Help with Aspie man

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If you look like your avatar, I'd snap you up in a minute....

but it wouldn't be fulfilling for me, for I would then not be a challenge for you! You would totally take me for granted, because you know I would esteem your physical presence. This is not something I would be able to tolerate.

I do! I'll email you a pic...

CodeGrey: I agree with GregCav that he sounds like he doesn't understand emotions. He may be backing away from any emotional talk. So you say something you intend to come across as supportive (like your above text), he just reads "emotional talk" and backs away, probably waiting for you to stop that sort of talk and return to topics he's comfortable with.

I mean, if he's hypersensitive to emotion conversation, it would be a bit like how you might respond to something that upsets you-- just back away slowly, then revisit later.

Maybe try an experiment and text him in a day or two with no reference to your previous text or anything emotional. Be causal and friendly-- like nothing ever happened. If he responds well to this, then therein lies your problem: He's not backing away from you, but from emotion-laden conversation.

Then you'd just have to decide if you can live with that...

H CodeGrey,

I would be delighted, indeed, to espy your Actual Image

No I'm not.
In the last couple years I've dated and become good friends with two girls. We are close friends, but no relationship possibility.
I have fallen in love with both of them, but things get messy, and things get thrown. We're closer now as friends than as a dating couple.

I've read many dating books, relationship books, and psychology books. I've prepared myself as best i can. But still no girl to call my own.

And my own opinion of your situation (which is very subjective), is for you to play it safe and exit. Stay in touch if you want to.

4 months is not a lot of time. I would like the initial phase where you don't live together to last a lot longer than that. Might be that he does too.