My NT Partner revealed he doesn't like tongue kissing me.

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03 Jul 2018, 8:43 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
In order to "do it right," you have to not slobber.....and you have to caress each other's tongues, and never even get NEAR the tonsils.


Indeed. Previous guy I was with, we got a bit messy, but we liked it.

I'd really like to thank everyone who has commented on this thread, it means a lot to me. I have talked to my friends about so many issues lately that I feel like they're sick of it (They also don't know I'm an Aspie). This is a really great community and you are all wonderful. :heart:


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03 Jul 2018, 8:49 pm

I like your screen name. It's pretty creative.



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03 Jul 2018, 8:57 pm

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I like your screen name. It's pretty creative.


Combination of my professional name and my secret name. :lol:


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03 Jul 2018, 8:59 pm

Just find someone who appreciates you for who you are. Be happy.



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03 Jul 2018, 9:04 pm

Etta James did a song called “Wallflower” in 1954. It was also called “Work with Me Henry.”



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03 Jul 2018, 11:33 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Etta James did a song called “Wallflower” in 1954. It was also called “Work with Me Henry.”


Very cool. I just youtube'd that.


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05 Jul 2018, 12:35 am

So NOW that I've asked again he's saying it's because I mentioned two years ago that I liked kissing the Aspie guy I was seeing previously (they know each other) and that I felt a special connection. And he feels that I don't like kissing him and he's inadequate etc. that's supposedly why he doesn't like or want to tongue kiss me.

If that's the case, it would be me pushing him away and me pulling away from the kiss? And I don't.

He's spoken about previous partners and his experience and lied about who he's been with and such. It should be me not wanting to do anything with him.

It doesn't make any sense as to why he can't kiss me, but every other woman he's ever been with or had a fling with, even if he hasn't liked them or even found them attractive.
I feel offended and angry. >:(

Yet he still wants to make everything work.
He thinks lying to me for basically the entire duration of our relationship is just a little "bump" to get over... I will never trust him as much as he wants and how much I did, which was 100%.

I wish we were not living together. I just want to live by myself. :cry:

Sorry to annoy anybody. I feel like I am a burden and I have nobody in my life who understands me and my conditions to talk to.


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05 Jul 2018, 7:01 am

When I was in college, I had a girl who took pity on me and showed me how to kiss. She was from South America and the girls there are much more adept in that area. She explained to me all the different types of kissing such as the simple kiss, the French kiss, the truly romantic kiss, the kiss that leaves a mark (Hickey Kiss) and we practiced each technique.

But the most important kiss of all was the truly romantic kiss. The secret is that it is all done with the eyes. First you need to be alone and remain perfectly quiet. You need to look deep within their eyes until you can see the shadow of their soul, then you slowly move your faces together without breaking eye contact. And then kiss the girl on her lips. She demonstrated the technique and I could see her point. I would have never known, not in a million years.


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05 Jul 2018, 7:44 am

jimmy m wrote:
When I was in college, I had a girl who took pity on me and showed me how to kiss. She was from South America and the girls there are much more adept in that area. She explained to me all the different types of kissing such as the simple kiss, the French kiss, the truly romantic kiss, the kiss that leaves a mark (Hickey Kiss) and we practiced each technique.

But the most important kiss of all was the truly romantic kiss. The secret is that it is all done with the eyes. First you need to be alone and remain perfectly quiet. You need to look deep within their eyes until you can see the shadow of their soul, then you slowly move your faces together without breaking eye contact. And then kiss the girl on her lips. She demonstrated the technique and I could see her point. I would have never known, not in a million years.


Sounds beautiful. :heart: I had this before. It's such a thing I feel that in the moment, if it happens, it is very special. It's not something that you can force. Beautiful.
I kind of wish a nice guy had taken pity on me and shown me how to kiss in school, but then again the thing about me is that it's something that I would feel repulsed even trying if I wasn't comfortable with the person, if I didn't feel a deep connection to the person. I didn't even want to hold hands with anyone at the time. :lol:

I like reading these really nice sounding stories of people learning how to kiss from someone like that in this thread. It sounds romantic, special and spontaneous in a sense.


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