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17 Feb 2012, 11:55 pm

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Well, that's part of where my anxiety is at, that I'll have lived some sort of purposeless life by dying without having had an intimate relationship, that the fruit will rot on the vine as you say. I'm just saying that I don't care so much whether it happens or not anymore. I won't die with a feeling of worthlessness. I want to love and respect myself first and foremost.

it is very hard to have harmony with a solo act.



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18 Feb 2012, 12:17 am

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Sex without marriage is wrong, evil, and sinful. I won't back off this regardless of what anyone thinks



I can wrap my head around someone considering it "wrong" or "sinful", but evil? Seriously?

The fact that I'm humping my boyfriend without promising that he's the only one I'm gonna do that with foreeeeever and ever is evil??


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18 Feb 2012, 3:40 am

justalouise wrote:
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Sex without marriage is wrong, evil, and sinful. I won't back off this regardless of what anyone thinks



I can wrap my head around someone considering it "wrong" or "sinful", but evil? Seriously?

The fact that I'm humping my boyfriend without promising that he's the only one I'm gonna do that with foreeeeever and ever is evil??


Actually its not sinful as not one of the 7 sins actually covers that, you would think "Lust" would but the way it was originally written(1400s or so) it doesn't, it really only covers cheating and obsession

just thought I'd point that out :wink:


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18 Feb 2012, 11:13 pm

JNathanK wrote:
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Tequila wrote:
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Oh, I don't masturbate either. Well, I haven't in 8 weeks or so.


Have you thought perhaps of hanging out on forums and societies with people who feel similarly?


nah, I like forums with diversity of thought. When you hang around cliques with the same worldview, you just reinforce the same perceptions and assumptions the group already holds.

The point is, what we're talking about isn't a "worldview", per se.
Surely you know that not desiring to have sex coupled with how rarely you say you masturbate makes you an extreme minority?
Have you considered that you might be asexual?


I don't think I'm absolutely non-sexual. I wouldn't mind having closeness with someone of the opposite sex and snuggling. I have a very strong drive for that. I just don't know that I would want to go all the way sexually.


Uh..you just described a hetero-romantic asexual.


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