I am sick of older women being interested in me

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21 May 2023, 9:45 am

My older partners weren't rich. In fact one of them was homeless. We had a lot of things in common, or so it seemed at the time. Stop worrying about what your mother or anyone else has told you about women. Go out and meet women in authentic ways where it's natural to have a conversation and speak to them. It would be best if there was no alcohol at the locale, and ideally no chairs. That way you won't be tempted to have them sit on your lap, and no one else will tease you about wanting that in the past since it will be a whole new group of people.

What are you passionate about, besides going to the same pub every weekend?

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21 May 2023, 11:52 am

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22 May 2023, 5:30 am

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Age is just a number, if you're both consenting adults. I often get older guys liking me while guys my age wouldn't touch me with a barge pole. My boyfriend is in his 60s and I'm in my 30s. But it is a healthy relationship and I love him and he loves me, no exploiting involved at all (he's not just with me for sex and I'm not just with him for money).

My partner and I have a similar age gap, though we barely think about it unless someone else says something. We're very happy together, coming up on 4 years this summer. She's definitely not after my money, because I have none.

Lol, my boyfriend has no money either. And he has a low sex drive and he'd rather be romantic than just sexual, if that makes sense. So he's definitely not with me just for the sex, he's with me because he loves me. We've been together 9 years now, and have been living together over 5 years.
I have a feeling your relationship is the same, which proves that large age gap relationships can work.

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22 May 2023, 5:49 am

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Someone said to me its because older women have less options. What does that mean?

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22 May 2023, 5:55 am

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Someone said to me its because older women have less options. What does that mean?

Well, this is actually quite insulting when people say that to you. It's as if to say "you're not really that good, probably not that good looking either, and only women who can't get anyone else may look at you". So it's hurtful really to say that.

I get (older) men who are happily married flirting with me and calling me beautiful. In fact I get more married men after me than not, but I have morals and wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend nor would I go out with a married man even if I was single.

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22 May 2023, 6:13 am

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Someone said to me its because older women have less options. What does that mean?

Well the person who made that comment posted that to me on reddit

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22 May 2023, 6:32 am

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Someone said to me its because older women have less options. What does that mean?

Well the person who made that comment posted that to me on reddit

I'm sorry to hear that. :cry:

I don't think that's the reason older people go for us. I think it's just one of those things. Maybe older people look at the bigger picture while younger people our age are more shallow and get more attracted to effort and confidence.

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22 May 2023, 6:40 am

Joe90 wrote:

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Someone said to me its because older women have less options. What does that mean?

Well the person who made that comment posted that to me on reddit

I'm sorry to hear that. :cry:

I know a woman in her late 40s who constantly gets hit on by guys in there 60s and 70s, Men her own age are not interested.

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22 May 2023, 6:43 am

There are a variety of reasons (good and bad) why people may express interest in someone. Not having other options could be the reason some of the time. It’s impossible for us to know without actually knowing the people involved IRL.

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22 May 2023, 6:50 am

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Why do you think some older women have less options?

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22 May 2023, 6:58 am

I don't mind older men being interested in me only though. If they weren't then I'd still be single.

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22 May 2023, 7:01 am

There is also the unfortunate reality of looking older than your biological age being the reason as well.

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22 May 2023, 7:08 am

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Why do you think some older women have less options?

Maybe most of the men they know are married. Younger people are less likely to be settled in life with a partner.

At any rate, you can’t know that people closer to your own age wouldn’t be interested because you’ve never tried asking any out, so this thread is, ultimately, pointless.

As has already been suggested, look for opportunities to meet new people. You might find someone who’s closer to your own age and who might fancy you.

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22 May 2023, 8:05 am

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There is also the unfortunate reality of looking older than your biological age being the reason as well.

I often read that it's common for autistic adults to look younger than their age. Not sure if this applies to the OP. I think I look younger than 33, but I don't wear makeup so not sure if that'll make me look older or not. I don't seem to get asked for ID much any more when buying adult things in shops.

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23 May 2023, 10:09 am

How do you think women in their early 20s feel when you want to date them.

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23 May 2023, 11:28 am

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How do you think women in their early 20s feel when you want to date them.

Annoyed probably

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