Would You Date This Man? (Either Sex)

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You seem very sweet. I agree with the post with all the suggestions. LOL I want to edit the whole thing. Where is your birthmark? I didn't see it...that has to go unless it is instantly noticeble? You are cute but your pictures could be better, also loose the girls in the pics. You don't have to restate your height, that it is the first thing people see....your birthmark and you are 5'6"....the first thing they see is your sweet smile. Also, don't keep saying you are changing some things...or you did this in the past...Leave religion and drugs blank...

Your rewritten profile...LOL...just trying to help you here don't be offended

My Self-Summary
I'd like to think that I'm a nice person who chooses to focus on the lighter side of life. I enjoy all kinds of different music and always up for live events and festivals. I like the clubs but more often I'll go down to the pub with mates. I enjoy going to the cinema and having fun at home with DVD nights. I amuse myself on my 360 but no longer sit for hours in battle fantasy land. I won't kick up too much if once in awhile the night includes the theater or an exhibit. I like to watch a few sports, particularly football, but never the loudest voice in the room. United is my team .

What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently a salesman in the city centre. I like my job and believe in working hard. I'm not sure it is what I will do for the rest of my life but right now it is a stable income. I actually live in Salford, not Manchester but Salford wasn't a location choice. I have lived here most of my life. I don't know if I will be here forever but for right now I like it as my foundation as I build and look to the future.

I’m really good at
Maths! I know it is not something that many people find particularly interesting but it is something I do with ease. I use the skill to do fun things like: find lost items, dig up information, research different places, make great tea and scramble up some eggs.

The first thing people notice about me
I think my easy going style and how many people greet me when I enter a familiar place. I am usually in a good mood and it shows.

Books: I enjoy non-fiction, particularly stuff of local interest (music, crime, etc) but I also like Tolkien and a few other fantasy novels.

Film: Pulp Fiction, 24 Hour Party People, Lock, Stock & Two Smoking Barrels, Role Models, Sin City, 300, Star Wars, American Pie, Human Traffic, Severance, From Dusk til Dawn, Kill Bill, Shallow Grave, Trainspotting, American History X, The Crays, Hot Fuzz, Snatch.

Shows: Ideal, Peep Show, The Inbetweeners, Top Gear, Family Guy, South Park, QI, Chuck - mainly comedy!

Music: Lots & lots!! I love guitar based music but am by no means limited to this, fave band is Linkin Park, also love Joy Division, Arctic Monkeys, System of a Down, Pendulum, Prodigy, Queens of the Stone Age, Clutch, Rage Against the Machine, Static-X, (hed) p.e., Bullet for My Valentine, Wolfmother, One Minute Silence, Foo Fighters, Jimi Hendrix, The Kinks, Led Zeppelin, Black Sabbath, Muse, Jet, Nine Black Alps, Feeder. I could go on...

Food: Italian for enjoyable simplicity or Mexican for a nice kick! Chinese, not so much but I'd be up to it from time to time.

The six things I could never do without
friends/family, music, humour, spice, electricity and an internet connection

I spend alot of time thinking about
My future and all the things that could happen....
(((what tattoo I could get I won't regret lol)))

On a typical Friday night I am
I could be working, seeing live music, or chillin out with mates @ a pub or getting some food

The most private thing I am willing to admit
I believe life is what you make it

I’m looking for
•Girls who like guys
•Ages 20-31
•Near me
•Who are single
•For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

You should message me if
You're interested in having fun with me, me with you and you are up to finding new things to do together. I am open for whatever else comes but if it isn't fun what is the point? Our time is now to seize the moment.

^^ so it is a yes or no?

Besides, there's no perfect profile, post any profile, regardless how good or bad it is, and everyone would try to change to their likings.

Correcting grammatical or spelling errors isn't wrong, but I am not liking all this dictation stuff that's happening here. Leave a room for his individuality damn it!

What about to Photoshop and enhance his photo as well? Or to re-draw his face from scratch?

ok ....since everyone's doing and since you're too nice to say something then......

Now it's my turn to dictate how Mark should be *Muhahahaha*


The_Face_ob_Boo's version of Mark198423 okcupid profile:


My self-summary

How nice or how bad I am is a matter of perception , so I'll let you to dig this up and enjoy the suspense, I won't spoil it now!

Music is my life, and if you like festivals and gigs then I am your man!

I am much not of a clubber but I'll go down to the pub with my buddies to shake my ass anytime! I LIKE TO MOVE IT MOVE IT! I LIKE TO MOVE IT MOVE IT! I LIKE TO MOVE IT MOVE IT! I Like to ....((MOVE IT!! !! !! !)). Oh well....where were we? Ah right, the ass dance part , well since we're talking about ass I have to say that I really enjoy games that involve butt-kicking and bloddy head-popping games! especially the first and third person shooting games such as Gears of War, all these explosions and sounds make me feel....Goood!
I do also enjoy cinema and .....especially the DVD nights (while just wearing my boxers) of all kinds without exception *cough*

As for sports, I really do enjoy watching sports, now that might be a bad news for some but let me be obvious to any potential partner since the beginning : The United team is my GOD! Do you get it how much I love this team? Good. So when they're playing a match, I'd become your nightmare typical man , bare feet on the table, a can of beer on the side and a sandwich of the junkest food imaginable! This is how I PRAY to my GOD! Got it? So you better respect my beliefs and be considerate for 90 minutes while practicing my sacred ritual! It's just once in a while, ok?

What I’m doing with my life
I am playing with my toes, what else you think I am doing?! HA!
Seriously now, I am a sales-machine (aka good salesman!) in the city center, It's not what I'll do forever, but I making good cash for now.


Despite what it says above I live in Salford rather than Manchester (it wouldn't let me select the right Salford) and have lived here most of my life.


I’m really good at
Maths , and it's a piece of cake for me. I am also good in solving real-life puzzles, a friend once called me "the real personification of Sherlock Holmes!" , that might gives you an idea.

You want tea/coffee? I am your best waiter!
You want scrambled eggs, omlettes and crêpes? Just say it and 'madame est servie'! !


The first things people usually notice about me
I said I won't spoil the suspense ! !

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I enjoy alot of non-fiction, particularly stuff of local interest (music, crime, etc) but also like Tolkein and a few other fantasy novels too.

Film: Pulp Fiction, 24 Hour Party People, Lock, Stock & Two Smoking Barrels, Role Models, Sin City, 300, Star Wars, American Pie, Human Traffic, Severence, From Dusk til Dawn, Kill Bill, Shallow Grave, Trainspotting, American History X, The Crays, Hot Fuzz, Snatch.

Shows: Ideal, Peep Show, The Inbetweeners, Top Gear, Family Guy, South Park, QI, Chuck - mainly comedy!

Music: Lots & lots!! I love guitar based music but am by no means limited to this, fave band is Linkin Park, also love Joy Division, Arctic Monkeys, System of a Down, Pendulum, Prodigy, Queens of the Stone Age, Clutch, Rage Against the Machine, Static-X, (hed) p.e., Bullet for My Valentine, Wolfmother, One Minute Silence, Foo Fighters, Jimi Hendrix, The Kinks, Led Zeppelin, Black Sabbath, Muse, Jet, Nine Black Alps, Feeder. I could go on...

Food: Italian for enjoyable simplicity or Mexican for a nice kick! Not a great fan of Chinese food which suprises many!

The six things I could never do without
Music, loads of coffee(that means I'd enjoy loads of..*cough* ..sex!) , humour, spice, electricity and an internet connection.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to dominate the WORLD! Muhahahaha.

and what Tattoo would fit the image of the future world's ruler! Any suggestions from my future evil queen?

On a typical Friday night I am
making my Friday atypical .

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Oooo....now that nasty! ..well ...it isn't really a secret taboo anymore, you know.... we can do it mutually sometimes

I’m looking for
Girls who like guys
Ages 20-31
Near me
Who are single
For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

You should message me if
If you could survive my profile, then you're qualified to survive me .

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 08 Mar 2011, 5:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thanks for this, I'm pretty certain that I'm going to amend my profile with some help from this thread (although probably not tonight as I'm tired), I've left a few comments to your post below.



This is something I'll have to try to do, it may sound silly but I'm not sure too much about having ten essentials. Maybe as I've not had any bad relationships (only one ever) there's not much I can think of that I really wouldn't want in a woman.



I like this idea of being blunt, it is actually quite me, particularly in written form. My only question is how many girls will actually be receptive to it? I appear blunt due to my difficulties communicating and that would come across bad wouldn't it?



This kind of thing is nothing like my usual style so might appear strange after only a few more messages from me. I could probably construct something like this one but with the number of messages men have to send out and I don't think I could do it again that many times and sound ok.



I don't have many photos of me and even less that are good - I'm not too photogenic and avoided them for a long time too. I'm not currently doing too much interesting stuff right now, hopefully I'll be able to add one soon.



OK, if I'm honest, I'm not really doing anything right now. My social life is at an all time low, my highlights are the odd night out which are far from regular and coming on here (this is where I spent my last two days off work). This is not how it's always been and the things I mentioned are things I've enjoyed in the past and would probably be fairly happy to persue with someone but I can't put I regularly do them as if it comes up in conversation I'll fall flat. I included the loyal, etc. when I redid my profile last time, I've never used that kind of thing before but most other people seem to use them and couldn't be having worse luck than me.



I'm not completely satisfied working in retail but I probably shouldn't include that in my profile, thanks. I work in a mobile store though so don't want to acome across as the stereotype with the humour I use here.



I've always struggled to think of any discerning features of my own ut I could go personality wise and start with bluntness! My birthmark is on my head and I hate it!



I'm so lame! I notice these things elsewhere but not in my own writing!



Could that not come across as pervy?



I'll give that one some thought...



Wow, ASPiXiE, that's a very generous offer. I'd love to accept but feel it'd be far too big an imposition. You have definitely helped. Thank you!

Er... I would have thought that in regards to evolutionary psychology theories, *playing* sports or being big and muscular would be a turn on. I highly doubt *watching* sports from the couch would be an indicator of survival fitness.

And thanks to you too Alone, for your contributions. I don't have many good pics, they were the best I had - the one I have my arm round is my sister and the other is just sat around a table next to me, she is my brother's friend. Do they look bad? I think my birthmark is noticable, it's on my forehead:





I quite like this



I'm always hesitant to put friends and family as I have few friends and a small, scattered family. I'd love to be more sociable though.



I like some of that ending too, I may use some, thanks!

Hey, who mentioned the couch? I go to the stadium or pub!

Lol, Boo, I'm not too nice to say something but they've helped me and your's amused me!

omgosh your smile is much more noticeable than that little thing...

hugs to you

^ Don't hug him, you might catch little things with alien larvas inside....

let's get you out there next boo...you're cute too in your own frightening head way

I don't think your pics are terrible, just think they could be better. You are cute...shhh boo.

use whatever you would like and throw the rest away...good luck, you are a nice guy!! !

^ those larva are my babies, you know.....

I can be inflamed sometimes and get bigger and more red!

Hahaha.

I said no so thought I'd better explain why. It may just be because I'm old and boring. You put on your profile that like festivals, gigs, clubs and pubs. That was the deal breaker for me. And it would have been in my 20s too. To me it gives the impression of just being out for a laugh rather than relationship. (I sound ancient ) I realise this may be far from the truth, but that is my reaction to what you wrote.

L&D... Love & Dating... d'oh!! This is a classic example of one of my really really slow moments ><

Reply essay time! I'll do it in numbered bullets again =]

1) I think if you spend a little while thinking about it, it doesn't always have to be that difficult to come up with a list of things you'd want in a significant other. I'm younger than you, but of my two past relationships only one was really bad, and I sort of see that as an anomaly down my to my massive naivety at the time... in the breakup I did loooaaads of reading on people and relationships etc. Guess where I get most of this stuff from =P but one of the things I did was to think about things that I'd want in a guy (or girl, but that's a different list and I'll keep to the hetero world for the sake of simplicity!) and I think it helped me center myself. Even if you can't think of 10 points, it's probably worth having a think! I'll give you my lists to show you what I mean. Just want to point out that they're not things I think everyone else should want! It's just what I thought would be a good match for me personally, based on what I know I'm like, and the kinds of things I find attractive. They're also not in any particular order.

Essentials

- Must be roughly within the height region of 5' 10" - 6' 6". I like to feel small and protected, so it makes sense that I'd like my guy to be significantly bigger than me!
- Must be older than me. Again, I have a thing for age gaps and I've always fancied older guys, and I find the idea of being with someone younger a little odd! But I'm not against other people doing it =]
- Must not be into casual sex, polyamory, abstinence until marriage, swinging, etc. Sex can be a bit of a sensitive subject to navigate in a relationship and it definitely helps if he sees it the same way I do.
- Must be very open-minded and accepting! I'm a very odd bunny, as someone at school used to say -_- sometimes I can interest guys, and then they get to know me and find out I'm really weird and have all these crazy ways of thinking, etc etc... I also want someone who won't try to make me like everything they do and will let me have my own interests even if they're different.
- Must not be too big on food, eg probably couldn't date a professional chef who was always cooking elaborate dinners. With a history of bulimia, I need to be with someone who'll let me eat bland same-ish foods at home because eating out or eating heavy food too much stresses me out.
- Must understand my smoking... I couldn't be with a smoker because I'd never quit, but I also can't have too much pressure to quit because that isn't going to help me do it any faster =[
- Must be of a roughly average build. I tend not to be attracted to guys who are really underweight, overweight or muscular, but anywhere in the middle is okay. I don't have much of a preference for body shapes apart from that, just that I've found I really can't be attracted to extremes
- Must not be medium/dark-skinned. This I fought with myself over, as I'm white/black mixed. But I realised I'm just not attracted to darker skin tones very often at all, perhaps because they remind me of my dad and brothers? Having said that, if I met a black/Indian/etc guy that I really liked, then that's different - it's just never happened so it's a lot less likely and I tend not to look
- Must have some common interests - good examples would be videogames, anime, psychology, philosophy. I do need to be able to do something with him!
- Must be a creative mind. I tend to romanticise things all the time, and I like to see the world as something of a canvas that can be added to. Unfortunately other people seem to put really ugly slashes of paint on it and that annoys me... but a canvas nonetheless! I like to be able to go off on a tangent of crazy imaginative thoughts and have someone appreciate it, maybe even join in, but not call me crazy!

Minor preferences

- Blue or green eyes. I've always thought light or striking eyes are gorgeous! Though my guy now has brown eyes and I'm not complaining =]
- Dark hair. Rarely have I been attracted to someone with light or medium hair, though it does happen so I wouldn't rule it out
- Straight or wavy hair. I don't normally like curls, but it's happened in the past - again, just a minor preference! I have a thing about playing with hair. My guy has dark, spiky poker-straight hair - it's so much fun to play with. I think he thinks I'm a bit weird for it but I just have a thing about other people's hair
- Cat lover. I love cats!! Almost to the point of obsession (I questioned this in myself when I first heard about Asperger's!) so a fellow cat-lover would be nice! I'm currently with a dog-lover - I think I like dogs as much as he likes cats and he loves dogs as much as I love cats!
- Car freak! I also love cars... but I don't know as much about them as I'd like to.
- Vegetarian/vegan. I'm not anymore and haven't been for a while, but if it was easier I think I'd do it again. So if I was with someone with these rules, I'd be more likely to do it.
- Final Fantasy fan! Sort of goes with the games I guess! I love FF and RPGs!
- Good dancer. I was with a guy who couldn't dance at all... it's definitely not a dealbreaker, but I'd like to be with a guy with more coordination than me, lol
- Good writer. That same guy was dyslexic. Again, I didn't rule him out for it. But I've always had a thing for a man with a way with words... and when one came along I definitely had to look -.-
- Good sense of personal style. I'm into clothes and fashion (though not fashion as in the rules of what's cool or 'in' and what isn't... I hate that. It can be fun, but only if you don't take it seriously, which most people do. I like to design and make my own) so a guy who puts a little bit of effort into his appearance is attractive to me. Doesn't have to be expensive stuff and spending hours choosing an outfit - just something that's a little more interesting than usual =]

Right, I think that's 10 of each! i could have kept going ha. Don't know if that helps or not but there's an example anyway =]

2) Bluntness is good if you think it is! Which sounds really obvious... what I mean is, perhaps one of the things on your lists of what you'd want in a girl, is someone who'll appreciate your bluntness, and maybe be equally as blunt. If that is the case, you're more likely to attract her by showing your bluntness in your profile. Any girl who doesn't like it won't bother, but any girl who does will be even more interested. I guess I see it this way... acting is exhausting, right? So, if you pretend to be a certain way (in this case, you'd be pretending not to be very blunt) in order to get someone to like you, you have to keep that up throughout the entire relationship. It's also a little sad when you realise that they don't really love you for who you are. The other thing that happens is that you might get pretty attached to them, and then when they reject you when they find out who you are underneath (not saying they will, but if they did) it really hurts. It's different when they're just another profile on a dating site; they can reject you after a message or two and you might be a little disappointed, but not as hurt as you'd be if it happened later. It's much more efficient, honest and healthy to be upfront and honest about who you are - especially if who you are is upfront and honest! - right from the start. So I don't know 'how many girls' would be receptive to it, but we do exist - I personally tend only to get on with people who are quite blunt! You just have to find us =]

3) I don't mean you have to adopt all of my advice >.< if you don't want to use that kind of message that's fine! But it's a suggestion =] basically I mean do what seems natural to you. In fact, one way to do it is to imagine that you already know her. Imagine that you can start a conversation in the way that you normally would with someone you know and are quite close to. I used to be terrified of talking to strangers and this is a little trick that helped me gradually get used to it - I started treating shop assistants like friends, not in the details of what I was saying, but in the ways that I said it. It's another thing that I can't quite keep up all the time and sometimes I go out with my head down not wanting to talk to anyone, but for the purposes of starting a conversation with someone online, it can be a good thing. Something else to consider anyway =]

4) I know the feeling with the photos!! When I made my profile, I went through all the pictures of myself I have and I just about found one I thought was presentable enough to put on the internet. I hate it, but it served its purpose for the time -_- then again, I made my profile on impulse. I only had one up and I never saw a problem with that, but I'm told some people think it's better to have a few. Maybe you could have 3-4 but just make the one that comes up in search results something brighter? If you want to take another photo, there are lots of guides online - at least there must be, there are guides for everything else, lol. If not, there's always Photoshop (I should note that I don't mean to make yourself look 'better,' not unless you want to! I mean you can apply lighting effects or words or patterns and things like that ) to brighten up existing ones!

5) The reason I mentioned words like 'loyal/kind/etc' is exactly that - lots of other people use them. There's nothing bad about it, especially if it's true, and I think it's good to include them. Just that unless you put something else as well, to a girl who might have had hundreds of messages, guys' profiles all start to look the same unless something particularly takes our attention. As for your life in general... I get the feeling -_- how about you meet halfway then - list the things you'd be likely to do if you were doing more. For example, you're not likely to go clubbing, then go to a gig, then two parties, then the pub, etc all in the same week! But you might go to the pub and the odd party, and maybe every now and again you go to a particularly special gig. I guess my equivalent would be to point out that the truth is I've barely done anything over the past 2 weeks except go to the pub with some friends one evening. That's the truth. If I was doing my profile, I'd probably say that I like chilling out with a glass of wine at the pub (true), having movie nights at friends' places (true, but been a while since I did it) and sometimes if there's a particular occasion we'll celebrate with something bigger like clubbing or a party etc. I could also have mentioned that I'd like to go to some festivals, see some live musicians, go to AnimeCon again, have another week in Cornwall - loads of things that I definitely would do again but haven't done for a long time and am probably not likely to do any time soon. I'd stick to the more plausible things to give people an idea of what my normal day-to-day (or perhaps month-to-month or something) life would look like. This is another thing girls notice about a lot of guys' profiles - they all seem to have the same hobbies! Maybe it's just me, but I think there's something more honest about someone who says what he'd really like to do in a typical week or month.

6) I definitely didn't see your birthmark until you pointed it out! I agree with others on here - I think your smile is more obvious has anyone ever told you what the first thing they thought about you was? I find it weird to describe myself to answer this sort of question but I find it helpful to think about what other people have said, and basically just quote them. With the six-things part... I didn't think it was pervy O.o but now that you mention it, I can see what you mean -_- I think you might have to get someone else's opinion on that, lol, I meant it as a joke that you can get movies, games, applications, eBooks, pictures, that sort of thing, and people talk about being able to download a cup of coffee and stuff like that (I wish!) but yeah I see where you're coming from.

7) With the random what-if thoughts... keep a notepad with you at all times =D whenever you have an interesting thought, write it down! Or a crazy dream that makes you think something, or I don't know what =] I have no idea what I daydream about either. But I know I must daydream about something, and I know whenever I daydream in front of my laptop I start researching the subject on the internet... I just forget unless I write it down!

I don't mind writing my version if you want! And everyone else seems to be doing it anyway XD lol maybe we need a game on here - write a dating profile for the person above XD I love writing advice and stuff! I have a blog that I haven't written in for months because I never knew what to write about and nobody ever asked me! But I like writing how-to articles and answering questions, so it's really not a problem if you want!