So, it's absolutely done with my internet friend.

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I don't want to sound to critical here, so don't take it the wrong way. We live in a day in age where people get so consumed by online relationships and take what people they meet online more seriously than they should. That's not to say you should avoid online relationships, but keep in mind that the internet world isn't exactly real life, and everyone and everything should be taken with a grain of salt. I wouldn't be so caught up in this situation. It really isn't worth it in the end. You'll meet plenty of other Aspies on the internet that are worth your time. Probably right here on WrongPlanet.net.

I have Internet friends that I have later met IRL. It's good to keep an open mind and be cautious yes, but personally, I believe Internet friendships/romance can be just as valid and real as friendships/romance that are formed off the Internet. Internet friendship/romance has the possibility to be both good and bad. Some work and some don't just like in "real life". Since I don't hang out in bars, pubs or clubs, the Internet has become a huge socialising outlet for me and a great opportunity to meet people all over the World which I otherwise would not be able to meet. I can express myself easier with words than with my voice. I'm comfortable at home on the Internet and for once not feeling alone.

Taupey

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I can't see the videos.

And I did read it, she's very wise. And that post made me feel better. Unfortunately he said his departing my company was because of me. And because he doesn't know how to make me feel better when he upsets me, and it makes him feel bad/he thinks its better for me if he goes away. I don't know how to respond to that idea there...It's a nice thing to do, but not true entirely. I hope he talks to me again soon-ish.

it was monty pythons "always look on the bright side of life" ;]

Eh, you guys just end up with the wrong people if they are ever rude to you without you having done something to offend him/her <_<
And if he/she isn't even considerate about the fact that you cant communicate your feelings to well, they are just jerks you shouldn't waste time on.

Strong relationships have balance. Differences in social wants and abilities can create serious tension in a relationship. If you want to pursue a level of intimacy that your friend fears or has no desire for, then conflict is bound to happen. You may become frustrated at your friend's inability to empathize; you may feel that your relationship is doomed to be shallow and loveless. He probably feels like a social idiot, or that he isn't comfortable sharing his thoughts and emotions, or both.

Of course, this is an internet relationship, not a marriage. The most important thing to do is to realize what his limitations are, and not to wish that he were capable of more. Every relationship doesn't need to be maximized; there are people out there that want the same closeness that you do. There is no need to whip a lame horse into something that he can't handle.

You will find that connection if you keep looking for it. It's not easy to expose yourself to new people, but you sound determined enough to try it.

That was a good post. Very good.

@JayHun, that really is an excellent post.

OP, there's a lot of freedom in acceptance. You can provide guidance in any relationship, but the person on the receiving end has to want it. (That lack of desire can be particularly hard to accept when it's obvious the person could benefit from your help.) But he is who he is, and until he's ready to be someone different, there's not much you can do. You're so young, sweetie - but that's a lesson worth learning early. Take care.