08 May 2009, 3:25 am
sunshower wrote:
ikorack wrote:
sunshower wrote:
em_06 wrote:
Hey! I am wondering, how do you find a boyfriend ( AS or NT) when you are a female with Asperger's Syndrome? Somebody please give me some advice!
You have two options.
1. Turn yourself NT. Pretty yourself up (that includes tons of makeup), try to become a mirror image of every other girl as much as possible, copy everything they do, smile prettily at every guy you see while using eye contact. Observe how other girls flirt with guys, and try to imitate. Effectively, you will gain yourself a bf eventually who is into the construct you have created.
2. Be yourself, find someone you like, and go after them relentlessly. Do everything in your power to win them over. NEVER GIVE UP. If you can't do all the invisible cues and whatnot, just try plain speak instead and make up for it in determination. Hopefully, you will eventually win someone who likes you for you.
(It's pretty obvious that I recommend option number 2
)As for ways to win someone over being yourself, try befriending them, stun them with your knowledge, try to show off all your good characteristics around them. Pretty much, you need to sell yourself to them. It's sort of like marketing, in a way...
I don't recommend 2 i know if a woman was doing that to me she would probably get tazed
What's tazed? Anyway, number 2 is the only real option. Number 1 is pretty much the same as turning yourself into a commodity then prostituting yourself out for the title of "being in a relationship" in return. What's the point? Anyone who goes for you after number 1 will never like "you"; what they really wanted was your run of the mill made up NT girl, so you're not only selling yourself short - but also selling them short too.
I think his problem is with the phraze
Quote:
NEVER GIVE UP
its very important to know when to cut your loses as thats the difference between being forward and being a stalker
know when to quit, very important
I think you ment never give up on yourself or never give up on love though
12 May 2009, 7:40 pm
13 May 2009, 3:48 am
lotusblossom wrote:
sunshower wrote:
ikorack wrote:
sunshower wrote:
em_06 wrote:
Hey! I am wondering, how do you find a boyfriend ( AS or NT) when you are a female with Asperger's Syndrome? Somebody please give me some advice!
You have two options.
1. Turn yourself NT. Pretty yourself up (that includes tons of makeup), try to become a mirror image of every other girl as much as possible, copy everything they do, smile prettily at every guy you see while using eye contact. Observe how other girls flirt with guys, and try to imitate. Effectively, you will gain yourself a bf eventually who is into the construct you have created.
2. Be yourself, find someone you like, and go after them relentlessly. Do everything in your power to win them over. NEVER GIVE UP. If you can't do all the invisible cues and whatnot, just try plain speak instead and make up for it in determination. Hopefully, you will eventually win someone who likes you for you.
(It's pretty obvious that I recommend option number 2
)As for ways to win someone over being yourself, try befriending them, stun them with your knowledge, try to show off all your good characteristics around them. Pretty much, you need to sell yourself to them. It's sort of like marketing, in a way...
I don't recommend 2 i know if a woman was doing that to me she would probably get tazed
What's tazed? Anyway, number 2 is the only real option. Number 1 is pretty much the same as turning yourself into a commodity then prostituting yourself out for the title of "being in a relationship" in return. What's the point? Anyone who goes for you after number 1 will never like "you"; what they really wanted was your run of the mill made up NT girl, so you're not only selling yourself short - but also selling them short too.
I think his problem is with the phraze
Quote:
NEVER GIVE UP
its very important to know when to cut your loses as thats the difference between being forward and being a stalker
know when to quit, very important
I think you ment never give up on yourself or never give up on love though
Yeah, I see how it could come across that way... I more meant never give up on attempting to cross the social barrier when you know there's something there, but your social ineptitude is getting in the way.
14 May 2009, 5:37 am
14 May 2009, 5:45 am
sunshower wrote:
em_06 wrote:
Hey! I am wondering, how do you find a boyfriend ( AS or NT) when you are a female with Asperger's Syndrome? Somebody please give me some advice!
You have two options.
1. Turn yourself NT. Pretty yourself up (that includes tons of makeup), try to become a mirror image of every other girl as much as possible, copy everything they do, smile prettily at every guy you see while using eye contact. Observe how other girls flirt with guys, and try to imitate. Effectively, you will gain yourself a bf eventually who is into the construct you have created.
2. Be yourself, find someone you like, and go after them relentlessly. Do everything in your power to win them over. NEVER GIVE UP. If you can't do all the invisible cues and whatnot, just try plain speak instead and make up for it in determination. Hopefully, you will eventually win someone who likes you for you.
(It's pretty obvious that I recommend option number 2
)As for ways to win someone over being yourself, try befriending them, stun them with your knowledge, try to show off all your good characteristics around them. Pretty much, you need to sell yourself to them. It's sort of like marketing, in a way...
being pretty with makeup doesn't necessarily conflict with "being yourself"
14 May 2009, 6:01 am
hale_bopp wrote:
I wouldn't know, I have this problem myself. Couldn't get a man I'm interested in to save my life.
dont give up Hale
Ive just met an amazing man who makes me very happy, so you never know whats round the corner
14 May 2009, 6:04 am
alex wrote:
sunshower wrote:
em_06 wrote:
Hey! I am wondering, how do you find a boyfriend ( AS or NT) when you are a female with Asperger's Syndrome? Somebody please give me some advice!
You have two options.
1. Turn yourself NT. Pretty yourself up (that includes tons of makeup), try to become a mirror image of every other girl as much as possible, copy everything they do, smile prettily at every guy you see while using eye contact. Observe how other girls flirt with guys, and try to imitate. Effectively, you will gain yourself a bf eventually who is into the construct you have created.
2. Be yourself, find someone you like, and go after them relentlessly. Do everything in your power to win them over. NEVER GIVE UP. If you can't do all the invisible cues and whatnot, just try plain speak instead and make up for it in determination. Hopefully, you will eventually win someone who likes you for you.
(It's pretty obvious that I recommend option number 2
)As for ways to win someone over being yourself, try befriending them, stun them with your knowledge, try to show off all your good characteristics around them. Pretty much, you need to sell yourself to them. It's sort of like marketing, in a way...
being pretty with makeup doesn't necessarily conflict with "being yourself"
True, that was stereotyping of me. Pretty much - don't pretend to be someone else in order to win yourself a boyfriend, be yourself and try to find someone who likes you for you.
14 May 2009, 11:57 am
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I wonder if he's changed his opinions much.. 
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21 Jul 2014, 4:38 pm
lotusblossom wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I wouldn't know, I have this problem myself. Couldn't get a man I'm interested in to save my life.
dont give up Hale
Ive just met an amazing man who makes me very happy, so you never know whats round the corner gah! I was such an idiot!! !!
5 years of hell was round the corner!
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