Is a car required for a relationship?

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It's just weird not to have a car in the US, where public transit tends to range from non-existent to awful (outside of a few big cities). Cars are fun to drive, useful for getting to/from work and running errands.

Still there are lots of people who don't have cars who are in relationships, so anything is possible!

Unless you're making double the Mininum Wage, it's hard to have a car. You have to pay gas, insurance, and maintenance (e.g., bakes, tires, oil changes, etc.).

I wish it was easier to drive a scooter in the US (like a Vespa scooter which gets about 70 miles to the gallon)>

Than how am I still living beings I don't have one?

They are also expensive, not to mention the fuel, insurance, repair costs...ect.

I'm glad I learned to drive! It certainly took me long enough!

Can't believe this is still trending. I ended up with a answer long ago, that answer is: no it is not required, albeit helpful, but for most (men or women) it's not a definite requirement.

I guess a better question would be, is knowing how to drive required?

most people are both bad and good or neither bad and good. it isn't a clear villain vs heros in life. so 90% of people are rubbish on this subject you'd rather die alone then have a happy relationship with a rubbish person?

here we have one of the best bus systems in the whole nation, yet most women here still demand guys have a car. why is this?

also like others have said the maintenance cost is a lot and then there's the anxiety all the time worrying about when it'll break and what part and how you won't be able to afford to fix it. cars are an expensive ticking time bomb. and most shops don't do payments.

Well then I'm lucky my brother-in-law is a grease monkey, he tends to fix most of the family cars anyway.

It's nice having the ability to drive, so one could be useful in emergency situations.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3858646.aspx

Most common women's opinion is "I don't care about the car but it's important".


Clones.

^^^ The first few women who said they wouldn't date a man without a car added: "It's enough I have to drive my kids around..."
So many women with kids don't want to date a man without a car, and many men don't want to date women with kids. Problem solved.

^^ and you rarely hear men nag about driving; yet anywhere in the world when a couple get in the car it's often the man who drives (9 out 10).

I've never been able to pass my test and thus don't have a car, I wouldn't want one anyway as it kind of goes against my beliefs about polluting the planet. Anything I can do to stop pollution and/or waste dumps I'll try my hardest to do.

I'm in several relationships though and I can use public transport, in fact I love public transport far more than cars because I can often move around in them (things like trains, aeroplanes, buses and boats) and thus I feel healthier and less claustrophobic.

If anyone turns me down for not having a car, I'd see that as silly and immature, especially if they have one as I have a perfectly good set of legs and money coming in, so I do not see their problem and they could drive me around as times are becoming more equal in terms of gender equality.

I suppose it really depends on where you live on whether a car is neccesary.

I'm from the Netherlands, and not even from the big "metropolitan" area (Randstad; Amsterdam, The Hague, Rotterdam) but all things considering I can manage fine with public transport. Yes of course, it's harder to get your date home at 3 at night and you probably would have to ditch him/her at the station at 11 in the evening, but I don't know if that's really much of an issue. If it's a practical matter I would hope your date sees the relevance there as well, otherwise I would really wonder if such a date would be right for me if (in my case) she wouldn't even comprehend this.

Besides; looking at the financial aspect, but that is regardless of the dating issue. I'm quite sure if I owned a car I'd spend more on being mobile than I would on public transport now. Some months I don't even leave town, thus my travelling fees are 0. Good luck convincing the companies that you didn't drive and don't want to pay insurance or other taxes (let alone maintenance that's, at least here, mandatory every year.)

That all said; do I know how to drive? Yes. Do I have a license? No. Why don't I have a license? Because of the silliness that's called regulations. I can't drive a car safely among the mass hysteria that's called traffic and peak hours, though driving a car on a track is a different matter...

for what i'm wondering is if a career, a high-paying job or just a job that provides a stable-income, pays significantly above minimum-wage, is required from a guy in order to get a girlfriend, a relationship, even if it is something casual?