The effect of looks

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^^^ This is a very real phenomenon - many people, trends, musicians, etc. are popular simply because someone says they are.

It's a combination of things really. The human mind is complex and is of infinite variations but there are a lot of commonalities as well.

Concerning good looks, good looks (and by "good looks" I mean what's considered by the majority to be "good looks" within the context of the culture one is in) do help open more doors for the person with such good looks than for those who don't. But then that's just only one factor among many others that potentially lead to success.

But then again, sometimes being good looking can be a curse as well. It's all circumstantial.

it really is very very simple, but its wishful thinking to think its complex and there are a lot of factors etc..

looks are objective when it comes the VAST MAJORITY of men in evaluating women for a romantic relationship. theres a large agreement on what makes bad looks as well as good.

take sarah jessica parker. no matter how much hype, huge hit tv show, successful woman, fashion icon, confident, loads of makeup and style, blah blah blah, men have always called her a horseface. men dont think shes sexy. why? her facial features. confidence doesnt do s** for that. since this is the love and dating forum, not the general lifestyles forum, i think that proves quite a lot about what really makes the difference.

And then this happens too

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Dating can be so complicated

Until about 1.5 weeks ago, I worked as the fitness floor supervisor of an upscale CT gym. Membership there consists of mostly well-to-do folks of varying ages; the majority of the folks I worked with during my shifts were retirees and senior citizens.

At least once per shift (and I'm not kidding), someone would comment on my appearance - complimenting me on my flawless complexion, my fit/trim physique, my "enviable" height, my hair, and the like. Men and women alike - all oldsters, mind you - asked if I modeled; when I told them that the modeling industry considers girls my age far too old to begin a modeling career (I *may* be full of sh1t, though, I dunno...haven't really investigated lately ), they scoffed and told me that I ought to head right down to NYC and get myself an agent.

I know I've posted this elsewhere at WP, but when it comes to guys near to my own age (or much younger, which is what I prefer)...well, I could wait - and actually *have* waited - effing years to receive so much as a compliment, or a glance, or even a smile. I might as well not even exist to men under 65. As I've lamented in other threads, guys don't even speak to me, let alone ask me out. I've been alone for most of my adult life, as a result.

Does that mean, then, that I'm only attractive to old people, and that my "looks," such as they are, exist in some sort of vacuum? I don't get it...and it's gotten REALLY old.

I just wanna quickly point out that there have been a myriad of sociological studies indicating that attractive people get paid more than ugly people. God bless humanity!