Polygamy and Polyamory

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I wouldn't be comfortable with doing that, I would be fine with letting her have her fun.

I'm just not up to having that kind of relationship with that many people I think.

I realize that I phrased it wrong, by adding marriage.
But aren't polyamorous relationships supposed to be
exclusive? That was the real point that I was trying to
pin down. I would think that the opposite of monogamy
would be no commitments whatsoever.

Though, what I seek is nothing so elaborate. Just a mutually
loving situation amongst a group of three. I've managed it,
but only briefly - things fell apart because, although we all
loved one another, two of us could never stand the third.
On my own, dislike wasn't a deal-breaker, but it just fell
apart one night.

The tough part is for someone like me, who has trouble
catching just one lover, letting someone know that I'm
interested in them, whilst already in a relationship is
very difficult. So, while we managed some one-nighters,
and kind of chased a couple of others, we never really
managed to get what we desired again.

they don't have to be.

Polyamory (from poly=multiple + amor=love) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

which is a pretty vague description... but it boils down to everyone in the relationship is free to have more then one intimate relationship at a time.




i still think it's the exact opposite. having no relationship or commitment would be something different, wouldn't you think?

If I could find more than one girl... I'd be interested...

There's the rub though. I rarely have even one, much less more than one.

Eh, if you wanna do that sort of thing, be my guest. I'd never do it, personally.

It's easy to be a committed polygamist,
when you don't have anyone at all.

I personally want to be in a three or four.
But I don't care so much. I would like it if polygamy was not a felony in most states. I really think that as long as it's consensual it's fine.

And to all of you people who say things like "polygamists barter/enslave women", this isn't true, it is hateful and I really don't like it when people make blanket statements like that about my orientation. Polyamorists are 100% capable of having a consensual, healthy relationship. Polyamory is an orientation that one is born with; not a scheme to bash women and have lots of sex. In fact, there are polyamorists that are gay/lesbian (like myself). If you are concerned about the effect that legalizing polygamy would have on women, perhaps your focus should not be on suppressing polyamorists' freedom of romantic expression, but on protecting victims of domestic abuse and rape. And of course, we can't forget; there is a lot of domestic abuse that takes place in monoamorist relationships too.

Really, the government's role is to protect people's rights and keep them out of harm's way (from other people), and punish people who violate others' rights. The government really isn't doing enough to prevent the real problem, which is domestic violence.

The government needs to butt out of marriage entirely. And if you are poly/straight, it's not your job to be making decisions about MOGAI (Marginalized Orientations, Genders, And Intersex) people. If you want to support us, I applaud, but if you want to start making all kinds of generalizations, now is the time for you to end your hate speech.

That's my 2c.
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With love,
Dante.

Honestly, whatever floats your boat is fine by me.

Umm. No. Polyamorous marriages (which would be polygamy) are based on intimacy and love.
Don't make generalizations like this against my orientation. It's hateful and rude.

I become so focused on my partner that I cant imagine wanting to be with anyone else except maybe if I could date the iCarly star, Miranda Cosgrove at the same time

I would love to have more than one partner!

It takes two to make love true. I'm certain most of you would agree with this.
Then there's the old saying; "three is a crowd". Just think how sucky it would be to feel like the third wheel. Something I'm sure many people here at WP, including myself, have experienced. Polygamy is simply ghastly; If there is someone who makes you happier than anyone else, you shouldn't be desiring another. It's that simple.