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ToadOfSteel
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04 Nov 2009, 9:07 pm

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That makes perfect sense if you're the sort of person who falls in love after a time, which judging by your posts, you are.

Yeah, I am.

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I'm not like that, that sort of thing is always instantaneous with me. I either fancy someone when I see them the first or second time, or I don't. Honestly, I've probably not kept friends for long enough to develop feelings for them.

Fair enough... nobody said all aspies were identical...

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I hear it's a different feeling though when you've known someone for a while, that sort of creeps up on you. Did that happen to you, or was it more sudden?

Well, it was very subtle at first, but once we identified it, it started to pick up the pace fairly quickly... think of the curve on an exponential function...

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04 Nov 2009, 9:21 pm

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Fair enough... nobody said all aspies were identical...

Eh, I never thought they were. I was just saying how it was for me.

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04 Nov 2009, 9:29 pm

I come back & see this. One of the main fixtures in this section has just changed forever. Well, nice job Toad.

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Until a few hours ago, I believed that this was why most relationships fell apart early on (the idea being that once you learned the less desirable traits about your partner, the person as a whole would become less desirable in general)... but in light of (very) recent events, I'm not so sure...

Hint???

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05 Nov 2009, 1:12 pm

Update: crisis averted. Turns out she was having an emotional freakout moment last night... so my course of action (telling her to wait on it and think about it, then make a decision when she felt comfortable in doing so) paid off...

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05 Nov 2009, 1:50 pm

It sounds like she doesn't want to be pressured into anything. But you also sound like a low-pressure sort of man so that's good for compatibility.

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05 Nov 2009, 5:01 pm

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It sounds like she doesn't want to be pressured into anything. But you also sound like a low-pressure sort of man so that's good for compatibility.

Well this particular episode didnt seem to be in response to anything in particular... but then again who said it would be?

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06 Nov 2009, 9:32 pm

Well, congrats! Like I said before, you always have come across as good friendship material, and that it was a short step from love. I am so happy for you! :flower:

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07 Nov 2009, 6:56 am

Dream come true?!

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07 Nov 2009, 7:05 am

Just want to say my congrats. I've seen how miserable you've been through your posts here and wish you all the best.

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07 Nov 2009, 11:57 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:

It's just that, uhh...

I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND :cheers:

The reign of The Unlovable is now over... things are now looking up for once... :heart:

That's awesome dude!! !

It seems to always happen to those who see themselves as "unlovable" eventually I've noticed. :wink:

Just be careful and take things as they come. Let her set the pace for...... you know.... :wink:

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09 Nov 2009, 12:03 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Well I'm certainly not living for myself, that would be selfish... so I pretty much need a significant other in my life, so that I have someone to live for...

That just might be the problem. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much pressure. Being someone's reason for living can sound romantic in theory, but experiencing the reality is pretty horrible.

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11 Nov 2009, 11:58 pm

Good news!! !

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