Disappointed in women my age :(

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I think you may be generalizing women a bit too much. I'm sure you can meet a woman in her 30s who is fun and spontaneous and not looking to have kids. But if you can't, why not exclusively date women in their 20s? Problem solved. . .

'Travelling companion' to most people means friends with benefits abroad. I want an actual partner, even if they don't want the whole marriage thing (I know marriage is a bit of an unfair deal for men these days, so I don't care so much about a ring and legal document). But I do want the type of relationship that married couples have where you grow old together. I appreciate that might sound old fashioned and stupid to a lot of people now.

>>>Your right there except one thing some guys already have kids and don't want any more so if you don't hate kids that's another option.

Yeah, I tried that with two divorced guys. The kids I had no issue with, but both had crazy ex's that were always hanging around. It felt like a weird threesome relationship a lot of the time. If you have kids with someone then they are never completely out of your life. The only way I would date a man with kids would be if he was widowed or the kids were grown up and moved out (so no mental ex girlfriends/wives to deal with). I really don't like drama!

I recall a college professor that got divorced after 15 or 20 years of marriage--he said that they were "too close" but she moved onto other things. Then, a couple years later he gets married to a 20-something and has half a dozen kids! He was pretty short--perhaps 5' 3" Might have helped that he had tenure.

Date whomever you like, provided they're of legal age. Not sure what feminism has to do with one's dating prospects.

I'm 55, and I don't think I'm boring. I have an interest in traveling the world. The only "luxury" I really want is air-conditioning when the temperature's over 20 Celsius at night.

There's really nothing wrong with a 28-year-old guy dating a woman of, say, 23. I don't think there's any stigma at all. Maybe if the girl is under 20--though that's still legal until she's younger than 18.

Sly: if a 22 year old woman goes for you, take her!

I and probably most folks don't begrudge anyone of legal age the occasional hot 18 or 19 year old (or, hell, 17 yo if that's legal in your state).

A grownup who dates an endless series of interchangeable 17-18-19 year olds? Whole 'nother story.

Anything that you do repeatedly can become boring. This has nothing to do with age. Some people enjoy dancing and loud music through out their whole lives . I know some. I do. However, I must have friends to accompany me. This has become more difficult because I moved away and so did all my friends. Finding friends seems harder as you age and was already hard enough for my aspie self.
I love travel - drove across the States for the third time last year and went to Hawaii earlier this year. I love video games and mmporpg and board games. I hike and bike and just got a puppy. Life does not get boring and anyone that finds any age group boring should best look inward first for the source of the problem.
I adore babies and had three. They are an amazing adventure and were not boring at all to me. It's all about perspective. Many of the OP friends probably just got bored of doing same thing over and over that he continues to do. There is a great depth of feeling and adventure in finding someone with whom you want to share an extended relationship. You discover yourself along the way. I think as you mature your perspective turns from an inward focus to an outward one....if you are lucky.