Why don't single men hereput their pictures up as an avatar?

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As some people stated there are picture threads(a serious one in members section a flirty one on adult that usually lacks of pictures) and you can ask people there to provide their picture, I dont think anyone would mind.

Having said that the member you may be attracted to may not post at this threads so I encourage you to try to pm them. Perhaps you should start talking about what you find interesting... and then move on to location/pictures after a couple of messages.

Most people welcome pms and having someone ask you for a picture is a great feeling because someone is interested enough to ask for that.

Also if you dont want to ask for pictures maybe you could set up a fb account and ask them if they want to become friends on fb(most people have their pics there)

"Emo" pictures(the ones with the so meaningfull messages) are usually lacking colour and they tend to wear cons for some reason so while it hadnt crossed my mind it makes some sense.

I didn't know that. Thanks.

Wait, wait... That thread in the adult section was a flirty one? Oh, but I agree it often lacks pictures. I mean, TEGH is usually the only person who posts her pictures regularly!



Does that mean that, hypothetically speaking, if I PM you and ask for your picture, you'd be ok with it? I promise I won't comment on it if you're uncomfortable.

As for my avatar, it's not my picture (not my legs). But I kind of like Converse (after hating it for years) and I liked the idea of a person just turning away and leaving (or going forward to something (s)he wants?)

Perhaps saying its a flirty one is an overstatement but the comments on the pictures are usually more "heated" than in the average one.


I only avoid posting pictures right now because some of them were reposted on another website along with my name(the problems of using fb) and Im somewhat concerned about further images leaking...
I dont see why you would do that so I wouldnt mind sending you one of the pictures I posted in the past if you wish.
Im trying to work through my issues(its why I posted on the calendar thread and tried to respond appropiately to every message)so you´d be free to reply whatever you wish.

Putting up a picture of myself for my avatar would mean that I can be identified (with difficulty, but possible nonetheless) from my posts, which could jeopardize the confidentiality of some of them. This being an autism spectrum forum, I'll sometimes talk about things I don't want to admit to every person I know in real life.

Perhaps you never put yourself in a position to be complimented.If you are not interacting with women ,socially how can you get any indication of whether or not you are attractive?.Does it really matter if a large percentage of women find you attractive anyway? I assume you would be content if a woman you would be interested in also reciprocated your interest.

My location is enough to make me dismissed by the girls here. I don't want to make things worse by adding my pic .

Besides, I don't want you to masturbate over my picture, Ms. perv.

It is down to personal preference, if people feel more comfortable remaining anonymous or they don't want to disclose certain information about themselves, that's up to them. I have my location and personal photos posted on my avatar and profile, sometimes it's nice to put a face or place to the words, however people are free to disclose whatever information they want about themselves.

I am open to having a friendly chat via microphone and webcam, I have had quite a few interesting conversations with people from this forum over Instant Messaging. However I'm not looking for a relationship here, I simply use this forum to increase my self awareness and understanding when it comes to relationships and socializing.

Ok Boo, and I thought very highly of you. That wasn't what I meant. I thought that there were a lot of men/boys and women/girls here that are looking for relationships and since the personals picture posting thread is so long and tedious to get through, maybe, if someone is looking for a mate or bf/gf it would be to their benefit to post their picture.

Oh and I tried to post my location (new hampshire USA) but it didn't take for some reason. I should think it would be helpful for some of us to practice flirting and whatever in a safe environment such as this one. I didn't mean to invade anyone's privacy.

Why so serious? And that staring look.....damn....

C'mon, I was just joking , we're both adults.

I was actually thinking how my avatar must look like the female version of The Face of Boo. However, even though I'm not quite as old as Boo, I am the one who needs glasses!

I don't think so, I think most women that come here are already settled in a relationship/marriage or they have a family member that is on the spectrum, mostly they are looking for advice or different perspectives on a situation. In most cases, they are here to discuss with other people on the spectrum in a friendly environment, so in that sense, I'd say there are more men looking for relationships on WP.

I like aspies for talking to about how things really are. For dating I'd want the complete opposite.

True. That would make the girls here depressed because they can't afford to go to Lebanon and meet you.



I believe this is true. I know it might sound strange, but this site is quite refreshing in terms of how safe it seems for a woman. Yes, EVEN with all the sexism that can often be seen here (especially in love and dating). You don't get hit on by random strangers (maybe that's because AS guys are shy?) However, this might be just my experience. Other women might have a different opinion on this.

But if I were single and IF I decided to try my luck online (a big "if"), I think I'd start with this site (or a similar forum where I'm a regular) and not an online dating site.

For what it's worth, this is me (I'm too young for the original poster though);

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