"Boring"

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^^ Now now???! O.o

Don't look at me... you're the one who keeps talking about how men shorter than about 2 meters will never get laid...

I think talking about your interests makes you interesting. I think aspie guys have the potential to be way more interesting than NT guys because of their general knowledge.

And learning to be playful, and joke around, makes a person more interesting too. I learn't to do that stuff by copying NT's.

The only thing that makes people boring is if they can't contribute to the interaction (which might not just be conversation for everyone). Figure out what you have to offer, (a.k.a. what knowledge do you have, what 'entertaining' type skills do you have? Can you make people laugh, can you make up clever rhymes even? Are you good at making a fool of yourself for the entertainment of others? (that's me btw)) and be brave and put it out on the table.

I'll probably get [expletive sequence removed by lau] by bringing this guy up...

but Mystery once said: "Say ten interesting things, and it's not just the things that are interesting anymore, you're interesting [to the girl]"

Paraphrased.

-V4der

Don't be tooo interesting.
I once head butted a bar table hard enough to break one of the glasses when a girl said she wanted me to do something "unusual". Head hurt for a week, and she wasn't impressed.

I'm in the same ballpark. I'm just not comfortable going up to a random woman I think is cute and asking her what she thought of the latest episode of Battlestar Galactica or if she's disappointed in the Seattle Mariners' piss poor season. I don't want to initiate small talk so that pretty much ends it. For example, I was forced to go to a wedding reception (I hate them, so boring) and one guy I knew was trying to encourage me to talk to this girl there. At the time, I had never heard of Asperger's and just thought I was an introvert and he thought I was just shy. He suggested that I go to her and ask if she was friends/related to the bride or the groom. I remember thinking that it was a stupid idea because I didn't care if she was friends with the bride or groom. It was a question that had a meaningless answer for me and therefore, had no point in being asked. As long as my brain works like that, I'll probably be single.

You're gosh-darn diddly-darned right I'm boring, and, well, Sir, I like it! When someone tells you you're boring, all you got to do is thank you with a smile! Remember f-u-n is a three-letter word, just like s-i-n!

If some guy approached me and asked what I thought of Battlestar Gallactica? I'd be so intrigued. That makes for good screenwriting.

I still think it depends on the interest. Talking about the interest might work in your favor if the other person shares that interest. But if they don't, they could quickly grow weary of listening to you. Such has been my experience with people in general.