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01 Dec 2012, 7:56 pm

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Men can be as much a gold digger, as any woman can.
I dont see how. i mean all genders love money, but honestly there is a certain societal expectation by men about women. Men usually do not associate women with money, so if a man goes on a date with a woman it is HER that reels him in, FIRST, and if he finds out she has money maybe he can gold dig by staying with her despite hating her. Women though usually gold dig from the start.


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01 Dec 2012, 7:58 pm

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Yes, mature women don't ask about work and money so quickly.

They understand that men fear to be gold-digged as much women fear to be sexually exploited - it's the same level of fear.
i dont think discussing employment is that unusual man First dates are awkward and sometimes people have no idea what to say. If she was otherwise engaged I would say this behavior could be overlooked. Sounds like she wasn't however. Btw i keep hearing how good looking you are..where are your pics?


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01 Dec 2012, 9:28 pm

I always ask about work on a first date, if it hasn't already been covered during chats if it's online dating. I can't imagine NOT asking about work. Most people spend around 40 hours a week at work...it's a huge part of one's life. So you are getting to know the person, how they spend their time, what they are interested in, their goals etc., why would you leave their job out of this? I'm always keen to know how someone has chosen to spend their working hours, and whether or not they enjoy their job, and if they don't enjoy their job, what would they rather be doing.

I'm genuinely surprised that so many people see this as a taboo topic. What DO you talk about then, in order to get to know someone well enough to decide if you want to see them again?



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01 Dec 2012, 11:21 pm

If she asked that many questions, it sounds like she's actually interested in you.



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01 Dec 2012, 11:45 pm

"I dont see how. i mean all genders love money, but honestly there is a certain societal expectation by men about women. Men usually do not associate women with money, so if a man goes on a date with a woman it is HER that reels him in, FIRST, and if he finds out she has money maybe he can gold dig by staying with her despite hating her. Women though usually gold dig from the start."

I'll discount this statement as ignorance, probably due to where your come from, and the environment to which you are accustomed. I have lived in an affluent world, (not now) and there were plenty of men who approached women with money, with the sole intention of `'gold digging".

I won't elaborate, as this is a part of my life I want to forget. I speak, because I have been there, and witnessed it.

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02 Dec 2012, 5:39 pm

MXH wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
MXH wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
VIDEODROME wrote:
If dates are like job interviews will they eventually have background checks?



You should google your full name and see what pops up. That itself is like a background check.


yea, i never knew i was a singer until I googled my name


You must be a popular person to date then. I found aspergers linked to my name based on a meetup group I joined. I reacted by deleting myself from that group because they aren't active anyway.


yep, im also an olympic swimmer according to wikipedia


I'm a Prime Minister. :lol:



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02 Dec 2012, 5:53 pm

Plodder wrote:
MXH wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
MXH wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
VIDEODROME wrote:
If dates are like job interviews will they eventually have background checks?



You should google your full name and see what pops up. That itself is like a background check.


yea, i never knew i was a singer until I googled my name


You must be a popular person to date then. I found aspergers linked to my name based on a meetup group I joined. I reacted by deleting myself from that group because they aren't active anyway.


yep, im also an olympic swimmer according to wikipedia


I'm a Prime Minister. :lol:

Looks like fun! Let me see...

I am a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu world champion AND a real state broker.

Mark my words: 20 years from now, when you search for "Lucas Leite" on Future Google (powered by SkyNet), you will get pictures of sightings of the "Sky Nomad", the airship of that crazy hermit who lives in a blimp travelling around the world. Its envelope is going to be painted and shaped like a blue whale, by the way.


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