I'm in one at the moment.
For what it's worth, here's what happened. Copied exact post from another forum, the one we met on. Random Babble is a thread.
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Happened completely by accident as well. 16th August last year, we were in Random Babble. I was a bit hyper, gave her an ehug. Said I wouldn't let go if she didn't mind, she didn't. Soon enough people thought we were going out; PM'ed her about it to warn her. Started talking via PMs. Traded MSNs and got it working on the 18th. Started as friends. I started liking her, I told her, she said no-not that I can blame her, obviously. Several months later, on the 18th of December I believe, she said she liked me-I still liked her-and we agreed to wait before officially going out. Wait till we met. Met on the 18th Febuary this year, wandered around York for several hours with our arms round each other. Eventually I remembered to ask her out (haha, I forgot because it was just like we were anyway :p) and yeah. Rest is pretty self-explanatory.
Would I have chosen long distance over short?
Well... Let's think about this.
Long distance is harder. Much more so than a normal distance relationship; especially when one of the two people has a problem (for instance, someone else who liked said person being a bit of a hole about it) and they're really not taking it well. If you're watching them on webcam.. well, you see them get upset. You can't go there and hug them, you can't do anything physical to cheer them up. It's not easy when that happens.
Meeting up in the first place, as well, especially if you can't drive, is hell. Took me and her two months to finally meet.
And when people you know in person find out you like someone over the Internet, they can and often will give you hell because of it... because, obviously, every other person aside from you is a pedo.
And if, say, you're both suddenly in big, important exams, like the GCSEs, it's a whole new sack of crap. Take us, we probably won't see each other until after them.
So, yeah, it's a lot harder. So why do it?
Because it's worth it when you do meet up. It is worth it every single time you look down and see them in your arms. It is worth it with every hug, every kiss, every tiny bit of physical contact, every second you're with them is so much more special and amazing than it would have been in a SDR (short distance relationship.)
It turns into a case of meet whenever possible. I do a living history thing (no secret tbh) which takes me all over the country. This is often near her-eergo we see each other often when I'm doing that. We're intending to spend a good amount of time at each other's houses, overnight, soon; simply so we can spend time together more.
I wouldn't give up the memories, or a chance for more of said memories, for anything.
It may be hard, but dammit, it is worth it in the end.
Still hold to what I said there. It's hard, very hard - but worth it.
<EDIT> Oh, if I didn't mention, we meet up whenever possible - although exams are making thinggs difficult.
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07 May 2007, 10:13 pm
*Really* long distance.
