25 Jun 2014, 1:41 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/nov/22/who-drives-car-him-or-her
That's it, to achieve equality of driving, you should make men drunk.
So the problem isn't just that the men would feel emasculated, tarantella.
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This is borne out by statistics. The Institute of Advanced Motorists (IAM) did a survey in 2010. It found that when partners drive together, men are four times more likely to take the wheel. Women drivers are more likely to feel uncomfortable driving when their partner is in the passenger seat.
In 2009, a University of Washington sociologist, Pepper Schwartz, reported that in nine out of 10 households that identify themselves as "feminist", the man did most of the driving when both partners were in the car.
And in most car ads, the man drives.
The one time women drive more than men is when they go out in the evening. In that case, the IAM found, more women drive so their partner can drink.
In 2009, a University of Washington sociologist, Pepper Schwartz, reported that in nine out of 10 households that identify themselves as "feminist", the man did most of the driving when both partners were in the car.
And in most car ads, the man drives.
The one time women drive more than men is when they go out in the evening. In that case, the IAM found, more women drive so their partner can drink.
That's it, to achieve equality of driving, you should make men drunk.
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This is borne out by statistics. The Institute of Advanced Motorists (IAM) did a survey in 2010. It found that when partners drive together, men are four times more likely to take the wheel. Women drivers are more likely to feel uncomfortable driving when their partner is in the passenger seat.
So the problem isn't just that the men would feel emasculated, tarantella.
I think it could as well depend on the typical car choices. I dont relate anything to a car then "vehicle, being able to drive me safely from A to B, with the best possible cost ratio". I bought it second hand, and before me my car was in use by an old couple, that mainly used it for shopping, when the weather was nice. 62 horse power, so its a bit lame when it comes to acceleration (but cheap insurance), no bumps in it but lots of scratches (the old couple had some troubles with parking ^^), as well thats its rather small, and has no air-condition. (I dont really get hot ever.) But technical it was in perfect condition and I got it really cheap, because they could not find a buyer for half an year. While my partner is not that really into cars, but still more then I am, so he has a standard Renault in normal size, with about 90 horse power, and because of him being 6.3 feet, as well a bit more comfortable for his size and he gets hot easily, so air condition is the way to go.
It is totally normal for us, that the one owning the car, is as well the one driving, and nobody feels in general uncomfortable about it. But he simply feels uncomfortable with my small, "lame", hot car. XD So yes, when we are driving together (family visits, ...) its usually him driving in his car, which seems normal to me, simply because he is more used to handling his car, then I am, so its safer. But on the rare occasions, that we cannot choose cars, or do something dusty like bringing garbage to the center, its as well naturally me driving my car, because of me being used to it.
About the support stuff: There is no general answer to it. When you meet a partner, you learn as well about your partner and your expectations of the future and what seems normal to each other when it comes to daily living. And whatever the two person involved, choose that they want to have as their future lifestyle, that will determine on how much money you both need to be financial stable and support your relationship. You both agree that you wanna have the "own house in the suburbia, fancy car, fancy cloths, ... lifestyle. Then you will need to afford all of that, to be financial stable. You agree on doing the "one partner at home, one partner working" lifestyle: Then you need to afford that, to be financial stable.
In the end, you are financial stable, when the things that you both really need for living and that you both additionally choose that you need them for living, matches your both income.
