How to improve your chances with women. (ABRIDGED VERSION)

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Oh thank you great one. How can I ever repay you?

All I have to do is stop being an ass?


The whole being quiet and attentive improving your odds bit was kind of funny too.

I'd say it like this - we are who we are, all of us. We have so much that we can realistically put into changing things that we know aren't working. Its expected that we give that the required effort. If its a completely losing battle or we realize that we are being rejected for things that are absolutely unchangeable (literally too close to our core or too physical/genetic) - quite honestly give up. Stop. Don't let that sense/perception of the opposite sex's take on you drag you down that far, if you do it will turn you into a black hole of a person. Do whatever it is that you need to do to keep dignity and even yourself alive, do what you need to in order to find an alternate fill. Try to feel good about yourself and try to be as self-sufficient as you can, add whatever achievements you would need to counterbalance things by whatever means to achievement are available.

You can fix yourself to a point, after that point you're either being obsequious and bending yourself that will either hurt your future social prospects on all kinds of levels, or worse, your quite honestly stifling your ability to do other things that you could excel at, perhaps make all kinds of financial success from, simply because out of desperation and panic your shoveling in fuel nonstop to a problem that you literally can't solve. At a certain point of personal refinement the opposite sex will either like you or they won't. Changes beyond a certain point, the second you let go, will fly back and smack you, nothing more. At that point its utterly wasted effort. The inevitable is the inevitable, you fear it or chastise yourself over it at the cost of your own mental health - nothing else in that equation is moveable.

At least I was offering something to another human being. People like me are social misfits, remember that. At least I reached out to someone.

I don't think I am important, although I am in a minority having AS and we are not in endless supply. Anyway, I am original and can't be replaced.

Last edited by Craig28 on 25 Nov 2010, 3:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

Well if you get cut up over 1 rejection nothing is ever going to happen. It might happen to you 50 times before you get anyone, and thats why NT's get women, they keep asking them. Many "normal" and "playboys" get rejected hundreds of times before they get someone.

Asking one person and expecting things to work out perfectly is asking way too much. Everyone gets rejected and most of us more than once unless you're really lucky.

Is hard when your 26 and experience your first rejection. I have no experience as a teenager in them years. Basically, I am still catching up.

As far as I'm concerned, I have to accept that I will never have a girlfriend.

Treat her as a fellow intelligent adult. Not a nurse, not a sex dispenser, and not a service-bot who owes you things.

And if she's worth her salt, she'll do the same back.

Luck is somewhat relative. For men if they are physically very good looking it is combo of genetics and exercise and social position is huge in terms of attracting a girl.

When a friend of mine came into money, the word got around and gals who wouldn't give him the time of day in college would facebook message him asking him how things were going etc. It was hilariously transparent.

Dating is really a numbers game. For as much as I enjoy my escort debauchery, I tell the guys on this board to upgrade their appearance not so much to get laid as to feel better about themselves.

I suppose I'll have to ban myself after posting this:

I like salty women.

Losing weight is probably the most important and hardest thing for people to do to improve their chances of attracting a partner.

I have found that lots of coffee and ADHD medication tend to help you in losing weight since you can keep your calorie counts well below what you used to eat.

I cannot help but notice how many older folks I have seen with various PDDs (Further on the Autism spectrum and Down's syndrome) who are very overweight. The rigidity of routine that occurs can be a killer (metaphorically and ultimately literally) if poor eating habits (all crap food or just too much food) are established.

that seriously cracked me up! sometimes i am ashamed at female behaviour too, though. both sexes have some evolving to do. sorry, did i just kill the joke?

That always happens. People who get rich attract shallow women. You have to learn to see who these people are. I'm not rich, but if I ever get rich its pretty easy to tell who likes you and who is a user.

Nah, I agree. Its pretty sad its one dimensionality. Cute, but sad.