WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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I actually made a fairly extensive list in a notebook, but I managed to narrow it down to five:
1) Must be truthful
2) Must have integrity, reliability, and a willingness to read lots
3) Must understand me fully [or at least as close as you can get]
4) Must understand and read about Asperger's [even if he/she is an Aspergian as well]
5) Must respect and/or like my own interests

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

For me.
Its:

The partner cheating, even though they agreed no cheating when the relationship started.

Joining a Fundamentalist violent Religious movement.

Joining a totalitarian political party or movement.

Being involved in any form of Satanic worship.

Screaming at me constantly without justifiable reason (i am hypersensitive to sound).

Violently attacking me with knifes with real intention.

Slandering me on mass.

Trying to convert me to any religion.

Trying to murder me for any reason but especially to satisfy their ritual Satanic abuse / Devil Worship.

Is grossly dishonest.

Is involved in conning innocent people out of money.

Steals my life works from me without cause then lies to the world that I am not who or what i say i am (which actually happened, the flaw in my ex's plan with that one, is that she wasn't actually a music producer and so fell down when she had to prove she was)...

Above ALL!! ! Eating my jaffa cakes!! !

^
Jaffa cakes aside, I hope that list is not based on previous experience

Behavioral:
- Smokes
- Does drugs
- Flirts with others
- Cheats

Personality:
- Argumentative
- Controlling
- Not affectionate enough
- Overly sexual (this is because I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum, leaning towards demisexual)\

Other:
- Not okay with pets
- Non-monogamous

Animal cruelty
Bullying of any kind
Ignorance
Cheating
Lying/deceit

being a MAGA.

-MAGAism (see also: racism, far-right violent politics and several other things)

-Tries to make me someone I'm not.

-Fails to accommodate ASD issues (see also: screaming, loud music, dragging me to clubs or amusement parks; persistent seat-of-the-pants scheduling)

-excessive drinking and/or drug use. Smoking.

-proselytizing. On dating sites, 'Christian' or 'Catholic' is an automatic swipe-left. I apologize to the small number of Abrahamic monotheists who follow their religion. The rest have made that apple barrel smell too rotten.

-Being excessively critical of something/someone for no good reason

-cheating, if we agreed to be monogamous.

-Being jealous of time I spend with friends.

-Not interested in current events/politics

-Intolerance of amateur radio.

There are so many of these threads I've lost count. For the record, again, it's:

Smoking
Drinking
Drugs
Addicted to fast food
Gets jealous of my male book characters who are unrealistically attractive and successful
A bunch of facial hair
Short hair that I can't run my fingers through
Wants children

(This happened to me).
When you've been dating for many months and all is going really well when her sister accidently lets it slip that she is already married!

if the other party likes hot weather and hates a/c.

Narcissist

Vasectomy

Being on antidepressants/pain pills

Hypochondriasis in general

Broke

Controlled by his mother