Best girl advice for aspie guys

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what, an aspie with intense focus on a specific sector? Ive never heard of such a thing

Why thank you. Yeah, theres nothing that bothers me more than aspie guys who complain about mean women are, but meanwhile they're acting like creepers to them. Like I can see why their behaviour would be seen as off-putting to them.

There's also a very good chance that I might end up dating the girl on the far left. So wish me luck.

Not too late at all. It's very simple to do. Not easy, not by a very long chalk, but it's very simple. You make the decision to never smoke another cigarette. Then you don't smoke them, ever again.

Don't think "I'll cut down". That requires an ENORMOUS amount of willpower that 99% of people lack. It's actually easier to stop altogether than to smoke less.

Don't say "I'll start tomorrow". Tomorrow never comes. Start NOW,

Don't keep a packet in your drawer as a permanent test of willpower or some such. It's a crutch, and a dangerous one. Throw them out. Don't think of it as a waste of money. You were only going to burn them anyway!

Don't resort to gum or smoking aids unless you find quitting very difficult. This isn't quitting. It's substituting one addiction for another.

If you lapse one day, don't give up. It can happen. Stub the thing out, and start again from the beginning. Decide you're better than that, decide that's the last time, and never smoke again.

It's hard, but the good news is that it gets easier. Much, much easier. At first the nicotine in your system will be making the cravings worse, but it will be mostly gone after just three weeks. Throughout that time you'll find the withdrawal gets easier. After that, it's just habit you're fighting. Once you've broken that, you'll be well away. This is why patches/gum/etc are a bad idea for all but the serious junkies - you maintain that physical craving.

There are so many reasons to quit and no good ones to continue. If you want it badly enough and you find the motivation to stick it out, you can quit.

I don't like this thread. I don't like seeing other people's successes.

Discuss.

That kind of mentality isn't going to get you anywhere with the ladies, my friend. You're just gonna find yourself wallowing in your own self-pity, and thats not healthy. Trust me, I've been there.

I like this thread. It's got lots of good advice.

Don't think about it as changing who you are, but as learning to socialise much like you'd learn any other skill. Also, don't feel like you have to completely change your interests, maybe just try to be more open minded to others. Geeky/nerdy guys who've learnt social skills are awesome.

Definitley not changing my interests. I'm a metalhead in an art school - surrounded by hipsters and hip hop kids. I'm an odd-man-out, but I've learned how to be cool about it.

And I agree with that last statement. Actually most kids in art school ARE geeky/nerdy kids who've learned social skills.

Very true, I've noticed the mindset tends to be very negative on here. People build this preconception that they're unattractive and hopeless that by the time they've mustered enough courage up to talk to a girl, they've already blown it.

I think this thread can also show guys that all they need is self-belief and practice and don't require to be a male model or have a huge bank account to get interest from girls. I've noticed some guys tend to blame external circumstances as a reason to justify negative thinking when it's clearly not the case.

Can you admit that there's no hope for me dating? I'm ugly, slow, poor, uneducated (spent most of my school years in special ed until I dropped out in the 9th after repeating twice), irritating and annoying. I lack charisma, confidence, and any skills or talents that would attract people.

I'm jobless, carless, I don't have any friends, in fact I've spent the last few years locked up inside my house. I'm 25 years old and I haven't so much as kissed a girl my entire life. I still live with my parents and we live off SSI and food stamps. I can barely take care of myself. My main interest are porn, anime, and video games.

There's no hope of me becoming "cool", and there's no way that I can come close to the amount of success that you've had with women.

Women are mean and disrespectful to me because I'm a pathetic excuse for a man. I'm a really easy target to pick on. I really wish they wouldn't do it, but you can't change how the world works I guess.

Very inspiring transformation, congrats dude, some of the best advice I've read on this forum. Basically you're telling aspie guys to not be too analytical or worry about the outcome and to not take themselves or approaching women too seriously and to just go with it and treat every interaction as a learning experience.

Well as I am not the most social person I am not much intrested in the guy who seems to be everyones best friend, that would be weird for me.......I mean unless its a rather small gathering of people then its not an issue. But yeah I like to be away from most people most of the time so I imagine I am more into guys who also feel that way and are more likely to sit in the corner farthest away from people in a crowed place like I would probably do.

And I'm not the jealous type....I would be sad if a guy I was dating paid more attention to other chicks, as I would feel like I am failing in some way. like the dude I guess I would say I am dating now.....if he was talking to another girl but still included me then I would be cool with it if he were to tell me to go stand somewhere else while he talks to the chick then it would bother me especially if flirting is involved.

Other than that though a lot of that is accurate in my opinion.

If your a guy at art school who cant get laid, theres something wrong with you

Is it like 15 girls for every boy??

Mmmmm... art school girlies .....mmmmm


I'm starting to see a pattern here....eyebrow boy finds art school puss puss heaven, then berates aspie boy for failure to do the same at engineering tech...

.....bit like making fun of the Amish?

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That was the most depressing thing I've ever read. You should really do something about your life while you're still young. Maybe start going to anime conventions and meet anime girls.



Haha exactly. In fact, theres even better advice. If you're awkward and wanna get laid - go to art school!

Love the Bathory shirt.

Thanks, Bathory rules! I love your user name too. Good to see more metalheads on here.