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16 Apr 2010, 9:52 pm

sgrannel wrote:

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I guess I'm more against Japan-ophiles, than anime alone.

I take it you don't speak Japanese, then? Neither do I, but for my next business meeting, knowing Japanese might be useful. Someday I might visit Mount Fuji, but I'm not obsessed with it though.

I have nothing wrong with people who speak japanese, its people who have no use for it and rattle off stupid phrases they've learned off anime and think they're all that.

I'm talking about nerdy european guys who often come across as arrogant know alls of everything Japan, when they have never been there or lived there or have close friends from there.

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16 Apr 2010, 9:57 pm

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What is cattiness?

Cattiness is next to battiness :lol:

. Well, actually, it's an inability to get along with other women. I have been mildly turned off by women who do a lot of infighting among their "friends", or who have poor relationships with their relatives or who for whatever other reason just can't get along with anybody.

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16 Apr 2010, 10:10 pm

I think of cattiness as similar to sarcasm, as in saying the opposite of what you mean, but specifically in a manner that has a veneer of goodwill. If you want to see cattiness in full flower, rent the old classic movie The Women.

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17 Apr 2010, 6:23 am

Personality and attitude:

Dishonesty,
Disloyalty
A lack of confidence: especially- one thinking they are stupid/incapable to the point of not doing much of anything for fear of failing, using macho behaviors to make up for feelings of inadequacies, bullying or making fun of others to divert attention from own shortcomings, refusing to do things otherwise enjoyed because the person believes it makes them look stupid/immature/effeminate/etc.,
General laziness,
Focusing passion on hating things but rarely, if ever doing anything to change/help the problem(s) they complain about: Example- a person who moans and whines to excess about people damaging the environment, but only lets it be known that they disapprove of the behavior by storing their bottled water and various electronic unnecessaries in a tote bag that says "SAVE THE PLANET" on it and never actually does a thing to help the problem,
Never questions anything and accepts what they are told blindly,
Adherence to gender role stereotypes for the sake of tradition or purposefully challenging them for the sake of rebellion,
Doing anything purely for the sake of rebellion,
Being insensitive to other people's problems,
Disregarding animals,
Meanness of malevolence,
Refusing to believe in something, or express what they believe for fear of being politically incorrect or losing friends,

Fashion and hygiene:
Wearing heavy smells of any kind- particularly patchouli and/or unidentifiable artificial sugary or musty weirdness,
Poor hygiene of any kind,
Tans,
Bleached hair,
Rough skin,
Facial hair,
Baggy shorts! (I don't know why, I just abhor them),
Flipflops (Other than looking bad to me, they make funny noise)

Habits:
Spitting or chewing loudly (I don't like mouth noises- they give me headaches),
Smoking (The smell)
Saying "That's ret*d" and/or "That's so gay" with great frequency (There are many nice people who say these things; however, it is still irritating),

Specific interests:

Watching sports or anything else that will cause the person to spend a great deal of time in front of the television,
Video games (only if it is the main interest in the person'slife and/or they spend the vast majority of their time playing video games),

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17 Apr 2010, 6:27 am

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Saying "That's ret*d" and/or "That's so gay" with great frequency

You have no idea how annoying that is to me as well.

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17 Apr 2010, 6:30 am

MrDiamondMind wrote:

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Saying "That's ret*d" and/or "That's so gay" with great frequency

You have no idea how annoying that is to me as well.

I naïvely thought it would be better in college than it was when I was high school aged. But Alas, it is worse. At least at the college I currently attend and all the colleges and universities I have visited.

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17 Apr 2010, 6:46 am

hale_bopp wrote:

I don't mind smoking in men.

Some turn offs for me:

1)Lapdogs - no time for guys like that at all
2)Arrogant men with a superiority complex
3)Bitchy men
4)Men who like anime
5)Whiny submissive men/pushovers
6)guys who always objectify women, talk about "f***ing" and crude sexual things, and their boners and stuff
7) Narrow minded men
8. Intense personalities

Desperation, athough that comes under 1) 5) and 6)

I do not think this is as unreasonable as some people seem to think. I have male acquaintances who fit these requirements.

I can think of several males I know who fit most of the requirements. What are you going to do, some people just like their anime.

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17 Apr 2010, 1:26 pm

LK wrote:

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Yeah I refuse to belive this "98% of men" BS.

I work at a place with 100 guys. 10-15 display some of those traits at the VERY MOST.
Not suprisingly, most of the decent guys there are taken.

Goes to show I'm not the only woman who thinks like that.

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17 Apr 2010, 3:45 pm

^ Correct again.
That said, from my loose experience, or maybe just a false impression, the amounts of #1s & #5s has been slowly rising for a long time, diminishing the amount of quality guys.

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17 Apr 2010, 4:02 pm

What exactly makes a guy a pushover? would I be one?

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17 Apr 2010, 4:24 pm

There's been no direct evidence, but there are peripheral clues that would seem to support that you would be. For instance, pushovers are reluctant to assert what they want.

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17 Apr 2010, 4:45 pm

Sound wrote:

There's been no direct evidence, but there are peripheral clues that would seem to support that you would be. For instance, pushovers are reluctant to assert what they want.

So if I were to cast off my empathy and stop caring about what other people think, that would make me attractive?

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17 Apr 2010, 4:53 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Sound wrote:

There's been no direct evidence, but there are peripheral clues that would seem to support that you would be. For instance, pushovers are reluctant to assert what they want.

So if I were to cast off my empathy and stop caring about what other people think, that would make me attractive?

I think of a pushover as someone who lets people "push him over" metaphorically speaking. Someone who is easily manipulated and used for money and favors. I don't have any reason to think one way or the other about you. It's just my opinion on the meaning of the word.

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17 Apr 2010, 5:39 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Sound wrote:

There's been no direct evidence, but there are peripheral clues that would seem to support that you would be. For instance, pushovers are reluctant to assert what they want.

So if I were to cast off my empathy and stop caring about what other people think, that would make me attractive?

The answer to this question is no. But we've been over this before.
One can assert themselves, stick up for themselves, refuse to be disrespected, and pursue what they want while being considerate, kind, and sharing to others. Sometimes you give, and sometimes you take.

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17 Apr 2010, 5:42 pm

I think I understand the "lapdog" concept and why this might be undesirable. What one person wants to give, the other must ask for before offering. Or something like that. But consider the extreme opposite. Is that desirable? Why would a person of either gender prefer that? Being unaffectionate or repulsed or averse to affection, would most likely prove to be a turnoff for me.

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17 Apr 2010, 5:43 pm

A pushover to me is a guy who is b***h slapped.

Or non assertive.

It has nothing to do with empathy or kindness.

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