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03 Apr 2009, 10:13 pm

I don't really think that's fair though. What one experiences at 16 IS the real world to them. :shrug: I don't think anyone should rush into being an adult before their time.

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03 Apr 2009, 10:17 pm

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I don't really think that's fair though. What one experiences at 16 IS the real world to them.

More or less. Unless, of course, your family is one full of misconceptions, delusions and fantasies, which is pretty common. But for people raised under those conditions, real life never quite happens unless they get help to see beyond the distortion, so that's a moot point, anyway.

It's different for everyone, that's for certain. My boyfriend was sure he'd never be in a relationship, and yet there it is. s**t happens, as it were.

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03 Apr 2009, 10:20 pm

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It's different for everyone, that's for certain. My boyfriend was sure he'd never be in a relationship, and yet there it is. sh** happens, as it were.

You're definitely right, there. And (speaking from experience) sometimes it really is s**t!

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03 Apr 2009, 10:32 pm

Sometimes one's own s**t is completely differerent from another's. Threre are some people beyond their maturity level when it comes to age. Let's not discourage those who think good of themselves....the last they thing they need to hear is how bad life is. In my on experience, it is a journey in the process...not bad.

Also it's unlikely that two people are exactly alike when it comes to relationships....sort of like karma. It takes effort and forwardness as well as friendship even though the most of you guys seem to get irked when the word "friendship" is involved.

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03 Apr 2009, 10:36 pm

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Sometimes one's own sh** is completely differerent from another's. Threre are some people beyond their maturity level when it comes to age. Let's not discourage those who think good of themselves....the last they thing they need to hear is how bad life is. In my on experience, it is a journey in the process...not bad.

Also it's unlikely that two people are exactly alike when it comes to relationships....sort of like karma. It takes effort and forwardness as well as friendship even though the most of you guys seem to get irked when the word "friendship" is involved.

I completely agree. Well said, MC.

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03 Apr 2009, 10:37 pm

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Orbyss wrote:

It's different for everyone, that's for certain. My boyfriend was sure he'd never be in a relationship, and yet there it is. sh** happens, as it were.

You're definitely right, there. And (speaking from experience) sometimes it really is sh**!

Yeah, it can definitely feel like s**t. I've been suicidal lately due to some very serious health issues, for instance. About the only thing that pulls me through, however, is remembering the objective. My suffering is only subjective. There's more to life that just what I'm feeling and experience. It's a constant battle between my emotions taking the reigns and my logical mind to smack it down and show it what for.

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It takes effort and forwardness as well as friendship even though the most of you guys seem to get irked when the word "friendship" is involved.

I shouldn't have laughed at that, but I did anyway. Anyway, I agree.

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03 Apr 2009, 10:50 pm

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It takes effort and forwardness as well as friendship even though the most of you guys seem to get irked when the word "friendship" is involved.

No, guys get irked when nothing ever develops beyond a "friendship."

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03 Apr 2009, 10:51 pm

Meh, I rarely even get friendship. I'm totally thrilled when a woman actually gives me the time of day.

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04 Apr 2009, 2:58 am

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People, you don't need to argue about religious that and religious this, we are all aspies, we are great minded ones, no need to fight between ourselves lol

We are the Bo.... I mean we are the Aspies, Resistance is futile.

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04 Apr 2009, 11:19 am

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We are the Bo.... I mean we are the Aspies, Resistance is futile.

Copy-catters! You will be eradicated! Destroy them! Destroy them at once!

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04 Apr 2009, 11:26 am

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We are the Bo.... I mean we are the Aspies, Resistance is futile.

Your ass will be laminated...

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04 Apr 2009, 12:45 pm

You will be assimilated...

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04 Apr 2009, 1:01 pm

Orbyss wrote:

My suffering is only subjective. There's more to life that just what I'm feeling and experience. It's a constant battle between my emotions taking the reigns and my logical mind to smack it down and show it what for.

That is a profound lesson to have learned, and something I need to tackle, myself. Sometimes it's easy to forget how good your life really is, and just let your inner demons stomp on your head.

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04 Apr 2009, 1:07 pm

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I have been looking at this all wrong. God did not give me AS to prevent me from having a decent relationship. God gave me AS so I can filter out and not have to deal with the BS that most people have to put up with. So when I do find someone, it will be really good.

That's an interesting way of looking at it, and if you believe that is why God gave you AS, than so be it. You know, I don't even know why I'm autistic myself and why God made me autistic. You know, I'm not angry at God, because He can do whatever He wants with my life, after all He created me. However, I wonder why I was given this. It has only made me feel shy, reclusive, and vulnerable. It has also made me considerably less attractive to the fickle female sex. You know, the only logical reason why I'm autistic is because it makes me be a kind and compassionate person, perhaps that, along with being a Christian, will be my saving grace.

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04 Apr 2009, 2:35 pm

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You will be assimilated...

....

I just said that line to my boyfriend last night. This coincidence worries me.

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Orbyss wrote:

That is a profound lesson to have learned, and something I need to tackle, myself. Sometimes it's easy to forget how good your life really is, and just let your inner demons stomp on your head.

Absolutely. And don't get me wrong, I constantly slip and fall. It just helps knowing that you at least have the chance to stand up, step back, look at the big picture, and truly try to understand it all.

I once had a dream I saw and felt the entire universe all at once. I constantly reference that dream for myself because it's perspective that has really been a sort of 'gift' (not to sound overdramatic) that helps me remember my place, the place of others, and the total objective view. It's very personal, obviously, since there are many people who believe the universe has some sense of good and evil. I don't have that, obviously; to me, the understanding the biggest picture gives me the ultimate objectivity--everything is connected to everything else equally, without the animal emotional embellishments that pervade our subjective experience.

But yeah, even considering that, I fail a good deal of the time. What's important is being able to pick yourself back up again.

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04 Apr 2009, 5:57 pm

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MissConstrue wrote:

You will be assimilated...

....

I just said that line to my boyfriend last night. This coincidence worries me.

If he's a trekkie, you may be fulfilling his seven of nine fantasies...

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