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24 Jun 2015, 7:38 pm

Ban-Dodger wrote:

I am only speaking from personal-experience here but if you find it hard to swallow then feel free to be a skeptic.

Can do.

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24 Jun 2015, 8:49 pm

I'm a late diagnosed autistic female and I'm only getting rejection too. And it sucks. I just don't know how to give subtle clues, so then I end up being to forward. Seriously, I'm lonely and I don't see this changing and it is really making me feel like an outsider.

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24 Jun 2015, 8:52 pm

If I wasn't married, I'd certainly give you a whirl.

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24 Jun 2015, 8:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

If I wasn't married, I'd certainly give you a whirl.

Come up to Kingston and I'll show you the sites.

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24 Jun 2015, 9:00 pm

Have you ever been to the Kingston in New York? It's near Woodstock.

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24 Jun 2015, 9:04 pm

Ban-Dodger wrote:

I am going to let you in on a little secret:

Dating is not a requirement for having sex with a lady regardless of her NT or Aspie-status....

'Splain to me whyfor you change this thread from a thread about dating to a thread about getting laid in first reply.

Sex and dating are not synonymous, q.e.d.

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24 Jun 2015, 9:58 pm

androbot01 wrote:

hugs. though at least you had past bfs and got to experience that stuff

I never will.

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24 Jun 2015, 10:11 pm

I'm somewhat shocked that no one has yet to start a sort of "Sargent Peppers Lonely Hearts Club Band" for all the hopeless romantics and other romantically/dating challenged individuals out there. Always fun to talk to like minded people or anyone for that matter since I'm usually devoid of most social interaction

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24 Jun 2015, 10:19 pm

Lifeistoohard wrote:

There's are far less Aspie women out there.

It should seem obvious when looking at the CDC stats of 4:1 (boy/girl) gender ratio for Autism that even if all the Aspie women partnered up with a guy on the spectrum, most Aspie guys would still be single, or left at the mercy of (gasp) non-autistic girls.

Aspie guys are not limited to Aspie girls. I married an NT (a fairly attractive, outgoing one at that). I am sure there are plenty of other Aspie guys who married NT women as well.

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24 Jun 2015, 10:23 pm

Aye I've dated NT woman before I was diagnosed. Doubt I'm the only aspie male to have had a good time or relationship with an NT woman

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25 Jun 2015, 1:16 am

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Younger males generally have difficulty in the dating game for the simple fact that men are human doings, whereas women are human beings. Woman's value is innate, men have no such privilege.

Look at our sexual dimorphism, men have evolved the muscles for an important reason, and it's to manipulate the environment, ergo we are valued for our utility, a young male, an aspie especially, will not have achieved much until his 30's and beyond. A useful male is a sexy male, younger men are not yet useful, hence why women tend to date older men. They often cite maturity as a reason, but it has nothing to do with maturity and all to do with wealth and utility.

Anyways, males should always seek to perfect their bodies and especially aspies whom will need to compensate for the social defiencies should they not be endowed with beauty. Women are still hardwired to find sculpted bodies irresistable, since the reptile-brain still equates fitness with utility. If you're an aspie male with a beer gut, and are miserable with the ladies, it's time to compensate!

or we could just die, like useless worthless things should.

but I'm hoping for some disaster that kills all humans. what a utterly horrible race we all. maybe some alien race will realise this and come wipe us all out before we try to spread our horribleness to other planets.

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25 Jun 2015, 2:12 am

The human-race already IS a disaster. Dost thou not bother to watch any of those documentaries ?

sly279 wrote:

but I'm hoping for some disaster that kills all humans. what a utterly horrible race we all. maybe some alien race will realise this and come wipe us all out before we try to spread our horribleness to other planets.

I will post & recommend one for you then right now right here...

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25 Jun 2015, 2:22 am

i will bet you right now there are just as many aspie/autistic women as there are men. they are just more likely to be misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all.

also: because our social skills, and oftentimes our hygiene skills, suck.

I had a 2 year relationship with this girl, only to find out near the end that we are both on the spectrum. (Don't worry, that's not why we broke up.)

I dont think I could date a NT, they're kindof annoying haha. :lol:

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25 Jun 2015, 8:50 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Have you ever been to the Kingston in New York? It's near Woodstock.

Never been to New York state. Been to Maine and Florida though.

But regarding the topic, I think as an autistic female I fail to properly fulfill the role of "girlfriend." I am too self-involved and independent. Men in my experience seem to want their girlfriends to be extensions of themselves. That is not fulfilling for me.

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25 Jun 2015, 9:13 am

I'm pretty "individual" myself. I think I'm similar to you in this regard.

My wife finds me quite selfish, actually.

I'm just one who really believes in personal autonomy; her culture does not believe in individualism.

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25 Jun 2015, 10:36 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Have you ever been to the Kingston in New York? It's near Woodstock.

"and we're going down to Yasger's farm, going to join in the rock and roll there"

Today sounds like a good day to listen to CSN or CSN & Y.

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