Am I cursed to be forever alone?

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11 Aug 2015, 11:54 pm

CupidAardvark wrote:

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I often wonder that too being 27 and always have been single

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If what you've been doing for 27 years has rendered you single and dateless, continuing to do the exact same thing is likely to continue to result in you being single and dateless.

What can you do differently?

and if its nothing you did, just who you are. or what if its stuff women do?
why always blame the guy. willing to bet you'd not ask a single 27 year old girl this. you'd probably tell her its just a**hole guys and she find someone.

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13 Aug 2015, 6:12 pm

If she was complaining that she could never find any
"nice" guys, I would suggest that maybe she needs to look elsewhere than where she currently is, and try to figure out why she is attracting the "unnice" ones.

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13 Aug 2015, 9:26 pm

sly279 wrote:

CupidAardvark wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

I often wonder that too being 27 and always have been single

There is no 27 year old woman on this thread wondering if it is too late for her to find love or complaining that all men reject her.

Would telling you that all the women who have rejected you are a**holes and that you should go find some different girls make you feel better?

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13 Aug 2015, 11:13 pm

MissUnderstud wrote:

sly279 wrote:

CupidAardvark wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

I often wonder that too being 27 and always have been single

better then you telling me I worthless trash and its all my fault and those women who you don't even know are all right to reject and call me not a real man. yes.

negative reinforcement doesn't make people happy. it only makes them more sad. but you're always side with women any women because they women. some woman could probably rape a guy, beat him and lock him in a cage and you'd probably still side with her.

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14 Aug 2015, 8:56 pm

if you yearn so much for a girlfriend then be sure that you're really prepared cause AS relationship is kinda complicated....besides, maybe you're just looking at the wrong locations just kidding..be yourself, someone will appreciate you for being you for sure

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15 Aug 2015, 2:37 am

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There's a lot of people out there who like to spot your weaknesses and take advantage of them, hence why you're 170$ in a hole. She probably figured she could just trade you sex for pity and money, which it seems happened.

Either way, never loan anyone money unless you fully trust them and have known them for a very long time..

That is not true, never loan money to anyone, even your family, which you know since birth, can be piece of poo and never give anything back. Better to keep everything for yourself.

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15 Aug 2015, 5:34 am

Only if you believe in curses

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15 Aug 2015, 7:41 am

Feyokien wrote:

Only if you believe in curses

But...if someone has zero social skills, bad life-cv, extremly ugly, very strange, will never get a good job, shy and is skinny becuse of ulcer and cant fix anythng of this thngs....how could a guy like this get a gf?

Curses does it exist, since this guy that i am talking about is me. I have no idea why i have so many flaws, its insane. Its like a nightmare i cant wake up from.

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15 Aug 2015, 7:13 pm

white_as_snow wrote:

Feyokien wrote:

Only if you believe in curses

well, if you really believe that you could only endure dear...

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15 Aug 2015, 7:25 pm

Just make more money & buy yourself a robot girl-friend. Problem solved !

For cases where a cyborg-girl just won't suffice, then it's probably just a psychological-issue, something in which case you may as well just go & see a hypno-therapist for (once you've made more money of course).

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18 Aug 2015, 11:08 pm

it is not unheard of for a guy to be 25 and older to have never had a girlfriend, even over 30, but it is almost never heard of for a girl to be over 25 and never had a boyfriend

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19 Aug 2015, 3:36 pm

white_as_snow wrote:

Feyokien wrote:

Only if you believe in curses

Have you shared a pic and gotten feedback on whether you really ARE as horribly ugly as you say you are? Because unless you're in, say, the bottom 5% EMPIRICALLY looks-wise, how you look is NOT exclusively why you don't get dates. Put another way, just because you think you're hideously ugly doesn't mean you actually are.

The ulcer? Is probably cureable with antibiotics.

The skinny thing? If the ulcer makes you super-thin, anti-biotics will solve it in a week or two. If you're skinny because you come from a family of skinny peeps, well, you're a skinny dude. (I'm a tall beanpole skinny girl... who was nicknamed Skeletor in high school and chose to embrace it. Because I didn't really have another option, I had a stylish friend help me shop to find stuff that looked good. My style "thing" turned out to be very short skirts with opaque tights. Try to find the skinny dude equivalent).

Bad social skills? Is it really bad social skills or do you just dislike people, all people? If it's the latter, you don't HAVE to date and if it's the former, you CAN improve your social skills (therapy, improv class, toastmasters, etc).

The CV and job skills are likely somewhat fixable too. Or at least improvesble.

The feeling that your cursed? Only you can (or can choose not to) fix that. Because either way, it's probably a self-fulfilling prophesy.

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26 Aug 2015, 3:18 am

i'm trying to look at Zach Roloff and Kyle Maynard for inspiration lately.

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30 Aug 2015, 9:09 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:

i'm trying to look at Zach Roloff and Kyle Maynard for inspiration lately.

Kyle Maynard was a popular star athlete in high school and a successful sportsman, entrepreneur and motivational speaker in adulthood. Zachary Roloff is the star of a somewhat popular TV series. Both have been independent and gainfully employed since completing their educations and neither lives at home with their parents as adults.

What do you have in common with either dude besides a disability?

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30 Aug 2015, 9:16 am

That we could aspire to be like those dudes...even if we're not "there" yet.

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03 Oct 2015, 2:52 pm

Tarantulaa wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

i'm trying to look at Zach Roloff and Kyle Maynard for inspiration lately.

Kyle Maynard was born without arms and legs, and yet he was able to get a girlfriend, Zach Roloff has Dwarfism, and he got married in real life.

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