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20 May 2011, 11:42 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:
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Awww, it's okay. Anyone can learn how to cook. It just takes practice, that's all.


Very, very true- my grandmother always said "If you can read, you can cook", meaning anyone with a recipe in-hand can manage it-
and the internet's the biggest cookbook in the whole world. :D


That's what my grandma says. I love allrecipes.com. Sooo many fun recipes on there. ^.^



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20 May 2011, 12:17 pm

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It depends on what you want. If you really want to date a girl, on the first date you have to pay for the whole thing. Why? Because the penis goes into the vagina. That's why men need to take the initiative.


I don't understand your logic. A does not imply B.



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20 May 2011, 12:19 pm

Jono wrote:
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It depends on what you want. If you really want to date a girl, on the first date you have to pay for the whole thing. Why? Because the penis goes into the vagina. That's why men need to take the initiative.


I don't understand your logic. A does not imply B.


Is paying for a date like putting a down payment on an admission fee into the vagina?



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20 May 2011, 3:09 pm

I can certainly see the case for whoever asks pays. That said I wouldn’t express a desire to always pay for everything as I wouldn’t wish to be seen as condescending or building up some kind of debt for the other person from which I could then seek repayment.



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20 May 2011, 3:28 pm

I prefer going dutch. Occasionally one of us will by the other a drink or treat the other person, but splitting the bill (Or each paying for their own food) seems fairest.



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20 May 2011, 3:30 pm

I prefer turning japanese.


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20 May 2011, 3:37 pm

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I prefer turning japanese.

LOL!



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20 May 2011, 3:55 pm

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I prefer turning japanese.

LOL!

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20 May 2011, 4:04 pm

[quote="Moog"]I prefer turning japanese.[/quote

Touche



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20 May 2011, 10:08 pm

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I prefer turning japanese.


This is a little overrated, particularly with regard to paying the a cafe bill.

A: ああどうも、まかせて下さい ("Ahh, allow me...")
B: あのう、まかせて下さい ("No please, allow me...")
A: まかせて下さい ("Please, allow me...")
B: まかせて。。。 ("Allow me...")
A: まかせて。。。 ("Allow me...")

(They actually won't get past line 3, not verbally; the rest happens non-verbally.)

The funny bit is when the two people play hand-chicken, to see who can fake out who at grabbing the bill :D



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20 May 2011, 10:08 pm

For me sharing the bill means no commitment, lets be just friends. You split the bill with your friend or with your boyfriend, not with someone thats trying to score. Something else: it needs to be talked about when you are inviting the person so she can take the decision of paying for going out with you or not. It is extremely rude to invite someone and then ask her to pay.



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20 May 2011, 10:12 pm

I believe that whoever makes the invitation should pay for the meal, unless both parties agree otherwise.

What really I do not like is when people use me to pad their expense account by not inviting me to a business lunch, and then ordering the most expensive thing on the menu in my name. A manager got fired last year for doing just that.


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21 May 2011, 12:14 am

What about cooking Ramen for a girl and asking her for a nickel to cover her half? That would be classy.



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21 May 2011, 1:23 am

I usually operate on a "if I invite you somewhere, I pay" basis, but if the other person(s) wants to pay their share I don't really mind.

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What about cooking Ramen for a girl and asking her for a nickel to cover her half? That would be classy.


What? Ramen here costs 18 cents a pack.


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21 May 2011, 5:17 am

sterfry wrote:
What about cooking Ramen for a girl and asking her for a nickel to cover her half? That would be classy.


Sounds like my kinda guy. 8)



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21 May 2011, 7:50 am

I have slightly old fashioned views - so I am happier to have a man in my life that wants to provide for the ones he loves (including me).

Fighting for womans rights (not me personally) to me hasn't done woman that many favours. All it has done is left woman with the full list of responsibilities/duties she had before and added to these half (if not more) of the mans role! But that's all a different subject really.

I am happy to go out to work - and pay my way (these days you have to) - but I prefer being looked after. I don't mean be weak and dependant - just loved and supported, that way I won't feel so ticked off about cleaning up after you =]