Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Sell yourself!

Page 3 of 6 [ 81 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

DefinitelyKmart
Toucan
Toucan

User avatar

Joined: 4 Apr 2012
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 262

27 Nov 2012, 7:11 pm

nessa238 wrote:

I think it makes a refreshing change from people promoting themselves just with photos

There is that too, i know alot of WP use online dating, i am not a fan for several reasons, i wanted to see what else people had about them than a few photos, i also was interested to see what people valued about their selves so i could improve on areas in my life, perhaps even giving others a chance to progress too. The fact is we all have good points about us, but we need to bring these to the forefront instead of the self pity we often carry, most of the posts put forward extremely solid cases to why they are good partners, this is encouraging in a meeting situation. In real life you have 7 seconds is it? well you gotta sell yourself pretty damn well, photos don't cut it after the first glance, so we need to have something else to help with.



nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

27 Nov 2012, 7:11 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
[img][img]http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6361/picture3qp.jpg[/img][/img]I am 6ft 1 shoe size is 13 1/2 Im an aspie good with cats I am very affectionate friendly funny and intelligent. I tend to get very hyper and excited easily I like to watch a lot of anime play video games and get obsessed with topics suck as science cars dinosaurs reptiles and asian culture. I can be a pretty good cook but I tend to get lazy and usually eat out or just make something simple and filling. I am hypersexual meaning I have a very high libido. I like to cuddle a lot if you do not like cuddles than I may not be the one for you because I like to lean embrace hug and spoon.I am an otaku if you didnt get the memo on my username! !Liking anime is a huge plus if you want a go with me.


"a go"?

Are you a fairground ride?
You bet bust be 18 or older to ride! :wink:


Lol :oops:
tehee weeeee *flaps his hands as he giggles* :o


I haven't a clue how to respond to that - I'll put it down to cultural differences



AspieOtaku
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Feb 2012
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,051
Location: San Jose

27 Nov 2012, 7:13 pm

nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
[img][img]http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6361/picture3qp.jpg[/img][/img]I am 6ft 1 shoe size is 13 1/2 Im an aspie good with cats I am very affectionate friendly funny and intelligent. I tend to get very hyper and excited easily I like to watch a lot of anime play video games and get obsessed with topics suck as science cars dinosaurs reptiles and asian culture. I can be a pretty good cook but I tend to get lazy and usually eat out or just make something simple and filling. I am hypersexual meaning I have a very high libido. I like to cuddle a lot if you do not like cuddles than I may not be the one for you because I like to lean embrace hug and spoon.I am an otaku if you didnt get the memo on my username! !Liking anime is a huge plus if you want a go with me.


"a go"?

Are you a fairground ride?
You bet bust be 18 or older to ride! :wink:


Lol :oops:
tehee weeeee *flaps his hands as he giggles* :o


I haven't a clue how to respond to that - I'll put it down to cultural differences
Just me being silly. :D


_________________
Your Aspie score is 193 of 200
Your neurotypical score is 40 of 200
You are very likely an aspie
No matter where I go I will always be a Gaijin even at home. Like Anime? https://kissanime.to/AnimeList


nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

27 Nov 2012, 7:16 pm

DefinitelyKmart wrote:
nessa238 wrote:

I think it makes a refreshing change from people promoting themselves just with photos

There is that too, i know alot of WP use online dating, i am not a fan for several reasons, i wanted to see what else people had about them than a few photos, i also was interested to see what people valued about their selves so i could improve on areas in my life, perhaps even giving others a chance to progress too. The fact is we all have good points about us, but we need to bring these to the forefront instead of the self pity we often carry, most of the posts put forward extremely solid cases to why they are good partners, this is encouraging in a meeting situation. In real life you have 7 seconds is it? well you gotta sell yourself pretty damn well, photos don't cut it after the first glance, so we need to have something else to help with.


I don't meet people face to face straight away though - I chat with them online first to see if our personalities gel as I'm most at ease chatting online. If a person doesn't like me or is unsure about me I don't go all out to sell myself - they will either like you or they won't. The crux of a successful relationship is the very fact that you don't have to sell yourself ie yourself as you are is just what they want and that's what makes it successful. If you are having to constantly impress the other person they're the wrong person in my book as I want an easy life! Obviously there will be things about each other that impress you but I mean you don't need to dress up all fancy to impress them or do overly impressive things all the time.



nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

27 Nov 2012, 7:19 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
[img][img]http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6361/picture3qp.jpg[/img][/img]I am 6ft 1 shoe size is 13 1/2 Im an aspie good with cats I am very affectionate friendly funny and intelligent. I tend to get very hyper and excited easily I like to watch a lot of anime play video games and get obsessed with topics suck as science cars dinosaurs reptiles and asian culture. I can be a pretty good cook but I tend to get lazy and usually eat out or just make something simple and filling. I am hypersexual meaning I have a very high libido. I like to cuddle a lot if you do not like cuddles than I may not be the one for you because I like to lean embrace hug and spoon.I am an otaku if you didnt get the memo on my username! !Liking anime is a huge plus if you want a go with me.


"a go"?

Are you a fairground ride?
You bet bust be 18 or older to ride! :wink:


Lol :oops:
tehee weeeee *flaps his hands as he giggles* :o


I haven't a clue how to respond to that - I'll put it down to cultural differences
Just me being silly. :D


Oh sorry :)



DefinitelyKmart
Toucan
Toucan

User avatar

Joined: 4 Apr 2012
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 262

27 Nov 2012, 7:20 pm

nessa238 wrote:
DefinitelyKmart wrote:
nessa238 wrote:

I think it makes a refreshing change from people promoting themselves just with photos

There is that too, i know alot of WP use online dating, i am not a fan for several reasons, i wanted to see what else people had about them than a few photos, i also was interested to see what people valued about their selves so i could improve on areas in my life, perhaps even giving others a chance to progress too. The fact is we all have good points about us, but we need to bring these to the forefront instead of the self pity we often carry, most of the posts put forward extremely solid cases to why they are good partners, this is encouraging in a meeting situation. In real life you have 7 seconds is it? well you gotta sell yourself pretty damn well, photos don't cut it after the first glance, so we need to have something else to help with.


I don't meet people face to face straight away though - I chat with them online first to see if our personalities gel as I'm most at ease chatting online. If a person doesn't like me I dont' go all out to sell myself - they will either like you or you won't. The crux of a successful relationship is the very fact that you don't have to sell yourself ie yourself as you are is just what they want and that's what makes it successful. If you are having to constantly impress the other person they're the wrong person in my book as I want an easy life! Obviously there will be things about each other that impress you but I mean you dont' need to dress up all fancy to impress them or do overly impressive things all the time.


Oh of course you do not have to portray yourself as some kind of chuck bass, or some kinda harvey spectre...
I don't meet women online, so for me their is no pre match chat, their is no warmup.. its straight onto the battlefield and you better come equipped soldier!
If a person doesn't like you thats irreconcilable and no amount of epicness can change that.. (cept maybe a 9 fig bank balance)
the idea is that you focus on your qualities and once you realise you have desirable qualities, then it will project outwardly on a subconscious level.



nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

27 Nov 2012, 7:23 pm

DefinitelyKmart wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
DefinitelyKmart wrote:
nessa238 wrote:

I think it makes a refreshing change from people promoting themselves just with photos

There is that too, i know alot of WP use online dating, i am not a fan for several reasons, i wanted to see what else people had about them than a few photos, i also was interested to see what people valued about their selves so i could improve on areas in my life, perhaps even giving others a chance to progress too. The fact is we all have good points about us, but we need to bring these to the forefront instead of the self pity we often carry, most of the posts put forward extremely solid cases to why they are good partners, this is encouraging in a meeting situation. In real life you have 7 seconds is it? well you gotta sell yourself pretty damn well, photos don't cut it after the first glance, so we need to have something else to help with.


I don't meet people face to face straight away though - I chat with them online first to see if our personalities gel as I'm most at ease chatting online. If a person doesn't like me I dont' go all out to sell myself - they will either like you or you won't. The crux of a successful relationship is the very fact that you don't have to sell yourself ie yourself as you are is just what they want and that's what makes it successful. If you are having to constantly impress the other person they're the wrong person in my book as I want an easy life! Obviously there will be things about each other that impress you but I mean you dont' need to dress up all fancy to impress them or do overly impressive things all the time.


Oh of course you do not have to portray yourself as some kind of chuck bass, or some kinda harvey spectre...
I don't meet women online, so for me their is no pre match chat, their is no warmup.. its straight onto the battlefield and you better come equipped soldier!
If a person doesn't like you thats irreconcilable and no amount of epicness can change that.. (cept maybe a 9 fig bank balance)
the idea is that you focus on your qualities and once you realise you have desirable qualities, then it will project outwardly on a subconscious level.


I had my longest lasting relationship with a person I met in real life ie I wasn't online then so perhaps there is more longevity via meeting face to face? I've had my most intellectually compatible relationships via the internet though



BlueMax
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Aug 2007
Age: 52
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,285

27 Nov 2012, 7:57 pm

Why don't you two take it to Private Messages and keep the thread clean? ;)



wtfid2
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Aug 2012
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,712
Location: usa

27 Nov 2012, 8:26 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
[img][img]http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6361/picture3qp.jpg[/img][/img]I am 6ft 1 shoe size is 13 1/2 Im an aspie good with cats I am very affectionate friendly funny and intelligent. I tend to get very hyper and excited easily I like to watch a lot of anime play video games and get obsessed with topics suck as science cars dinosaurs reptiles and asian culture. I can be a pretty good cook but I tend to get lazy and usually eat out or just make something simple and filling. I am hypersexual meaning I have a very high libido. I like to cuddle a lot if you do not like cuddles than I may not be the one for you because I like to lean embrace hug and spoon.I am an otaku if you didnt get the memo on my username! !Liking anime is a huge plus if you want a go with me.


"a go"?

Are you a fairground ride?
You bet bust be 18 or older to ride! :wink:


Lol :oops:
tehee weeeee *flaps his hands as he giggles* :o
haha i like how you say your height and your shoe size...horn dog :p
im size 13 shoe myself.
what is an otaku?


_________________
AQ 25

Your Aspie score: 101 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 111 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits


DialAForAwesome
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Oct 2011
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,189
Location: That place with the thing

27 Nov 2012, 8:50 pm

As a (kinda) fellow otaku, an otaku is someone who is obsessed with anime, manga, and Japanese video games. Sometimes it's to the point where the obsessed person doesn't leave their house (not to be confused with hikikomori, which is a very intense, acute fear of the outside world), but not always.


_________________
I don't trust anyone because I'm cynical.
I'm cynical because I don't trust anyone.


wtfid2
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Aug 2012
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,712
Location: usa

27 Nov 2012, 8:59 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
As a (kinda) fellow otaku, an otaku is someone who is obsessed with anime, manga, and Japanese video games. Sometimes it's to the point where the obsessed person doesn't leave their house (not to be confused with hikikomori, which is a very intense, acute fear of the outside world), but not always.
ok now i feel worse about my dating struggles since aspie otaku gets more tail than I do =p


_________________
AQ 25

Your Aspie score: 101 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 111 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits


Shatbat
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Feb 2012
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,791
Location: Where two great rivers meet

27 Nov 2012, 10:16 pm

I'm filthy rich 8)


_________________
To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day. - Winston Churchill


MXH
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

27 Nov 2012, 10:21 pm

Shatbat wrote:
I'm filthy rich 8)

yea... well my car runs rich. how about that one!



Shatbat
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Feb 2012
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,791
Location: Where two great rivers meet

27 Nov 2012, 10:39 pm

I had to look up what that meant :lol:

Well, you've got a car, that must count for something :P


_________________
To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day. - Winston Churchill


MXH
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 28 Jul 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,057
Location: Here i stand and face the rain

27 Nov 2012, 10:53 pm

Shatbat wrote:
I had to look up what that meant :lol:

Well, you've got a car, that must count for something :P


lol. sadly its out of gas, broken and has bald tires. Its a screeching rolling metal death trap



nessa238
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2011
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,908
Location: UK

28 Nov 2012, 9:26 am

BlueMax wrote:
Why don't you two take it to Private Messages and keep the thread clean? ;)


Oh yes I forgot, WP is usually totally free of crude talk and innuendo isn't it?