Is a car required for a relationship?

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He needs a car -- "He who walks, walks alone" -- A motorcycle might be okay, unless it rains or snows.

People with cars can go wherever and whenever they want. They go more places and do more things than people who are at the mercy of parents, siblings, friends, and public transportation. They're also likely have jobs, be responsible, and have some common sense. People pick up on this - even those who've dismissed me as a geeky, gimpy weirdo treat me with a little more respect when they see me pull up in a new Honda Accord.

I remember trying to attract the attention of women at uni when I was single and had no car - I spent my freshman year being in every woman's "Friend Zone". Once I finally got a car of my own, they seemed to want to spend more time with me. Of course, I knew they were buttering me up to ask me to drive them to the clubs or the mall, but at least they spent time with me.

Again, mature women can see past a man's poverty to perceive a kind and caring soul, and would not be concerned with what (or if) a man drives.

^ So you've just done it again, the last sentence seems to contradict the first. Nevermind

I think it mainly depends on the location and distance you and the other are at. As long as you can get together and do things fairly easily, then it is not required. Living fairly close in a city, where there is safe public transport is one example.

There is no contradiction. Perhaps I should elaborate with less verbosity.

He will need a car ... for the majority of immature women he would seek to date.

Some women don't mind dating car-less men ... but mature women are in the minority of all women.

I'm an engineer; it is my nature to consider the exceptions, no matter how insignificant they may be.

Mature women are exceptions to their gender, but not as great an exception as mature men are to theirs.

By 'mature', I mean being both perceptive and appreciative of the person inside, rather than their appearances or possessions.

I'm sorry to have confused you.

Now it makes sense, thanks

And where it isn't easy to get together and do things, one of you may require a car. Doesn't mean it's the OP who requires a car, it could be the person he dates. Either way. Agree?

that would be practical and logical, but humans aren't logical practical thinkers.

same as a woman who is independent so really doesn't need a man to take care of her yet still seeks a man capable of providing for her.

sure women who have cars don't need the guy to have one but they still want him to. perhaps they don't think it would be a good status sign to have to pick up their date. o.O or its just another case of times changing but people's culture ideas staying in the past.

I'd want him to for practical purposes (I live 350km away from the city) but that ain't gonna stop me dating him. If it does I'm a rubbish person

In your case it might be a good idea to have a car just because it seems like you live quite far from everything. I do not think it is required to have a car to be in a relationship though. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where someone judged me based on if I have a car or not, that's really shallow. That actually happened once, she was ok with it but her family wouldn't shut up about it even though I had no interest in ever owning a car again. I had thought it was because of anxiety until I got diagnosed and figured out it was the sensory overload that made me hate driving. Own a car because you can benefit from it and it makes your life easier and not because you think it is what is expected of you.

perhaps but then no more rubbish than the other 90% of people. and if most people are rubbish then doesn't seem wise to reject people based on if they are rubbish.

assuming rubbish means not good

though thats from people in the us. I don't know if people down under are that way same for people in europe.

people here are quite materialistic, but they make up the majority of the population and growing. so it seems to be either play by their rules or be forever alone.

hmm? <tilts head>

I guess I see your point if dating someone is more important to you than dating someone good.

A car is necessary for life!!

I become instantly wary of a girl claiming uniquiness and being "not like the majority of girls" - they often turn out to be full of typical s**t + non-typical s**t.

Yes a car is required because most women think men without cars are losers and will never get with them!