong.. when I joined WP I was floored by how many AS people also did this, I thought it was just me .

I personally think that you are under a lot of stress and unhappy and that brngs out the worst in a person's personality, no matter whch type.

If you like to argue, debate, correct, clarify, you could try reading "How to win friends and influence people". A lot of it can be confusing for aspies but there are a few chapters on how to correct someone, how to make a criticism not sound like a criticism, how to disagree with someone, I personally found these chapters insanely useful. But it took a very long time and a lot of work to understand what was going on in these interactions and how they work. For me, people have been like going into the Amazon Rainforest and learning about a completely foreign culture which i previously understood little about. I had no idea how little i understood. i still dont understand people all that much. They are so complex, compared to me. i am simple.

Instead of asking them to explain their facial expressions, maybe you could ask them how they are feeling. Maybe instead of bringing up Asperger's or how you are different generally, you could just focus on the moment and say you are unclear/confused in this situation. If I'm really stuck and pressed for a response, I just tell people I am not good at knowing my own feelings or those of other people often. Just a statement of fact, diagnosis or not. I hope my suggestions are useful for you, as you seem to be on the same painful road I was.

Regarding conversational behavior, I think the pauses are actually a very important idea. Definitely try to do that.

Also, did you read through my conversation suggestions in my first response? Particularly, I think you might get a benefit from reiterating another person's standpoint before moving on to yours. People get less frustrated in conversations when they feel sure that their point of view is seen as valid, even if wrong.

Prozac causes personality changes in some people.

^ But it may not be a good one.. it could make a person worse. paxil, for example, can cause some people to develop apathy which ends up effecting their relationships even more than the depression or anxiety did.