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10 Oct 2016, 9:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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They are consenting to being asked then. :roll:

Sure, because to ask a girl out you need "consent". :lmao:

"Hi, can I ask you out?"
"Yes"
"Ok, would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me?"
"No"

But you didn't get consent to talk to her first

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11 Oct 2016, 12:04 am

So you need to know already that you have consent before you can ask for it. This rule will only deter considerate would-be suitors and the only ones with a chance will be those who gratuitously assume consent—or just don’t care—and, since they’re assuming consent, they probably won’t bother much to confirm this is the case.

In fact, it isn’t hard to predict a vicious circle, as this probably will, in turn, lead many women to make it even harder for any man to establish any kind of first contact with them.

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11 Oct 2016, 1:33 am

sly279 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Peacesells wrote:

cuddle wrote:

They are consenting to being asked then. :roll:

Sure, because to ask a girl out you need "consent". :lmao:

"Hi, can I ask you out?"
"Yes"
"Ok, would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me?"
"No"

But you didn't get consent to talk to her first

Hmm...this is getting more complicated then.

(Going to the girl's friend)

He: Hi, can I talk to your friend? Can I ask her out?
She: Yes....BUT YOU DIDN'T GET CONSENT TO TALK TO ME!! :evil:

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11 Oct 2016, 2:05 am

Lol.

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11 Oct 2016, 1:15 pm

NorthWind wrote:

Another one ask her to send him nudes after a short conversation and got angry and insulting when she refused to.

That's just... No. Just, no.

Reminds me of the time when one of my classmates in middle school took a picture of me changing in the locker room.

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11 Oct 2016, 1:28 pm

Just close this stupid thread, mods.

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11 Oct 2016, 2:02 pm

the bureaucracy is expanding to meet the needs of the expanding bureaucracy...

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11 Oct 2016, 2:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Hmm...this is getting more complicated then.

(Going to the girl's friend)

He: Hi, can I talk to your friend? Can I ask her out?
She: Yes....BUT YOU DIDN'T GET CONSENT TO TALK TO ME!! :evil:

Therefore, the first member of the friend chain you ask has to be male—or, at the very least, not female :idea:

And this is how you end up defeating the goal of female independence so many feminists fought so dearly for.

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11 Oct 2016, 3:24 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Hmm...this is getting more complicated then.

(Going to the girl's friend)

He: Hi, can I talk to your friend? Can I ask her out?
She: Yes....BUT YOU DIDN'T GET CONSENT TO TALK TO ME!! :evil:

Therefore, the first member of the friend chain you ask has to be male—or, at the very least, not female :idea:

And this is how you end up defeating the goal of female independence so many feminists fought so dearly for.

It is a convenient dependence that allows more independent times though.

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11 Oct 2016, 3:35 pm

It wouldn't work for long if everyone followed the rules, though, which means the rules are meant to be only selectively enforced.

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11 Oct 2016, 3:38 pm

Or we would end up like the dinosaurs.

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11 Oct 2016, 4:14 pm

Saying 'hi' is not harassment. Jeez. It doesn't require consent.

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21 Oct 2016, 7:41 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

....so what is the first thought you get when some guy you have on fb suddenly messages you all of the sudden?

I think "Oh, goody! A message!"

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22 Oct 2016, 4:27 am

Dr.Pepper wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

....so what is the first thought you get when some guy you have on fb suddenly messages you all of the sudden?

I think "Oh, goody! A message!"

Do you rarely receive one?

I am noticing a pattern here....

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22 Oct 2016, 9:45 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Dr.Pepper wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

....so what is the first thought you get when some guy you have on fb suddenly messages you all of the sudden?

I think "Oh, goody! A message!"

Do you rarely receive one?

I am noticing a pattern here....

Yes, I rarely receive one. This is probably because I tend to send friend requests to people I meet IRL, and if we need to communicate, we use email or talk face-to-face.

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22 Oct 2016, 10:25 am

Jono wrote:

I found this article about how to date on Facebook. What do you think of it?:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_600/640_facebook-dating.html

This comment by the author is harsh and is extreme. S/He may have been exaggerating the reaction for entertainment value. Comments like this may lead male readers to believe all women think like this, and may lead female readers to believe reacting to a man in this way (very degrading) is okay:

"Not only did he come across as immature, idiotic and almost brain-dead, but he also successfully turned me off."

The whole mindset of the article, and likely the website, stresses differences instead of finding commonalities between men and women. This separation opens the door to objectification by one gender of another. It promotes a rift between people as opposed to bringing people closer together, which should be the goal when attempting to facilitate one gender's understanding of another for the purpose of relationships.

There were some points I agreed with. Keeping the wall appropriate to the audience and not lying on the profile are probably the best takeaways.

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