An AS relationship?

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Personally, I've always preferred the company of aspies, both as friends and as crushes/potential GFs. Even before I knew what Aspergers was I tended to befriend aspies, they are much tolerant of social 'mistakes' and a lack of small talk.

Around 50% of crushes I've had have been on aspies, assuming 100:1=NT:AS and 10:1=MaleAS:FemaleAS, that means I'm 500 times more likely to like a randomly picked aspie girl than a randomly picked NT girl.

So in summation, although I don't activly seek aspies over NTs, I will most likely end up with an aspie, and I wouldn't mind ending up with another person like me.

Hi, i've been reading this thread with interest as, although i do not my boyfriend has aspergers and we are getting along just great.
Yes i'll admit there are things i've had to learn and often i'll learn them after i've made the mistake in the first place, but i'm willing to do this which is whats important.
Before i started dating my bf i didn't even know what AS was let alone what it meant, so i don't necessarily think it would be essential to know these things beforehand.
He was honest with me and told me right from the start which didn't make an ounce of difference because its who he is i love and nothing could change that!

I'm waffling oops, what i'm trying to say is that if the girl is the right one for you then it won't make any difference whether or not she also has AS!!

Baby xx

I think either AS/AS relationships or AS/NT relationships have the potential to be wonderful. It all depends on the compatibility of the individuals and their personal deficits and abilities. I think neither sould be ruled out as an option, I believe there is someone perfect for everyone who wants to be married.

either would work but i prefer aspies because of the already being able to relate and i have always appreciated a creative mind

i am faced with what i think may be a developing AS relationship. neither of us have been diagnosed, but as my profile states, my current psychiatrist seems to be hinting at a spectral-type diagnosis. we are both INT_ as far as myers-briggs is concerned. he is slightly more J than i am. i fluctuate between INTJ and INTP. mbti fascinates me from many perspectives, i want to categorize people so i can understand them completely one day! so far i have been extremely unsuccessful, but i keep trying.

as others have stated, the theoretically "best" person for an aspie would be someone who could take care of them and be emotional, thus creating a "balanced" system. i have tried this, numerous times, in order to somehow "cure" my social problems on my own, and failed miserably. these relationships typically wound up breaking due to lack of understanding and my lack of what is typically expected of a female. ): i felt as if i could eventually "adjust" to the expectation of emotions, and being with a NT/rather emotional partner. completely wrong. i wanted to at least try, though. i must have some amount of geographical, physical, or emotional distance to maintain at least a minute amount of attraction.

my prospect and i are amazed at our similarities in thinking/being/past experiences. we're bonding somewhat based on the acceptance/lack of alienation we feel around eachother. we're constantly finding similarities in life philosophy. he is an exemplary history buff. he remembers facts and dates to an amazing caliber, and has an extremely visual memory. i often wonder if he is on the autistic spectrum, or if he is just an extreme INTJ. we are both capable of feeling, obviously, but it all had to start on a very mental level. although we were "IRL" acquaintances first, we became close over the internet. one day he just grabbed my hand (best thing he could have done. i never would have initiated this. i walk around with my blinders on, of course) and we actually made out (a quantum leap!) it was so extremely intense for the two of us that we can remember every tiny detail, and we rehash the experience a great deal.

another (very socially awkward) friend and i, in highschool, drew out blueprints as to what the ideal house for a married couple should look like. it consisted of three bedrooms: two on opposing ends of the house, and one in the middle for occasional sex. (: we still refer to this idea fondly when discussing "how to make it work."

somewhat tangential thought about gifts: i think that two aspies can give eachother excellent gifts. i try to stay away from putting too much emphasis on material items such as gifts, but you know how that goes... more fascination with objects than people, i suppose.

it seems like people in general tend to give eachother very cursory material gifts. in this aspect, i think AS folks excel. for example, my prospect recently bought me a lovely pinned, boxed specimen of lepidoptera (e.g. butterflies and moths) in krakow whereas i don't think many men would buy me such a gift. it would be roses and chocolates or some similar BS. i thought it was the most thoughtful thing ever and was overwhelmed in every way that someone recognized, what seems to me, an extremely obvious (at least to me,) longtime fascination of mine.


in light of this situation, i am overly anxious to see mozart and the whale.

Okay... people who forget they are human. Interesting.......


And kinda wierd even by aspie standards....

Still. I admit im not human if you have to accept george w bush as human, id rather be something else

bravo, black liger. i hate dubya always bringing his christian beliefs into everything. its nuthin against the christians, its just that he should be representing everybody as president. some things just belong in private when your the leader of the free world.
A

Please help me though. Dont take this topic too far off. I have been warned in other forums but Wrong Planet that i have a tendancy to take topics way off thread.

this thread is kinda dead.
A

I been out with both. i've had more NT boyfreinds than AS 1s., cos i find it better.
God Bless
Fiona

I want a girl thats weird and has originality. if she tics or stims during sex, then thats a bonus.

blessed be,
Alexander

I agree. I was not diagnosed, nor did I suspect I had AS until last December. However, my husband and I have been together for 5 years. He learned and accepted the way my mind works from the beginning. I am not a different person with the AS diagnosis, I am exactly the same person he has always known.

My husband is NT and the mistake we made was having him read up on AS. He got really freaked out and I had to keep reminding him that I am still the same person he has always known. So what if my quirkiness has a name now? He calms down when I remind him of this and he does really like the way my brain works, like how I can make connections among seemingly random things.

As for Aspie to Aspie, I sometimes think that it would be easier, but I annoy the crap out of myself, so I think another Aspie would drive me up the wall.
Tallgirl.

If you don't believe this could be possible, come spend the next holiday with my family and me

Having AS dosent make you a clone of every other aspie in the world...

Hell, having AS makes you completely different to EVERYONE. Even other Aspies...

ah. same as NTs, then.