Biggest turnoff to NT's = Innocense?

Post Reply New Topic

People are probably turned off by my inncoence, but oh well.

I agree with Spanky, innocence and a 'childlike' quality are very attractive, particularly as it comes with a childlike enthusiasm that is so rare in people.

What I find unattractive is a 'seen it, been there' attitude and generally a desire to meld into a crowd. Most guys I come across (all NT) are just like that: have the same interests, are into the same sports, wear the same stuff, think the same things. B-O-R-I-N-G

Dare to be innoncent, dare to be different!

How much do you all think finding innocence attractive correlates to age? Seems like a lot of young people find it a turn-off... they want the maturity and glamor that comes with being worldly, maybe... but older people have had their fill of that and it becomes rarer and rarer to come across a person who's still got a child's enthusiasm, so it becomes a valued trait.

Hmmm... Good question Pyraxis. In my experience, I would say that there generally is an age correlate. The last thing that most adolescents want to be perceived as is "innocent" or "young" or "childlike" and since most adolescents are thinking like this, the last thing most adolescents want to feel is "different" from the herd. That being said, there are those of that age who could care less what their peers perceive them as being, either from an early sense of personal identity, a lack of desire to "fit in", or many other factors.

I think as we age and personalities and temperments become more fully formed, people begin to naturally gravitate toward the perceptions of others and expressions of self that are most comfortable for them given their life experiences, beliefs, opinions, and self-awareness. As this happens over time, I do believe that an "innocence" or "childlike wonder" and enthusiasm" can become attractive to more people. There are certain professions where these qualities prevail. The creative fields require this approach to life in order to tap into the higher levels of creativity. Many of those with strong leadership qualities also must tap into this energy to be visionary and promote the "out of the box" thinking that is so strongly touted in so many emerging businesses. Some just find that thinking and perceiving the world in such a way is more fun and enjoyable.
Also, I see cultural/ethnic/lifestyle differences that have a different appreciation for these qualities.

However, all that being said, I still see that even as grown adults, most are still trying to "fit in", "keep up", and are still preoccupied with what the majority of people think of them and a "childlike wonder" is still not understood and fully appreciated by all.