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25 Oct 2012, 5:34 pm

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Most women do prefer to be approached rather than do it themselves, that is true... Also I don't see why someone's sexual orientation should make a difference; I'm a bisexual woman and I prefer another person to make the first move. There are occasions when I have made moves towards another person, though.

You can't force attraction, either a specific girl notices you or not. What you possibly could do is keep maintaining your good shape, be groomed with neat clothes matching your personality and importantly, smile :) If you struggle maintaining a conversation, you could try asking questions about her (most people are usually happy to talk about themselves). You already mentioned you are a good listener.

Good luck!


it also seems women are far more likely to change their mind, lose attraction for someone than it is for a guy


thats to do more with the role of being approached than gender.


yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process



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25 Oct 2012, 5:38 pm

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yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process


thats what im talking about. When you're after something it seems to be better than it really is. When you're the focus of the interest you are seeing someone selling themselves to you. So you get to be more picky about things.



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25 Oct 2012, 6:02 pm

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yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process


thats what im talking about. When you're after something it seems to be better than it really is. When you're the focus of the interest you are seeing someone selling themselves to you. So you get to be more picky about things.


yeah it has happend to me 3 times this year



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25 Oct 2012, 6:04 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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Most women do prefer to be approached rather than do it themselves, that is true... Also I don't see why someone's sexual orientation should make a difference; I'm a bisexual woman and I prefer another person to make the first move. There are occasions when I have made moves towards another person, though.

You can't force attraction, either a specific girl notices you or not. What you possibly could do is keep maintaining your good shape, be groomed with neat clothes matching your personality and importantly, smile :) If you struggle maintaining a conversation, you could try asking questions about her (most people are usually happy to talk about themselves). You already mentioned you are a good listener.

Good luck!


it also seems women are far more likely to change their mind, lose attraction for someone than it is for a guy


thats to do more with the role of being approached than gender.


yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process
it's amazing how i will meet many girls on pof,we talk-through pms,they express interest, it goes to text, and then when it comes to meeting up for a first date they change their tune and say ''gl with your search''. like it's no skin off their nose..with no explanations as to why they wasted my time and gave me hope i would not succumb to the virgin's curse. some girls wont make it that far..they will ust randomly stop responding during a good convo or they will delete their account..or delete and remake their account and pm me a few ws later pretending they never met me -_-/


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25 Oct 2012, 6:08 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
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WantToHaveALife wrote:
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Most women do prefer to be approached rather than do it themselves, that is true... Also I don't see why someone's sexual orientation should make a difference; I'm a bisexual woman and I prefer another person to make the first move. There are occasions when I have made moves towards another person, though.

You can't force attraction, either a specific girl notices you or not. What you possibly could do is keep maintaining your good shape, be groomed with neat clothes matching your personality and importantly, smile :) If you struggle maintaining a conversation, you could try asking questions about her (most people are usually happy to talk about themselves). You already mentioned you are a good listener.

Good luck!


it also seems women are far more likely to change their mind, lose attraction for someone than it is for a guy


thats to do more with the role of being approached than gender.


yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process
it's amazing how i will meet many girls on pof,we talk-through pms,they express interest, it goes to text, and then when it comes to meeting up for a first date they change their tune and say ''gl with your search''. like it's no skin off their nose..with no explanations as to why they wasted my time and gave me hope i would not succumb to the virgin's curse. some girls wont make it that far..they will ust randomly stop responding during a good convo or they will delete their account..or delete and remake their account and pm me a few ws later pretending they never met me -_-/
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getting rejected is one-thing, getting lead on is another



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25 Oct 2012, 7:45 pm

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Not flossing is a Big Deal. It might not be for some ladies, of course. There are probably lots of ladies out there who do not floss, so it will not bother them if you don't floss, either. But personally I find it disgusting if somebody doesn't floss.

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I don't understand your point. How is your genitalia relevant to whether or not you floss your teeth?



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25 Oct 2012, 8:44 pm

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Not flossing is a Big Deal. It might not be for some ladies, of course. There are probably lots of ladies out there who do not floss, so it will not bother them if you don't floss, either. But personally I find it disgusting if somebody doesn't floss.

<------has a penis
I don't understand your point. How is your genitalia relevant to whether or not you floss your teeth?


men have to have way more qualifications than women do



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25 Oct 2012, 9:18 pm

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Not flossing is a Big Deal. It might not be for some ladies, of course. There are probably lots of ladies out there who do not floss, so it will not bother them if you don't floss, either. But personally I find it disgusting if somebody doesn't floss.

<------has a penis
I don't understand your point. How is your genitalia relevant to whether or not you floss your teeth?
sorry misread your post thought you called me a woman..


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25 Oct 2012, 9:19 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
MXH wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
Lilya wrote:
Most women do prefer to be approached rather than do it themselves, that is true... Also I don't see why someone's sexual orientation should make a difference; I'm a bisexual woman and I prefer another person to make the first move. There are occasions when I have made moves towards another person, though.

You can't force attraction, either a specific girl notices you or not. What you possibly could do is keep maintaining your good shape, be groomed with neat clothes matching your personality and importantly, smile :) If you struggle maintaining a conversation, you could try asking questions about her (most people are usually happy to talk about themselves). You already mentioned you are a good listener.

Good luck!


it also seems women are far more likely to change their mind, lose attraction for someone than it is for a guy


thats to do more with the role of being approached than gender.


yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process
it's amazing how i will meet many girls on pof,we talk-through pms,they express interest, it goes to text, and then when it comes to meeting up for a first date they change their tune and say ''gl with your search''. like it's no skin off their nose..with no explanations as to why they wasted my time and gave me hope i would not succumb to the virgin's curse. some girls wont make it that far..they will ust randomly stop responding during a good convo or they will delete their account..or delete and remake their account and pm me a few ws later pretending they never met me -_-/
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getting rejected is one-thing, getting lead on is another
yah an these girls get so many pms they prob said screw you im going with this better guy. I have a fake female okcupid profile and guys message me all the time


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26 Oct 2012, 12:23 am

wtfid2 wrote:
yeah, as in, i'm not talking about relationship break-up, i'm talking about in he getting to know eachother process, seeing eachother process
it's amazing how i will meet many girls on pof,we talk-through pms,they express interest, it goes to text, and then when it comes to meeting up for a first date they change their tune and say ''gl with your search''. like it's no skin off their nose..with no explanations as to why they wasted my time and gave me hope i would not succumb to the virgin's curse. some girls wont make it that far..they will ust randomly stop responding during a good convo or they will delete their account..or delete and remake their account and pm me a few ws later pretending they never met me -_-/[/quote]

Is it possible that in the cases when you think they've deleted their accounts and remade them, you're just responding to two different bots who used the same profile format? I know that one profile you responded to that started that whole huge mess of a thread before was just a bot. Maybe you keep falling into the same trap? Or maybe you come off as too desperate or something. I really have no idea.

I've dealt with that before, not the whole deleting/remaking accounts thing, but like I was talking to this one girl on AIM for a few days, and we were in the process of making plans to see each other. Then suddenly she dropped off the face of the earth, and I have never been contacted by her again. I know it sucks, but you just gotta get back up on the horse and try again. I'm not trying to say "suck it up and deal with it," but honestly, what else can you do? Pissing and moaning isn't gonna get you anywhere, so all you can really do is try again.



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26 Oct 2012, 3:02 am

OP,

I'm an outgoing NT, I've got some voodoo Texas hold'em techniques. It's worked for me, give it a shot.

So, you're gonna get noticed no matter what, if you dress like a trainwreck, women WILL notice you-bad attention

Dress sharp, women will notice you-good attention.

Ok so that's not really the voodoo but here it comes...

Look a woman in the eye for 1-5 seconds then look away.
1. She still doesn't see you
2. She does see you and does one of three things
a. looks back at you (maybe smiles and if she does smile back)
b. she looks you in the eye and looks right
c. she looks you in the eye and looks left

d. she looks you in the eye and looks down and left

b. She's not interested in you-texas hold em memory
c. She's attracted, a little shy-texas hold em she's shy and trying to hide the fact/bluff
d. Same as c except real shy

Oh, and if they're a lefty it's the reverse, but luckily something like 90% of people are right handed.



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26 Oct 2012, 4:06 am

I noticed my AS Bf because I thought his dorkiness was cute. He was oblivious to my attempts at flirting! But when I couldn't take it anymore, I told him and he was suprized. Hopefully, you can find a kijnd girl that willlike you for who you are, just don't be too crazy in front of them lol.



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26 Oct 2012, 4:08 am

Smartalex wrote:
OP,

I'm an outgoing NT, I've got some voodoo Texas hold'em techniques. It's worked for me, give it a shot.

So, you're gonna get noticed no matter what, if you dress like a trainwreck, women WILL notice you-bad attention

Dress sharp, women will notice you-good attention.

Ok so that's not really the voodoo but here it comes...

Look a woman in the eye for 1-5 seconds then look away.
1. She still doesn't see you
2. She does see you and does one of three things
a. looks back at you (maybe smiles and if she does smile back)
b. she looks you in the eye and looks right
c. she looks you in the eye and looks left

d. she looks you in the eye and looks down and left

b. She's not interested in you-texas hold em memory
c. She's attracted, a little shy-texas hold em she's shy and trying to hide the fact/bluff
d. Same as c except real shy

Oh, and if they're a lefty it's the reverse, but luckily something like 90% of people are right handed.


AMAZING! I'm shy and I do exaclty d. lol...good list.



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26 Oct 2012, 4:50 am

Just shout FREE CHOCOLATE!! !! !! !


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26 Oct 2012, 4:56 am

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Just shout FREE CHOCOLATE!! !! !! !


Works for me :lol:


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26 Oct 2012, 7:53 am

Start chatting up senior citizens (volunteer at retirement community) about how hard it is to meet a nice girl. They will be MORE than willing to introduce you to to other youngins. The problem with us aspies is that we forget that people also meet through other people because PEOPLE 101 is a certain grade of "F" for us. Sometimes that's the ONLY way. It's safer too.
No elderly citizen is going to introduce you to their "married" niece. The VERY LAST thing you need in life is to get the attention of somebody's wife. An adultress can spot an aspie out in a second. He hasn't a social circle so "SHE" won't get caught.