Woman Want a Man Who they Can Show to Their Friend

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If you are dating a ret*d silly fugly woman who laughs in public loudly like a harlot hag and doesn't even know the difference between Iran and KSA, would you feel proud being with her around your friends? Won't you feel embarrassed?

I think the original message of Aspie Chav was totally miscontrued- i dont think it has anything to do with status, money, or superficiality.

People want mates who get along with their friends and family. You dont have to be the life of the party, but they want people who would like to get to know their loved ones, possibly go out with them on friend or family outings, to be able to have a conversation- doesnt have to be a great philosophical one, just a normal conversation.

It's simply an effort to coordinate all areas of your life. I've told my boyfriend that it's important he at least tries to understand m family, as I am around them a lot, and he wasnt very close with his so it is something new for him. I cant tell you how uncomfortable, stressful and sad it is when two halves of your life dont get along or even do not understand each other. You want people to like each other, especially if they both mean a lot to you. If you feel like your mate wont get along with your friends, it kind of sucks. I try to be sociable with his friends, and he tried with mine. We dont ask each other to be perfect social butterflies; any effort is effort appreciated. You dont want one side to always be in your ear of why that person isnt right for you. It avoids MANY problems.

^^ you have changed, your posts are too serious lately , no humor at all.

Wow did I invoke a reaction or what?


As for the response to the quote....I guess it touched me beyond humor. It reminded me of some serious stuff.

Fear of being raped is a genuinely female specific problem, NT or AS, I grant you. Men do have to worry about being hurt in a variety of ways too, however. Trust issues are universal, I think, but men do have the disadvantage of basically having to take women's word for it that they performed well sexually in any given encounter. That's a hell of a lot of trust to give somebody, and a primary reason I intend to remain single for the rest of my life. Men also have to worry about marriage and its financial implications for them. Remember, in a community property state, she gets half of his gross pretax dollars in the event of divorce. So women have to worry about their partners raping them and men have to worry about being cruelly humored in bed and robbed for half of what they're worth. Of course, I'm sure there are obvious exceptions, but my point is valid.

-Frank

Frank, thanks for your perspective. Trust is an issue for both males and females. I don't think you should let what someone says about your performance in bed tear you down. If they do that, they're not a good person. I'm sorry that judges are not always fair in community property states, but I really have to say that comparing those two things to rape is...well, I just don't have words for it.

The rape comparison isn't my own idea. I got it from one of Gene Simmons' books. The idea is that men define themselves by their ability to be financially independent, if single, or a good provider, if coupled. The way the loss of that status affects a man is, essentially, a profound loss of control and power, the exact description a rape crisis counselor friend of mine gives to explain the toll rape takes on a woman. Also, she informed me when I mentioned this debate to her that about 5% of reported rapes are men, and yes that stat counts only heterosexual rape. Surprised me too, but she's the expert.

As to the trust in bed thing, I'm not equating that to rape in degree or importance, only in the sense that men usually don't have to worry about rape and women don't usually have to worry about their partner faking, so there are male exclusive trust issues. Of course, my friend's above point weakens that, so there you go.

-Frank

We got of track a little. The way for aspies to view how woman choose their partners. Can she show him to her friends? This is one of the pass criterias.