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25 Dec 2011, 10:30 am

"By asking her how we should go about setting up a date?"

This. This is a question you would ask your mother, or some authority figure you were fearfully respectful of. Girls want you to be part of a world that's bigger than them, they want for you to be busy and successful and in control of your life. That can be faked SO EASILY. No one is in control, not really, so anyone who seems it is faking. Get with the program. That's why you say "Meet at 5?" or something that implies you know what you're doing. Nobody knows what they're doing. That's why everyone wants to be with someone who knows what they're doing. Act like you know.

deconstruction: I would like that approach. Any variation would delight me.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:32 am

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I don't think you seemed weak or even needy, but I do think this was a case of miss-communication. You basically forced the girl out of what she wound comfortable. She has her own speed at replying to messages, and you've broken that by sending more messages before she was ready. Another mistake, I think, was the fact you wanted to define the whole thing way too early. "What is this? Why are we meeting? What does it mean?" These aren't the questions you should be asking at that point.

Hey, I've been there. Whenever a guy asked me to do something with him, my first question was always: "why"? What are we going to do? Do you want to hand out as friends or are you flirting with me? Let me tell you, guys don't like this approach any more than girls like it. So unlike fraac, I don't think it was a gender thing. You simply failed to follow the unspoken rules of social communication.

But it's not the end of the world. There will be other opportunities.

That being said, it's true that a girl usually responses quickly if she's interested.

YEAH
SHE WOULD RIGHT?!
WHICH IS WHY IM SOOOO CONFUSED BY THE WORD "sincere"
SHE ISN'T! SHE'S LYING!

Why on earth, would someone spend their time, telling me that they find me so intriguing, and they're so sincere just to lag behind in their responses, and eventually cut off all contact? IT'S MIND BOGGLING! AND IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME TO ME!

Just yesterday - I was coming out of the dollar store and this BEAUTIFUL girl walks past me, gorgeous. What did I do? Rush past her. What am I supposed to do? Stop her dead in her tracks?

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25 Dec 2011, 10:33 am

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Yeah. I don't fake. So, go away fraac. You're useless.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:42 am

With beautiful strangers, use your autism. I play into the naive character and say too-honest things. Bite your lower lip, move your eyes upwards and around, do the whole "I'm a naive and magical woodland elf" act, but just for the tinest second, long enough for it to register in their subconscious. Then you get to say whatever you want. "Oh my gosh, you're so pretty" (earnest smile, wide eyes) for example.

Use your weaknesses to your advantage. Play into the character people see you as.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:46 am

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WOOOOW
Great explanation fraac. You're batting a thousand.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:48 am

You're going to be charged with sexual harassment by the time you're 25.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:50 am

ooh ooh ooh...do me! What do you see in my future?!

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25 Dec 2011, 10:53 am

I can only predict crazy people. Anyone lying to themselves is trapped in the gameworld. The gameworld has predictable patterns.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:54 am

You're a f*****g loser fraac.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:56 am

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WHICH IS WHY IM SOOOO CONFUSED BY THE WORD "sincere"
SHE ISN'T! SHE'S LYING!

Play along with me. What if she wasn't lying? What would that imply?

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25 Dec 2011, 10:57 am

fraac wrote:

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WHICH IS WHY IM SOOOO CONFUSED BY THE WORD "sincere"
SHE ISN'T! SHE'S LYING!

Play along with me. What if she wasn't lying. What would that imply?

That she was interested and would reply in a timely fashion, rather than consistently logging on, and ignoring me multiple times she's logged in to post pictures about sex, yet she ignores what's right in front of her and is pretending to desire.

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25 Dec 2011, 10:58 am

No, because she's not you. You don't know how she thinks. If she was sincere then she later changed her mind. Why?

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25 Dec 2011, 10:59 am

fraac wrote:

No, because she's not you. You don't know how she thinks. If she was sincere then she later changed her mind. Why?

YEAH
WHY
WHY ON EARTH WOULD SHE CHANGE HER MIND IF SHE WAS SINCERE
GOOD f*****g QUESTION FRAAC

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25 Dec 2011, 11:01 am

WhiteWidow wrote:

fraac wrote:

No, because she's not you. You don't know how she thinks. If she was sincere then she later changed her mind. Why?

YEAH
WHY
WHY ON EARTH WOULD SHE CHANGE HER MIND IF SHE WAS SINCERE
GOOD f***ing QUESTION FRAAC

And? Spitball some answers.

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25 Dec 2011, 11:03 am

Gosh, I don't know.

Maybe cause she's a b***h?

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25 Dec 2011, 11:05 am

WhiteWidow wrote:

Gosh, I don't know.

Maybe cause she's a b***h?

This... Means... You will never get laid... Unless you change your f*****g attitude...

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