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26 Jul 2011, 10:58 pm

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This thread is a joke, right?


No...not originally anyway.

And for the record Grisha, it was not written with you in mind. I know you are looking for someone special in life, not just any woman.


Bless you :heart:

Feeling awfully misunderstood lately...



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27 Jul 2011, 2:10 am

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3. Mensa:

If you can get in anyway. A lot of men who do get in have an arrogant streak so women in it might take better to a humble guy with AS with interesting things to say.



I am sure you are wrong on this point.....



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27 Jul 2011, 2:34 am

I don't really qualify as just looking for a woman. I'm perfectly content without.

Chronos wrote:
1. Start going to AA meetings:

It has been my observations that recovering addicts and alcoholics are dating ready. For some reason, these woman just need to be with a man, and they aren't particularly selective. They just want a man.

If this fails I'd like to hear about it.

Never tried it so I won't comment on this, though I would have thought that your average AA meeting was a sausage fest.

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2. Single mothers:

Single mothers have a hard time getting a date and like men who could be good fathers.


I'm not even thinking about going there until I turn 30 at least.

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3. Plain Janes:

The plane girl in the T-shirt with no makeup, glasses, and wash and wear hair. A lot of these girls are down to Earth girls who have a higher chance of being on the spectrum and would rather spend their time with more important things than makeup and fashion. There's a higher chance they will turn you down than the others above because a lot of them are asexual but there are ones who aren't, and they get overlooked easily.


I'm not sure I have the same tastes as other men so I'd have a hard time spotting a "Plain Jane."

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4. I'm sure I will get heat for this but...fat girls:

They just don't get approached as often as thin girls and are usually much more flattered when they do.

Not true! I've tried it, they get very suspicious about your motives in actuality and think you are trying to trick them somehow. They can get very ugly about it.

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5. Ugly women:

Let's face it. Some people are just plane ugly. Or at least in need of a makeover. Why not ask them out?

My response to this is a combination of my responses to #3 and #4.


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Fun places to pick girls up where it's not so awkward:

3. Mensa:

If you can get in anyway. A lot of men who do get in have an arrogant streak so women in it might take better to a humble guy with AS with interesting things to say.


Barf. When I tried Mensa it was awful. A collection of some of the least interesting people I have ever met who were too impressed with themselves to loosen up. If it wasn't about a stereotypically intellectual topic they would proudly announce their ignorance on the matter as if being ignorant on a topic made them sound more intelligent. This applied to the females as well.


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27 Jul 2011, 2:36 am

metaphysics wrote:
Chronos wrote:
3. Mensa:

If you can get in anyway. A lot of men who do get in have an arrogant streak so women in it might take better to a humble guy with AS with interesting things to say.



I am sure you are wrong on this point.....


I could be wrong on all of my points. Or at least relatively so. I should have put a disclaimer.

*Results may vary.



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27 Jul 2011, 2:48 am

GoatOnFire wrote:
I don't really qualify as just looking for a woman. I'm perfectly content without.


Then this post does not apply to you obviously.

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Chronos wrote:
1. Start going to AA meetings:

It has been my observations that recovering addicts and alcoholics are dating ready. For some reason, these woman just need to be with a man, and they aren't particularly selective. They just want a man.

If this fails I'd like to hear about it.

Never tried it so I won't comment on this, though I would have thought that your average AA meeting was a sausage fest.


The ones I've seen (I just went to see a relative's friend speak) had a lot of women. I would say it had a relatively equal distribution of men and women.

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2. Single mothers:

Single mothers have a hard time getting a date and like men who could be good fathers.


I'm not even thinking about going there until I turn 30 at least.


Why? Do you think there are not single women under 30?

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3. Plain Janes:

The plane girl in the T-shirt with no makeup, glasses, and wash and wear hair. A lot of these girls are down to Earth girls who have a higher chance of being on the spectrum and would rather spend their time with more important things than makeup and fashion. There's a higher chance they will turn you down than the others above because a lot of them are asexual but there are ones who aren't, and they get overlooked easily.


I'm not sure I have the same tastes as other men so I'd have a hard time spotting a "Plain Jane."


I gave a description.

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4. I'm sure I will get heat for this but...fat girls:

They just don't get approached as often as thin girls and are usually much more flattered when they do.

Not true! I've tried it, they get very suspicious about your motives in actuality and think you are trying to trick them somehow. They can get very ugly about it.


This can be true but more so if the guy is particularly handsome.

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5. Ugly women:

Let's face it. Some people are just plane ugly. Or at least in need of a makeover. Why not ask them out?

My response to this is a combination of my responses to #3 and #4.


My reply is a combination of my replies to #3 and #4

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Fun places to pick girls up where it's not so awkward:

3. Mensa:

If you can get in anyway. A lot of men who do get in have an arrogant streak so women in it might take better to a humble guy with AS with interesting things to say.


Barf. When I tried Mensa it was awful. A collection of some of the least interesting people I have ever met who were too impressed with themselves to loosen up. If it wasn't about a stereotypically intellectual topic they would proudly announce their ignorance on the matter as if being ignorant on a topic made them sound more intelligent. This applied to the females as well.
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But again, you aren't looking for a woman.



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27 Jul 2011, 3:20 am

It's ok Chronos, one day you'll meet a man who's wanting you.



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27 Jul 2011, 3:23 am

You forget asian women are pretty hot, especially in a public sauna



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27 Jul 2011, 3:26 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It's ok Chronos, one day you'll meet a man who's wanting you.


The question is, will I want him?



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27 Jul 2011, 3:30 am

Chronos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It's ok Chronos, one day you'll meet a man who's wanting you.


The question is, will I want him?


Bingo!!

Are you getting what's wrong about your thread now?



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27 Jul 2011, 3:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Chronos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It's ok Chronos, one day you'll meet a man who's wanting you.


The question is, will I want him?


Bingo!!

Are you getting what's wrong about your thread now?


There's nothing wrong with it. It is for men who just want a woman period, with no other requirements. I told them venues in which they may have an easier time accomplishing their goal.



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27 Jul 2011, 4:25 am

Dancing classes are crying out for male participants



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27 Jul 2011, 4:28 am

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Dancing classes are crying out for male participants


That's very true. Especially ballroom dancing. There was a ballroom dancing course at my school. It was all women dancing with women.



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27 Jul 2011, 5:14 am

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Dancing classes are crying out for male participants


lol thats how a cousin of mine met his wife by taking up Salsa classes.



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27 Jul 2011, 7:55 am

hyperlexian wrote:
spongy, you dunno which ones on the list i meant. but anyways i was just making a point that you can't categorise women that easily - assumptions have been made that a woman in one of those categories is ''any woman'' like she's some kind of leftovers. and... i gotta say... it's not like there's a category of men i wouldn't date, so you're incorrect with that. you don't know my dating experiences or who i went out with in the past. what do you mean by a dose of reality though?

Well Im trully sorry if my previous post upsetted you in some sort of way.

This thread is lacking the other perspective thats true,having said that the main feeling I got from the OP is that if you want to find someone you need to get out more and be at places where you are likelier to meet the person you are looking for and theres some truth behind that.



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27 Jul 2011, 8:23 am

spongy wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
spongy, you dunno which ones on the list i meant. but anyways i was just making a point that you can't categorise women that easily - assumptions have been made that a woman in one of those categories is ''any woman'' like she's some kind of leftovers. and... i gotta say... it's not like there's a category of men i wouldn't date, so you're incorrect with that. you don't know my dating experiences or who i went out with in the past. what do you mean by a dose of reality though?

Well Im trully sorry if my previous post upsetted you in some sort of way.

This thread is lacking the other perspective thats true,having said that the main feeling I got from the OP is that if you want to find someone you need to get out more and be at places where you are likelier to meet the person you are looking for and theres some truth behind that.

yes i agree with that, and i said something similar - that people should expand their horizons and think outside of the box.

i wasn't feeling insecure with the post i put in the thread, just using myself as an example. i understand the intent behind the thread (some guys would be well served to stop holding out for a Cambridge-educated supermodel), but at the same time, it is not a positive message to be viewed as categorically less desirable because of interests or life circumstances. there is an implication that the types of women listed are somehow more desperate.

p.s. i wasn't upset at all. "a dose of reality" is pretty much always a negative expression in english. so for example if a person thinks they can win a marathon but have never even jogged in their life, we'd say they need a dose of reality. i didn't think you meant it like that because you don't normally say anything negative in that fashion - you are extremely positive and supportive!! ! that's why i clarified it.


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27 Jul 2011, 8:29 am

Chronos wrote:
Surfman wrote:
Dancing classes are crying out for male participants


That's very true. Especially ballroom dancing. There was a ballroom dancing course at my school. It was all women dancing with women.


I took some classes of ballroom dancing last year, but I'm very clumsy. My dancing partners didn't seem very happy when it was my turn to dance with them.