What does it take to love someone?

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Why do you/would you love someone?

If they love you, you'll love them back	4%	[ 1 ]
They have a particular personality type	13%	[ 3 ]
Beauty	4%	[ 1 ]
They have certain traits you look for	17%	[ 4 ]
Because they date you	4%	[ 1 ]
Chemistry	8%	[ 2 ]
Sparks between you	0%	[ 0 ]
You just click	21%	[ 5 ]
They're just the one	13%	[ 3 ]
Don't know/Can't explain	17%	[ 4 ]

Total votes : 24

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09 Dec 2015, 6:02 pm

Thankfully for me, my special someone believes in soulmates, and I noticed a number of fascinating "coincidences" that happened before we first met!

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09 Dec 2015, 6:06 pm

I fell in love with all 3 of my girlfriends because they were willing to give me a chance. I then found lots of things I loved about them.

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09 Dec 2015, 6:11 pm

^That makes it sound like there's three versions of your girlfriend [you forgot an 's'].

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09 Dec 2015, 6:16 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:

^That makes it sound like there's three versions of your girlfriend [you forgot an 's'].

Thanx for telling me. I corrected it.

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09 Dec 2015, 7:31 pm

nurseangela wrote:

Kuraudo777 wrote:

I'm fascinated by the idea of soulmates, but I've never brought it up in conversations with people [mainly because they likely wouldn't find it interesting and for fear of being ridiculed]. :heart:

I believe in it too, but I don't talk about it either because most guys would probably think it's weird.

I'm a guy and don't think it's weird.

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09 Dec 2015, 7:33 pm

^What are your opinions about soulmates? *curious* Speaking of which, whatever happened to my Soulmate thread? It sort of disappeared after awhile.

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10 Dec 2015, 12:51 am

^ I think soulmates are just people who are ideal for each other. In any large population there must be people who are ideal for each other but finding them could be hard.

Two soulmates could live in the same city. They could marry other people and live in unhappy marriages, then one day they could brush past each other on the street and never know they'd just walked past their soulmate.

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10 Dec 2015, 1:04 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

Soulmates aren't always found, they can be grown as well.

In case that was too vague, I'm referring to the "learn to love them" aspect that can occur in relationships.

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10 Dec 2015, 1:26 am

nick007 wrote:

I fell in love with all 3 of my girlfriends because they were willing to give me a chance. I then found lots of things I loved about them.

Now you sound poligamous.

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10 Dec 2015, 1:28 am

Peacesells wrote:

nick007 wrote:

I fell in love with all 3 of my girlfriends because they were willing to give me a chance. I then found lots of things I loved about them.

Now you sound poligamous.

I'm not. I had em at different times. It didn't work out with the 1st two but things are going good with my current.

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10 Dec 2015, 2:00 am

nick007 wrote:

Peacesells wrote:

nick007 wrote:

I fell in love with all 3 of my girlfriends because they were willing to give me a chance. I then found lots of things I loved about them.

Now you sound poligamous.

I'm not. I had em at different times. It didn't work out with the 1st two but things are going good with my current.

I know, I was joking.

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10 Dec 2015, 2:24 am

I find it interesting that 'trust' isn't mentioned in the poll.

Nor, 'respect'.

The sort of qualities that are built up somewhat slowly like a wall, one brick or stone at a time carefully fitted into place. Both were key elements for my spouse( <--- soulmate! ) and me. Neither of us could love someone who wasn't also our best friend *first*, the kind of best friend who can make you laugh, will call you on your BS (especially to yourself) and will always be there.

Also, the person has to smell right, but that's just biology.

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10 Dec 2015, 3:39 am

I voted "They have certain traits you look for"
Someone who is passionate about something is so attractive and addictive that I cannot help but love them.

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10 Dec 2015, 4:04 am

Edenthiel wrote:

I find it interesting that 'trust' isn't mentioned in the poll.

Nor, 'respect'.

Those are covered in "They have certain traits you look for"

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Neither of us could love someone who wasn't also our best friend *first*

I guess but I find the idea of dating my female friends to be a little creepy and awkard.

Is better for your partner to be from your existing pool of friends or is it better to meet someone new and start with dating?

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Also, the person has to smell right, but that's just biology.

Very true, I think they've done scientific experiments to confirm that. The effect is subconscious yet very powerful. I think it proves3 they have compatible (different) immune systems (opposites attract, genetically speaking)

I think that's one of the biggest downsides of online dating, you can't smell them.

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