Unrequited Attraction

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Everyone is unique.

Last edited by purchase on 30 May 2011, 4:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Sometimes the attraction just isn't there.

There's a guy who harassed me who was just about as unattractive as you can get personality wise.. even if he looked like Christian Bale I wouldn't want a bar of him.

You can't force attraction. You can't change other people. You can only improve yourself and your thinking.

I'm not doing a very good job of making this into an astronomy thread but I can try.

Last edited by purchase on 30 May 2011, 4:15 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Change your looks if you must. But if you do, change them for yourself. There is no guarentee that someone will like you if you look better.

If you do, do it to improve your self esteem.

I don't know how old you are, but, there WILL be others. You never think that when you're crazy about someone. I didn't. I thought I would never like another guy again. But it changes, then you wonder what you saw in them.

So if you change, do it for you. If he only likes you for your looks he's likely just going to use you for sex. Get someone who likes all of you.

I would only ever reccomend changing for yourself. Ever.

How did his ex-gfs look liked? how is his taste in girls?

if you feel that they were way hotter and prettier than you then I am sorry to tell you that he's out of your "league" , in the looks department at least.

Never pursue an unattainable crush.

I know someone who said she came from another planet.

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*sigh* Then aim for a guy who's more attainable to you!

But this is life! Can a poor person get a Porsche car? Can a person with down syndrome get a genius partner? Can a short guy like me for example get a 180cm model girl? (there are exceptions....and Tom Cruise is filthy rich btw).

Some things in life are just unattainable. You can't dwell on not be able to attain them.

I believe in magical things.

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How tall are you out of curiosity? This may give me something to work with theoretically.

I understand it's hard to change your standards, but looks really aren't everything. You just have to accept if you have unrealistic standards you will have trouble finding someone.

The moon is one of many moons.

Last edited by purchase on 30 May 2011, 4:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

purchase... you ARE beautiful, just the way you are. you might not be attractive according to one man's specific tastes, but that is clearly his loss. there are men out there who will truly see the beauty that you possess both inside and outside. but you have to believe or they won't either.

a lot of the time, it seems like a man or woman will go for someone who is only slightly interested - like you have done - and hope to change the person's mind over time through love and affection. but it doesn't work very often (if ever).

sometimes it even seems like the harder you work at it, the less the person is interested. i have pushed away some men like this before. it's some kind of reverse psychology with some men (and probably women) where they see you as lower status if you "work at it" and try to get them interested.

what makes me wonder is... why is he leading you on? because he seems to be allowing you just enough hope to keep you pursuing him. i sense that you may not want to hear a criticism of him, but if he is aware that you have feelings involved that he isn't reciprocating, then maybe it is time to look at his motivations. for example, is this an ego boost for him?

(p.s. good job with sticking to what you believe in terms of makeup and such, and for defending the thick chicks!)

160 cm

you're taller than meeeeeeeeee

brush your teeth and try to look more sexualised? ricky you joker.

Face of Boo.,

I'm doing this to validate my ridiculous hope that this thing (mine) might work out but it's also true:

Prince is 5'2 and I would find him extremely sexy if he were an unknown performing in a bar to 12 people.

Michael J. Fox is 5'4 and has been my idol since I first watched my favorite movie Back to the Future. He's a talented actor. Would be if he were an unknown also.

My point being - I swear to God I hope the limits that you have delineated for what is and isn't out of people's leauges are not absolute.

OH and I know I'm not a model but Prince does "get" models.