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24 Jun 2020, 12:05 pm

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Man....if only a woman had ever had a crush on me!

That’s never happened to me.

It's happened to me, but I was oblivious to it and found out about it way after the fact. I think that might be worse than never having it happen!



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24 Jun 2020, 12:09 pm

Steve1963 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Man....if only a woman had ever had a crush on me!

That’s never happened to me.

It's happened to me, but I was oblivious to it and found out about it way after the fact. I think that might be worse than never having it happen!


Story of my life. I have always been oblivious when it comes to women who've had crushes on me. I agree that's definitely worse in my book.



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24 Jun 2020, 12:16 pm

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Story of my life. I have always been oblivious when it comes to women who've had crushes on me. I agree that's definitely worse in my book.
Same here. I'm told I have a very charming mask. :)



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24 Jun 2020, 1:49 pm

Also highly oblivious in my teens and twenties. Apparently a lot of guys were crazy about me and I had no clue until social dynamics blew up :lol:


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24 Jun 2020, 10:02 pm

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A man having a crush on me is worse than a woman not having a crush on me

(I know you weren’t serious).


Just don't bend down in front of me.
There is only so much discipline in a skunk. :mrgreen:



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24 Jun 2020, 10:13 pm

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kraftiekortie wrote:
A man having a crush on me is worse than a woman not having a crush on me

(I know you weren’t serious).


Just don't bend down in front of me.
There is only so much discipline in a skunk. :mrgreen:
True, we might get sprayed :lol:


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24 Jun 2020, 11:38 pm

nick007 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
A man having a crush on me is worse than a woman not having a crush on me

(I know you weren’t serious).


Just don't bend down in front of me.
There is only so much discipline in a skunk. :mrgreen:
True, we might get sprayed :lol:


Actually,
There is only a danger of that happening if *I bend down. :wink:



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01 Jul 2020, 2:43 pm

So I tried asking my crush if he wanted to meet up again. I thought he might be alright with it considering that nice text he sent me in response to mine a little over a week ago. He said no. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. My confidence has taken a major hit now and I don't think I'll ever be able to tell him how I feel. My anxiety is telling me that he doesn't like me at all and he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings. He said he'd prefer to keep to himself for a while because of what he's been through the past few months even though he was able to meet with me a week and a half ago. Maybe he already knows I like him in that way and doesn't want to be involved with that kind of stuff. I don't know anymore.



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01 Jul 2020, 4:37 pm

That’s a rejection - now it is time to ghost him.



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01 Jul 2020, 6:12 pm

Unfortunately I have to agree with Boo; it doesn't look good. I'm sorry.


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01 Jul 2020, 6:14 pm

You have nothing to be sorry about my dear.

You were brave.

It did cross my mind that he may be anxious about socialising at this difficult time.

I hope you can hold your head up high.



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01 Jul 2020, 8:04 pm

I can't believe I wasted a whole year trying to get close to that sod only for him to reject me like everyone else. I give up.



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01 Jul 2020, 8:24 pm

Thundragon wrote:
So I tried asking my crush if he wanted to meet up again. I thought he might be alright with it considering that nice text he sent me in response to mine a little over a week ago. He said no. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. My confidence has taken a major hit now and I don't think I'll ever be able to tell him how I feel. My anxiety is telling me that he doesn't like me at all and he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings. He said he'd prefer to keep to himself for a while because of what he's been through the past few months even though he was able to meet with me a week and a half ago. Maybe he already knows I like him in that way and doesn't want to be involved with that kind of stuff. I don't know anymore.


I agree with Boo,
For whatever reason, it is clear he isn't interested.
Time to move on, imo.

I guess you could ask him why he isn't interested in seeing you, for closure's sake.
No guarantee he will respond.
C'est la vie. <shrug>



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09 Jul 2020, 11:05 pm

This may be more of a situation of timing for whatever reason but do respect his wishes.
If you feel compelled and brave enough to weather rejection, you might send him a note checking up on his feelings in a month or two.
Sorry that it didn’t work out, congrats for being brave enough to try.



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01 Aug 2020, 7:36 pm

Thundragon wrote:
I can't believe I wasted a whole year trying to get close to that sod only for him to reject me like everyone else. I give up.


You didn't waste a year. You spent time with a person that made you happy for a while. You also learned more about yourself and how to handle this type of situation. You grew and had an experience that we all go through. Remember you were braver than a lot of other people out there. Yes, it sucks it didn't work out the way you wanted but it definitely wasn't a waste of time.